I am shocked and appalled with folks. Long.

MDmama519 · October 2011

Let me give you a bit of background first: DH works 2 hours away. He commutes from Ft. Belvoir, VA and back up to where we live in Maryland. He leaves at 5:00 in the morning and doesn't get home until 8:00 or later at night. It's a huge strain on him - on us. We've talked about moving down to VA but, we've gotten so settled in MD, we don't want to move again. Plus, his job pays him to commute.

Anyway, we have a couple that we like to hang out with, they have 2 kids and another on the way. They live 5 minutes away and they work with the same company, just at a different (closer) Army base.

I've had a headache for 5 days, which turned into a migraine yesterday. Paired with the usual severe vomiting and abdominal discomfort from Miralax. DH needed to go pick up a company truck from the airport and bring it back to our house, we live 15 minutes away from the airport. DH didn't want me to drive so he called our friends and asked if the husband could ride with him and drive his car back. The guy said sure and DH was out the door within 10 minutes of just getting home.

I wake up to find this on facebook this morning, written by the wife.

"So much for spending some time with my husband. Some people I freaking swear, I will not miss them when we move!!!! AHHH"

Written at the same time that DH went to pick up her husband for the quick errand.

I am so upset that she wrote this. We have done so many things for them including letting our their dog when they are out of town, babysitting their kids multiple times with the favor being returned only once, giving them clothes that DS has outgrown, letting them borrow our stuff..you name it. I thought we were all really good friends.

And spending time with her husband!? He is Union so he gets home at 4:00 every. single. day. My husband works til God knows when, constantly goes out of town and, is always asked to help out other people.

I'm just really disappointed. I thought we were better friends than that.

katieluke1983 · October 2011

Ugh I hate that kind of disappointment that is the WORST. Im so sorry!!

Mjmksb04 · October 2011

She sucks. I would be tempted to respond something like "Thanks?"

gisa886 · October 2011

That is very rude and disappointing. He didn't have to say yes and it wasn't like YH asked him to go somewhere hours away. I'm sorry that happened.

JSweetieXO · October 2011

O-M-G! I would seriously end up writing a comment on that status.

LDW80 · October 2011

Mjmksb04:
She sucks. I would be tempted to respond something like "Thanks?"

yeah, I would have commented back with "thanks" as well. See how she reacts after that comment. I'm sorry!

MDmama519 · October 2011

I really had to sit on my hands, y'all. I wanted to respond in the thread but, I privately messaged her. She said she was pissed and her husband and mine but, for me to not take it personally.

He's my husband, how can I not take it personally?

My husband didn't take hers to a bar or a strip club. They freaking went to pick up a company truck.

ADub09 · October 2011

that is disappointing.

rc1276 · October 2011

That really sucks. At least you know her true colors now.

jkfranklin · October 2011

I'm one for giving people the benefit of the doubt. Are you 100% sure that status was about you? You said that you aren't planning on moving so that makes me think it may not be about you. I would message her and ask her directly if she was talking about her husband being gone for an hour one night.

Sorry didn't see your update:

MDmama519:
I really had to sit on my hands, y'all. I wanted to respond in the thread but, I privately messaged her. She said she was pissed and her husband and mine but, for me to not take it personally.
He's my husband, how can I not take it personally?
My husband didn't take hers to a bar or a strip club. They freaking went to pick up a company truck.

JSweetieXO · October 2011

Flashy:

WOW. My feelings would be hurt. And if it was that big of a deal, her husband could have said NO. You should make your FB status "UGHHH some people complain about everything, I can't wait till they move!"

Thats kinda mean....and maybe you shouldnt really do that, but it would be funny.

LOL good one.

MDmama519 · October 2011

jkfranklin:
I'm one for giving people the benefit of the doubt. Are you 100% sure that status was about you? You said that you aren't planning on moving so that makes me think it may not be about you. I would message her and ask her directly if she was talking about her husband being gone for an hour one night.

When I sent her a PM, she said yes it was about us. Then went on this whole spill about how she's pissed at my husband.

Laouli · October 2011

I would have responded.. "Oh No, Did something happen after he helped DH get the car from the airport?"

pensparade · October 2011

WOW.

