NBR - Wedding Presents

rubyjem00 · September 2011

Next weekend, two very dear friends of ours are getting married. The groom is actually the person who introduced me to my DH and he was BM . They have stressed that they didn't want any gifts - they aren't registering, didn't have a shower or Bachelor/ette parties. I feel like we shouldn't let this occasion go unnoticed, meaning that I feel like we should give them something but they have stressed the no gifts part quite a bit.

So, do we get them something and if so, what? Or do we listen to their wishes and not get them a gift? They are both very socially conscience people so we could make a donation to a charity in their honor but I know some people think that isn't appropriate. Any thoughts?

chankins14 · September 2011

I would get them a gift card to a nice restaurant.

EveryNameIWantIsTaken · September 2011

chankins14:
I would get them a gift card to a nice restaurant.

Yeah, I too was thinking something along those lines. You want to recognize the happy occasion, and a night out is always welcomed in my opinion.

SaraTF · September 2011

I would probably get them something. Maybe season passes to a local museum or park? I like the charity idea as well. Something that can be slipped into the card would be my preference, so that people who don't bring gifts aren't uncomfortable.

sagoon · September 2011

Cash is always appreciated.

kylayton · September 2011

EveryNameIWantIsTaken:
chankins14:
I would get them a gift card to a nice restaurant.
Yeah, I too was thinking something along those lines. You want to recognize the happy occasion, and a night out is always welcomed in my opinion.

Yes a gift card for a date night is totally appropriate.

Future R. Murray!! · September 2011

I think the idea of making a donation to a charity that is important to them is a really nice gift and thought.

I kinda feel like if they are really stressing the no gifts thing then they do not want/need/ feel right receiving things for themselves.

indomesticbliss · September 2011

I agree with a g/c to dinner or to a grocer who does a lot of local sourcing. Maybe there's a place to eat around them that does mostly local and sustainable foods?

Charity is also a great option-I can't remember the charity, but there's one where you can "buy" a goat for a village, or a pig....just a thought...

Maggie-Moo · September 2011

I agree that a donation to a charity they support sounds great, or a night out, but would lean towards charity if you think the reason they don't want gifts is because they feel they have enough themselves. I would absolutely say no to cash since it is the worst of both sides: giving them a gift they have asked not to receive and having no sentimental value or meaning.

KeyLime81 · September 2011

indomesticbliss:
I agree with a g/c to dinner or to a grocer who does a lot of local sourcing. Maybe there's a place to eat around them that does mostly local and sustainable foods?

Charity is also a great option-I can't remember the charity, but there's one where you can "buy" a goat for a village, or a pig....just a thought...

I was going to suggest this! For Christmas my BIL and SIL did that for my MIL and FIL...you can also sort of "match" up likes and interests...my FIL likes to fish, so they found a charity that would let them buy/give a fishing net and small row boat to someone.

mintyblue02 · September 2011

Where I'm from everyone gives strictly cash/checks as gifts for weddings. Even if I was told not to, I would still give a monetary gift. If they don't want to deposit the check that is up to them.

If you don't want to give money, then maybe a wine-of-the-month club or something like that. Or you could to do the charity thing. I think that is nice.

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