Ok do tell how many really waited?

aadewitt · September 2011

Ok I am doing some reading how how long to wait to TTC again ( I am not still waiting for 1st AF after m/c 7 weeks ago...)

But it seems to be all across the board just depending on who the Dr is. So how many of you ladies really listened to your Dr and waited the exact amount they said?

How many had a few Ooops before the AOK? (like it got hot and heavy one night and you forgot projection)- were you nervous? scared?

4legsRbest · September 2011

I did exactly what the dr said! Never thought twice about not doing so.

LaTi07 · September 2011

You are correct, the amount of time before TTCAL is going to be different for each person. I don't always think it's so much about the doctor though, I think it's more about the patient. The doctor is going to take into account your individual circumstances (how far along you were, pre-existing conditions, etc.)

I get the desire to TTCAL right away and go against doc's orders (on cycle #6 of doc ordered hold myself), but it's never a good thing to go against their orders. If you are questioning it, call them up and ask. To me, it's not worth the risks. Should I go against her orders and get pg only to have another m/c, I couldn't live with the "what if's."

henderson1026 · September 2011

I was told I only needed to wait to have my period again. Hopefully she shows up real soon. Also, I wouldn't have wanted to get pregnant before AF, I just feel my ute needs to clean itself first.

katmacwv · September 2011

My doc told me to wait until AF came before TTC, and I did that. Thankfully AF came just shy of 5 weeks after my D&C. The 2WW seems to be driving me more crazy than the waiting to TTC though.

Missa_g · September 2011

I did exactly what my doctor told me. If you don't agree with your doctor you should always ask THEM questions about the reasoning. Google and Internet strangers are never the place to get medical advice. Never.

dfduke1221 · September 2011

My Dr. gave us the go ahead after my 1st AF to TTC again. I listened 100% to her orders. She is the one who went to school for this and is the professional. I wouldn't go against it, but that's just me. I'd rather listen to the experts and play on the side of safe.

I know everyone's stories are different as far as their losses go, so some Dr.'s will tell people different time frames, depending on their seperate situations.

If my Dr. told me to wait and I had an "Oooops before the AOK." - Hell yeah I'd be nervous! There's a reason your Dr. told you to wait...

Good luck and FX for you if this is your situation and you're not talking "hypothetically" just out of curiosity.

BzeetyD · September 2011

Missa_g:
I did exactly what my doctor told me. If you don't agree with your doctor you should always ask THEM questions about the reasoning. Google and Internet strangers are never the place to get medical advice. Never.

This.

100%

ChristinaCT · September 2011

I followed my doctors orders to a T. I would never think of not doing so. I don't understand "oops" situations. If I got pregnant again & lost that baby because I didn't follow instructions I would blame myself 100%

erinntx · September 2011

After my 1st m/c (D&C...missed m/c @ 12 wks, 6 wks growth) - I was told to wait 2 cycles & had full intent to do so. At that time I was not in tune with my body & ovulation at all. I thought I was past ovulation (on my 2nd cycle) but I wasn't & I ended up getting pregnant. I was very very nervous & had many odd symptoms. On top of that, my OB at that time hadn't monitored my HCG down to zero so it was nerve racking. I wouldn't recommend it.

My 2nd m/c was early enough my OB said I didn't have to wait to try.

My 3rd m/c my OB said to wait 1 cycle. My hcg took a full 4 wks to zero out so that ended up being the cycle.

All that being said, I would wait the # of cycles your dr suggests and if you're unsure I would question him/her about it to get specifics about why, etc. Also, I would be sure that your hcg is down to zero before considering.

HTH & good luck!

tdmd09 · September 2011

I've had two miscarriages and both times my doctor told me to wait for my period, so that's what I did. I agree with the other ladies that if you have concerns about how long your doctor advised you to wait that you contact them and discuss your concerns and see what they say.

