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May 2012 Moms
MelissaFSU
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1st mom fail?
MelissaFSU
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Aside from the fact that I don't think this pregnancy has sunk it yet I feel like I'm too tired and sick feeling to be excited. We planned and wanted this pregnancy and I am thankful I'm pregnant and I'm so glad everything is going well so far, but has anyone else felt like this? Or maybe this is my first mom fail 
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Re: 1st mom fail?
40 weeks is a really long time to maintain excitement, especially when you feel sick or tired. It's not a fail, it's human.
I'm very detached from this pregnancy, and I'm ok with that. My history makes it difficult for me to get excited or be hopeful or be head over heels in love with the baby. I don't even think of baby - I think strictly in terms of pregnancy. It's how I'm able to cope with it.
Nothing wrong with that. Failing at pregnancy is doing yourself harm, knowingly imbibing substances that are proven dangerous and harmful (by which I mean, say, crack - not lunchmeat), not seeking appropriate prenatal care.
It is not about being unable to maintain a particular emotion throughout all 40 weeks.
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Trust me your not the only one. I often get accused of not being excited. I am sorry I work a full time job where I really can't tell them i am PG just yet. So I have to be on top of my game 8 hrs of the day. By the time I get home I am so exhuasted cooking dinner is a task. My laundry has been folded on my dresser for 3 days because I just don't have the will or the energy to put it away. Its not easy hiding nausea from a bunch of people all day long. I think it is completly undertandable how you feel.
I still feel like the whole thing is unreal, which leads to feelings of "meh". My husband is beyond excited, my parents are over the moon, and a lot of times I catch myself being a bit more reserved or un-excited if you will.
I think being pregnant (especially for the first time) is something no one really "knows" how to do and we are just going to have to adjust, which takes some time! Give yourself a break, I know I have given myself one!
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You aren't alone. Between being worried about another loss, feeling so sick and tired ALL the time, and not having told many people, this pregnancy does not feel real or exciting yet. I'm hoping once I start to feel a bit better and more people know the excitement will settle in.
Truthfully, I'm still in that Terrified/Holy sh!t this is real and I'm going to be a mom in 31-33 weeks stage.
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This. You aren't alone. I haven't exactly been doing cartwheels or having butterflies either. I have moments of excitement but I don;t know it's still in that is this real...holy crap I have so much to do ...how will I do it all phase.
I'm so relieved to hear I'm not the only one. This wasn't unexpected or unplanned, but it happened faster than we were anticipating. I think that most of the time both my husband and I just feel in shock. And it's hard when you're not telling anyone yet, because you spend most of your time trying to pretend you're not pregnant. Also, aside from the worries about the pregnancy and baby, there is also a lot of anxiety about how HUGE of a change/transition this is going to be. I know my life is never going to be the same again, but I won't be entirely sure how until the baby actually gets here.
I feel so blessed and lucky to be pregnant, but I think it's natural to feel overwhelmed - physically and emotionally!
This exactly. You dont have to be 100000% thrilled every moment of every single day. That is not what constitutes being "successful" at pregnancy or motherhood.