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Etiquette for visiting baby in hospital

L L CGL L CG
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How do you handle this?  Our friends asked us to visit and we were glad to have them, but it was just two couples that came by for about 30 minutes.  I'm feeling funny about asking my friends if we can visit (same couple that asked us) because I feel like maybe we should be invited.

Anyway, how do you handle it?

eta: I mean a newborn.  Not a sick baby.

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  • BoxerMommaBoxerMomma

    i loved having visitors at home and in the hospital. BUT i liked the visitors who kept it short, like thirty minutes, the best. i had a good time with people who stayed longer, but once they left, i was kicking myself, wishing that i had taken that opportunity to nap instead of visit for so long. 

    another nice gesture, bride sent us tiff's treats the night she was born. omg, they were fabulous after the hard work of labor.  

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    I appreciated my friends coming by for a quick visit. It got boring sitting in the hospital! Just give a call and ask if you can come meet the baby now or if they'd prefer you wait til they're home. Chances are they're ready to show off the new babe to friends.
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  • mrs.wildmanmrs.wildman member
    I always just ask (via text) if they're ok with visitors at the hospital, or would prefer to wait until they're home. You can also just text your friends and ask her to let you know when she's ready for visitors.
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  • L L CGL L CG
    imageBoxerMomma:


    another nice gesture, bride sent us tiff's treats the night she was born. omg, they were fabulous after the hard work of labor.  

    Damn, that sounds like heaven!

    True story: the food I ordered after giving birth had to be carried in on 2 trays.  They didn't blink an eye that I ate all of it.  I worked hard, damnit!

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  • JayandJackJayandJack member

    I was sent an edible arrangement and I'm pretty sure that I fell in love with that thing more than my husband.

    I might be in the minority but I didn't want visitors. I didn't have a good recovery and had trouble getting the pain under control. None of my friends asked if they could come visit...just what room I was in. That put me off a little but I understand why everybody wanted to come. 

    I did have a friend come by the day we got home and just drop off Johnny Carrinos and leave. They didn't even come in the house. I loved that and plan on doing that with the next friend who delivers. It's nice knowing that first meal was taken care of since I wasn't much of a freezer person.

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  • august8080august8080 member

    I agree with pp's. Just text her and ask if they're feeling up for visitors or if they'd like some time to themselves and a visit at home later.

    I also vote for Tiff's. My boss sent them to me in the hospital after my son was born along with the little milk jugs. Delish. It's now my go-to hospital gift for friends. 

    I didn't want a lot of visitors in the hospital--really wanted to focus on breastfeeding, skin to skin bonding, etc and it's hard to be that naked with random friends' husbands in the room, but a couple of my best friends came and visited and I loved it. I also agree with the 30 minute or so limit. 

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  • SlobinaSlobina
    imageJayandJack:

    I might be in the minority but I didn't want visitors. I didn't have a good recovery and had trouble getting the pain under control. None of my friends asked if they could come visit...just what room I was in. That put me off a little but I understand why everybody wanted to come. 

    I felt the same way - rough recovery, and I didn't want to have any visitors.  We had a couple of friends who wanted to stop by and I just had DH call them and let them know that I wasn't ready yet, and we'd love to see them when we got home.

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    imagemrs.wildman:
    I always just ask (via text) if they're ok with visitors at the hospital, or would prefer to wait until they're home. You can also just text your friends and ask her to let you know when she's ready for visitors.

    I'd do that.  I didn't want visitors at the hospital.  It was the only quiet time I knew we'd have with just us and the baby, so selfishly, I wanted to just be alone with DH and the baby.  I'm guessing most people aren't that way - but I'd text asking them if they want you to visit now or at home, so they have an "out" if they're not wanting guests. 

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  • el_twirpoel_twirpo member
    i wish more people texted to ask if we were ready for visitors and when rather than just showing up! although, our visitors were mostly family - and it was a bit overwhelming with nieces/nephews who are all under 8.
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  • L L CGL L CG

    Thanks everyone.  I texted, they enthusiastically said Yes! and DH and I took Tiff's Treats.  Got a text this morning that the last three of the new daddy's meals have been cookies and coke, so they were appreciated.

    OH, AND, I pat myself on the back for holding an entire box of Tiff's Treats and not taking one bite.   

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