LottaLattes · September 2011

Honestly, I've never had an oops, and unless you were totally trashed I'd have a hard time believing it was truly that. I don't mean that in a mean way, but seriously, you know what you're doing so I have a hard time justifying it that way.

With that said, I agree with the PPs that you need to talk to your doctor and find out why they want you to wait. And if you don't want/like their opinion, maybe get a new doctor, but I wouldn't just do it on your own advice. Good luck and be safe!

emeraudecephiro · September 2011

LaTi07:
You are correct, the amount of time before TTCAL is going to be different for each person. I don't always think it's so much about the doctor though, I think it's more about the patient. The doctor is going to take into account your individual circumstances (how far along you were, pre-existing conditions, etc.)

I get the desire to TTCAL right away and go against doc's orders (on cycle #6 of doc ordered hold myself), but it's never a good thing to go against their orders. If you are questioning it, call them up and ask. To me, it's not worth the risks. Should I go against her orders and get pg only to have another m/c, I couldn't live with the "what if's."

I totally agree with this.

chelseabrim · September 2011

I was in my 8th month of pregnancy so a bit farther along, my Dr. said to wait 2 normal cycles to TTC, and we're planning on doing just that! You want your uterus to heal, to return to normal size, and thicken up a bit, and if it means a successful pregnancy? I'll wait! We're even considering waiting a third cycle, just to be safe. Listen to your Dr! We can only give you OUR specific individual circumstances. Nothing is a replacement for a professionals advice!

Trish11278 · September 2011

My RE told me that if we have a natural m/c, we can start up with the next IUI right away. If they have to do a procedure then we will have to wait 3 months for the next IUI. I am just hoping it comes naturally.

BabyTrippin · September 2011

By all means, if you don't feel like your doctor is smart enough to give sound medical advice, FWP whenever you want. There are valid reasons for waiting, not the least of which is so you can work through the grief of losing a child. I'll just say that, here, waiting is the norm. Doing what we can to be as healthy a host to a child is what we do. YMMV.

GATORSnBRONCOSgoTEBOW · September 2011

I agree with a previous poster....it's not just about the dr, it is also about the individual patient.

I was told we could try to catch the first egg and didn't need to wait for AF. In our case we have at most 2 cycles left to TTC before DH has no sperm left since he had a vasectomy 3 days before my m/c. We were told that there is more risk of a repeat m/c involved in not waiting a few cycles before trying again but in our case we don't have a few cycles so to us it's a risk worth taking.

If I had all the time in the world left to TTC my midwife would like to see me wait 2-3 months and I would follow her recommendation. She knows way more than I do and I trust her....plus who really wants to risk having back to back m/c if they don't have to.

js297206 · September 2011

I followed my Drs instructions. The way I looked at it is if I ignored the Dr and had another m/c I would blame myself for not listening. g/l to you.

aadewitt · September 2011

Thank you for your answers- I was just asking cus it seems odd to me the various answers (I totally get the depends on how far along you are...)yet when I talked to a nurse who goes to my church about it, she said she tells nearly everyone just 1 cycle (I was told by my own DR 2).

marieinmonaco · October 2011

I absolutely listened to my OB. True people are told diff. things but everyone's situation is so different. We were cleared at 2 cycles but it really varies by person and only your dr. truly knows what is best in your situation. I would follow your dr's instructions vs. the nurse at your church. Your dr. knows your medical hx.

GatorBaby2012 · October 2011

My situation was one where my Dr changed her mind. Originally, I was told to hold off until my thyroid was back to normal. That only took 3 weeks. Then my OB's nurse said that typically my OB instructs patients to wait two cycles to allow for healing (whatever that means, emotional? physical?). At my follow up appt with my OB at around 4 1/2 weeks after m/c, my OB gave us the green light to TTC because my first AF started right on time and I guess I seemed emotionally able to handle it. Like a PP said, if you called your dr to talk more about it, you might get a revised answer.

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