That would p!ss me off sooo bad

Laouli · October 2011

MDmama519:

When I sent her a PM, she said yes it was about us. Then went on this whole spill about how she's pissed at my husband.

WOW.. what did DH say? and EFF HER! :P

sweetdreams2000 · October 2011

That would move them out of the friends category for me. What are friends for if they aren't there to help you in good times and bad?

And you're right - I would have taken it personally too if someone posted on facebook about my husband - and said she wouldnt miss us when she moved!" how rude!

MDmama519 · October 2011

I just got off the phone with him. I filled him in. DH is way more blunt than I am and he said next time he is over there, he is going to flat out ask if she wants us over there or not. I think he'd usually tell me to suck it up when it comes to drama with a friend but, he's bothered by it too.

katieh1017 · October 2011

rc1276:
That really sucks. At least you know her true colors now.

This... And another reason why we don't have FB.

DiamondDani · October 2011

Wow. I can't believe how rude that was! I agree with a PP who said they would no longer be considered friends of mine. I'm sorry. Sad

JSweetieXO · October 2011

You should tell her good riddance.

babtwh34 · October 2011

I agree, I would just write a simple "Thanks!!???" under her FB post. That should be enough to make her feel dumb.

Sometimes more is less! Then if she sends you a message, just don't respond. If she is a true friend and just having a bad day, she would phone call you and say she was sorry.

Bees Everywhere · October 2011

That is SO rude- she obviously knew you could see it but didn't have the guts to call you or to just, you know, get over it. That's so slimy. I think you did the right thing asking her directly and privately and I agree with your DH asking her directly. I think it's better to clear it out than to do sneaky things back and forth like facebook statuses. That's SO immature. Yeah unless she apologized and and had a good reason for saying that I'd probably not think of her as a friend anymore.

dojo1 · October 2011

That was a mean thing for her to do, but at the end of the day her husband did yours a favour when to most people driving 15 minutes, even when you're so pregnant you're ready to burst, isn't such a big deal. I mean, if you wanted to go the grocery store without your husband, would you have driven 15 minutes by yourself? Probably.

What she did was totally rotten and uncalled for, but you can hardly complain back at her when a favour was done for you.

JFH2010 · October 2011

Agreed with pps, they'd be off the friends list for sure. Not only is her opinion unreasonable, but the way she chose to express it was totally disrespectful and counterproductive. A good friendship deserves better! Sorry you had to deal with that!

Lelo3 · October 2011

Guess I should read all comments before I post, I was going to say maybe it wasn't about you and give her the chance to explain but I see you did do that and you were right so yes I'd be offended as well. So sorry not something you should have to deal with right now, at least now you know the friends they are to your or aren't better to know now right before you invested more time into them

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jbgrigri · October 2011

I think you handled it the right way, I would have been tempted to respond "Can't wait til you move either! xoxo"

jesbeth · October 2011

What a rude b!tch! I'd end the friendship with her. I don't care how upset you are, you don't take to FB to mouth off like that. DH's cousin learned really quick that I don't play games like that. She was disinvited to our wedding and I blocked her. I don't need the drama, thank you!

shouldbworkin · October 2011

Whatanass! MH is very friendly and loves to help people out, sometimes to our disadvantage. But, it is our problem and I would never begrudge someone else for his willingness to lend a hand. that is just awful!

foxxy1 · October 2011

That is not even cool, especially after everything you have done for them. The very least she could've done was call and tell you how annoyed she was instead of doing it passive-aggressively via FB. That's some teenage melodrama right there.

SoonToBeMrsDTS · October 2011

I absolutely cannot stand it when people feel the need to broadcast stuff like this on facebook. She needs to grow the eff up. I would be deleting her now if I were you, she doesn't sound like any kind of friend you need!

NayNaysPlayPen · October 2011

MY PET PEEVE!

I will never understand why people put posts on facebook that include words like "some people..." and dont just say their name, when its quite obvious who they are talking about. Do they think this makes it more polite?

Its SO rude! Why are people so brave on FB and write things that can be hurtful? It makes THEM look rude, selfish and like a mean friend.

Not to mention the fact that you or your hubby didnt deserve the words she wrote. So sorry, so frusterating.

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