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1st Trimester
***Attention first time mom-to-be's***
Please use your Google function to find information you might be looking for before posting any type of question here, or before looking for any sympathy from any one, about any thing. Apparently it is offensive to those board members who are on their second and third child to post questions that, as a first time mom-to-be, you might have, because they are "stupid". Here is a list of search engines for your convenience:
Now, can someone inform me of the correct usage of the first trimester message board so that none of us insult anyone else by having to read a dumb question?
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Re: ***Attention first time mom-to-be's***
Hmmm...not quite sure how to respond to that.
Wonderful! I hope to get this all cleared up before bed tonight. I would hate to insult anyone else's eyes with a question I might have at any point during the rest of my pregnancy.
<gasping in horror> OH NO! Whatever shall I do?!
**and because i have the sense of humor of a 15 year old boy, your name cracks me up every time I see it.
Just ignore the rudeness. I usually do but today I had enough. And since they take it upon themselves to fight the never-ending battle of stoopid, let them. Because it works so well, right? There are never dumb questions on here, thanks to internet mean girls! Bravo!
I think anyone can come here and post whatever they want. Posts can be ignored.
But I think calling rude out by being rude back is just hypocritical. If you don't like the rude, don't be rude.
Love it
So if someone were to like the rude, they're allowed to be rude because its not hypocritical? Hmmm
I kind of agree with this, but I think there's a difference between being a rude killjoy and just being over said killjoys.
That wasn't in anything you quoted, so that's not what I said. You can't stop someone from being rude TO you. But why be rude back? It just starts some internet back and forth fight that at the end of the day will accomplish nothing. No one will ever actually "win" the battle.
I'm a first time mom, and use google instead of asking the same questions that EVERYONE asks over and over again, but that is just what I do, I'm addicted to google.
IMO this whole post is only drawing attention to yourself, to get rude comments made to you. No matter where you go, there are always going to be people who ask "stupid" questions, there are going to be the people who ignore them completley, the ones who feel the need to be rude and talk down to them, and then you will have the people who answer the questions nicely no matter how "stupid." It is part of life, and now you are on a almost anonymous message board so those people that would ignore you in real life, will give you their honest opinion of what they think about your question.
Well I definitely agree with that.
I'm a second time mom, and I personally don't care if someone doesn't google every question. What's the point of a first trimester board if you can't ask questions of other pregnant chicks?
I understand it can be scary and confusing to be a first time mom. I was there.
At the same time, I do not think it is rude or ridiculous to expect a future parent to read a book or use his/her resources. There will be lots and lots of questions that come up and no, a book and/or google cannot answer. There will be lots and lots and LOTs of questions that a book and/or google CAN answer.
Being educated will be a huge part of your birthing and parenting experience. So while I can understand the feeling and concerns you are having now, I can also understand what these second and third time moms are saying.
THIS.
I will admit it was rude to say that someone's child and current pregnancy were possibly made up, and I apologize for saying that. I just cannot understand people who are consistantly rude all of the time and I got snarky.
Hmmmm so if someone asks a question before they got to that chapter in their parenting book, or google answers were all over the place, then ppl can internet bully them?
Eleanor Gwendolyn
IMO...yall need to eat a sandwich
and read this:
https://www.geekologie.com/image.php?path=/2011/08/08/mad-on-the-internet-full.jpg
::Insert funny google image picture::
::insert snarky disguised as humorous remark::
puhleeeze can get get more orginal here?
I can now see why you have concerns about reading...
WHAT!!! I thought we are not allowed to eat sandwiches?!!! Darn, now I need to go waste my dr's time and get a blood test to make sure I'm still KU!
aaaaaand that was rude. and a reach.
HAHA!!
You could mispell and mistype....oh wait.
I'm gonna go ahead and say that I don't really post a lot of questions because the questions I do have are pretty much asked here on a daily basis and I'm a highly educated adult who uses google, as well as my books, to answer my questions. I also believe that just because janedoe's dr over there said that whatever she had going on was fine and normal does not mean it's fine and normal for me, and I'm not going to trust some stranger from godknowswhere to tell me that because we have the same symptoms everythings fine. Sorry. I was taught a long time ago to be weary of information found on the internet--my health and my baby's health is not going to change that.
Frankly, I just got tired of seeing people getting jumped on for asking a question. Not everyone has the common sense to read through a couple pages to find that their question has been asked 100 times already, and some people feel that THEIR issue MUST be different somehow. It's a fact that these boards will have the same questions over and over, day after day, because it's a new crop of women every day. If you want the questions to stop, go live on your birth month board, not a board that is meant for every woman in the first months of her pregnancy.
You know, I'm glad the experts on here are bored enough to grace us with their presence and forgo ignoring posts they deem stupid. I'm learning so much from them (what that is exactly, I'm not sure, but I'll get back you). I'm happy for the kill joys and snarky women who can find some satisfaction in life by remaining anonymous whilst demeaning and arguing on a board that is definitely not the forum for that.
I think a lot of the things said on these boards by certain members are hands down rude and vulgar and done to make themselves feel way less insecure about their sad lives. No matter how you feel about a question, there is no excuse for being a bully and making first time moms feel like idiots.
You can flame with puppies and rainbows comments now.
wait, what happened to your touchy-feely feminine protection commercial we are all in this together post? Remember "I was a first time mom, I've been there." I could spell check. If I cared.
waaait a second, you really think I was spelling please like that on accident? bahahahahahahahaaa!
Well I apologize. I was simply pointing out that you apparently read my post and then quoted it with a summary stated as a question that had nothing to do with the spirit or context of my post.
For example: Hansel and Gretel ...closed with fatigue, and they fell fast asleep. When at last they awoke, it was already dark night. Gretel began to cry and said: "How are we to get out of the forest now?" But Hansel comforted her and said: "Just wait a little, until the moon has risen, and then we will soon find the way." And when the full moon had risen, Hansel took his little sister by the hand, and followed the pebbles which shone like newly-coined silver pieces, and showed them the way.
Your attempt at a witty summary answer: So Hansel and Gretel were lazy and horrible children who liked to throw rocks and disobey their parents?
Woulda seemed that way, huh, Beth? Hence why I have requested rules, so that no one makes the same mistakes again.
Why haven't we made out before?
Here's what I was referring to:
At the same time, I do not think it is rude or ridiculous to expect a future parent to read a book or use his/her resources. There will be lots and lots of questions that come up and no, a book and/or google cannot answer. There will be lots and lots and LOTs of questions that a book and/or google CAN answer.
So I responded with asking that if it is ok for a future parent -who has the books and google skills- to be internet bullied if they ask a question that they haven't yet reached in their reading? Or perhaps Google wasn't helpful? Maybe you are the one who has a wee bit of trouble reading.