Did anyone disagree with their SO about circumcision?

AshBow171 · September 2011

How did it work out? Did you end up circumcising or not?

My DH and I just got into an argument about this and we don't even have a son! Without getting into details (I am against it and he is for it). I am curious how other couples who disagreed on this topic handled it when their sons were born.

I am not trying to start an debate I just want to know if you and your SO disagree but did it anyway, disagree and did not do it, or if you both ended up agreeing one way or the other.

kacelle · September 2011

We had a daughter so it was a non-issue, but we did get into a big debate about it when I was pregnant. I was actually taking a human sexuality class in which we discussed circumcision at length and started talking to DH about it. He is circumcised and had always assumed any sons would be (in our area, it's uncommon not to circumcise). After discussing it at length and researching both sides, we've decided not to circumcise future children.

Honestly, I've heard very few persuasive arguments for circumcising. There's a lot of misinformation out there about the medical outcomes of circumcising or not circumcising. If you're really uncomfortable with it, research both sides of the argument and present them factually. DH and I weren't able to produce a good reason for circumcising future sons, so we won't be.

alliejoe · September 2011

I was against it, he was for it (originally).

I asked him why and he didn't really have a good reason. He's an engineer so he started researching expecting to find lots of sources supporting him. The WHO/CDC/etc. don't have a formal stance and the more he looked into it he really couldn't find a scientific/researched reason why and we ended up not circumcising.

Jram85 · September 2011

I was against it because I saw no real reason to do it. Dh is circ'd and he wanted ds to be too. He agreed that his reasons were purely cosmetic, and he said I had the ultimate choice.We never argued about it, just discussed the pros and cons. We are both happy that we did not circ ds.

ETA: fix spelling and weird format from nook

Athena0809 · September 2011

DH is circumcised, in my culture we don't typically circumcised, however I wanted DS to be circumcised. DH said he would prefer DS to be but that it would ultimately be my decision. DS is circumcised, and I'm happy with my decision.

TMILLER45 · September 2011

We have a DD but we also discussed this topic. My husbands family is straight off the boat from Sicily...in my opinion it is a very European thing to not circumcise, therefore hubby is not! I don't think we would circumcise if we had a boy.

But my bff's baby boy was not circumcised and he kept getting UTIs. So now at 8 months he just had his circumcision surgery this past week....I almost feel like thats worse! Poor baby keeps grabbing at his junk because he's uncomfortable.

kewltif · September 2011

We had a girl but we did discuss this. DH is from Poland and not circumcised. He feels VERY strongly against it. I had always assumed I'd circumsise my sons because it seemed like the typical thing to do and I really never gaveit an ounce of thought. DH has presented some good reasons against it and so I have agreed that if we have a song we won't be circumcising.

mrbear83 · September 2011

Steph&Harry08:
DH is circumcised, and I wanted DS to be circumcised. DH said he would prefer DS to be but that it would ultimately be my decision. DS is circumcised, and I'm happy with my decision.

ditto.

KadensMama · September 2011

DH is circumcised and both of our sons are as well. It really never was a topic for big discussion in our home. I'm very happy that we decided to circ. both boys.

melgrady · September 2011

We were team green so we did discuss it and I know that originally DH wanted to circ, which I was very against if we had a boy. After seeing photos of circumcised boys and learning about the healing process in our birth class and a little discussion afterward he agreed with me that we would not circ. I hope that he will keep this stance if our second child is a boy.

AZ123 · September 2011

One of us wanted it, the other didn't know. So we did research. We met with two different doctors to get their opinions, we talked to uncircumcised friends, we did online research on percentage of circumcism based on location and ultimately concluded to circumcise and we're happy with that.

AshBow171 · September 2011

Thanks for your responses! DH is very opinionated about the topic and at this point is refusing to even consider not circumcising. I hope that if we ever have a son he at least considers all the options and the pros/cons of each. I feel that we should make our decision based on informed choices and our potential future son's best interest not just personal preference.

Who knows, we may never even have a son and this could all be for naught. LOL

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