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They're giving him weeks, maybe a month or two.

Ladies, I was not prepared for that short of a time frame.  I was prepared for him to die...at least I had thought it over...I wouldn't say "ready".  I'm at work, of course, when I get this news.  So I'm a hot mess. 

I'm struggling with how to balance grief and stress and yet stay calm and at ease for this bambino, who Davez and I have nicknamed Phoenix because she rose outta the ashes when I needed her to.

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  • Oh my . . . there are no words to express how sorry I am. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Can you just take the rest of the day off? You shouldn't have to work after getting that news.
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  • (((huge hugs))) i'm so sorry sweetie.
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  • oh no..that must be so difficult..who could ever be prepared for such a thing... I agree that you should take the day off..if you can...

    (((hugs)))

  • Emi, I am completely choked up at this news..."I'm sorry" doesn't begin to touch how I feel for you.  I think Phoenix is a most appropriate nickname for this sweet new life you've created.  Sending hugs to you and your family.
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  • We are here for you. I agree with SeaSoul, sorry doesn't seem right. I will be thinking of you and your family.

    Take care of yourself.

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  • Oh my goodness... I am so, so sorry.  I know that feeling... I remember it very clearly when I found out the same thing about my dad a few years ago.  Huge, huge (((HUGS))).  My heart goes out to you and I am sending a ton of prayers to you and your family. 
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  • Oh my gosh, I am so, so sorry.  Many ((hugs)) and prayers to your dad, you, and the rest of your family.  If you can, you should take off today.  You shouldn't be at work dealing with this news.
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  • I'm so so sorry. 
  • I am so very sorry.  I can't imagine getting this news and I hope you can go home soon and be with your family.  I'm just so sorry. 
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  • That is so sad and my heart goes out to you.

    I faced a similar situation with my Dad and the only thing I can say that may offer some light is that you have something right now (that a lot of people don't get) and tha't the chance to make the most of the time you have left with your Dad.  Try to view this time as a gift.    

    I am so sad for you.  Huge hugs.  

  • Hugs to you and your family. I'm so sorry. 
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  • Oh hon... I am so, so very sorry.   Huge hugs, many thoughts, and prayers coming to you and your family.    My heart already tells me there is a strong connection between him and your baby, and there always will be.   Take very, very good care of yourself, and keep us updated.    (((HUGS)))
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    Emi, I am completely choked up at this news..."I'm sorry" doesn't begin to touch how I feel for you.  I think Phoenix is a most appropriate nickname for this sweet new life you've created.  Sending hugs to you and your family.
    Seasoul said it best...lots of hugs.
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  • I am so, so sorry to hear that. It's news that no one should ever need to hear. ((hugs))
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  • Oh hunny gal....this is devistating news obviously. For now, just try to take care of yourself, know that you're doing the very best you can do today and spend as much time with your dad as you possibly can.

    I also highly recommend seeking out a counselor who specializes with death and dying. While you're getting some "warning", sometimes that's harder for the mind and soul to process than a shocking instant death.

    HUGS!
  • I am so, so sorry.  I agree with Seasoul, it doesn't seem to be enough, but we're here for you.

    What an appropriate name for your baby in your belly.  I will be thinking and praying for your family. 

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  • Oh no.  No matter how prepared you may be, that is tough news.  I'm so sorry.
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  • Em, I am so sorry.  I don't think we can ever really be prepared for something like this.  Just devastating.  Praying for you, your dad, and your little fighter.
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  • My heart goes out to you and your family too, along with many positive thoughts for your little Phoenix.
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  • Oh my goodness, I am heartbroken for you.  I am so, so sorry.  We are here for you always.  (((HUGS)))
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  • I'm so very sorry emi.  ((HUGS))
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  • I think you should take some time off work.  Not just today.  Do you have any personal time you could take? 

    I am so devastated for you.  I am here for you Em.  I have been there and I know how much it hurts.

    Hugs.

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    Emi, I am completely choked up at this news..."I'm sorry" doesn't begin to touch how I feel for you.  I think Phoenix is a most appropriate nickname for this sweet new life you've created.  Sending hugs to you and your family.
    Seasoul said it best...lots of hugs.

    Agreed.  Very sorry Emi.

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  • I'm very sorry for that news, I understand it must be devastating. PRaying for the little bambino to stick around....
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  • My heart absolutely breaks for you.  I am so so very sorry.
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  • "I'm sorry" doesn't even come close.

    There are no words.

    Please know that we're all here for you as you process all of this.

    ((((HUGS))) 

     

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  • Oh no!  I'm so, so sorry to hear this.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

                                  

      
                                   
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  • I'm so, so sorry.  What heartbreaking news.
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  • I'm so sorry. I can't imagine being in that position.
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  • sending you lots of (((HUGS))).
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  • Oh Em. I'm so very sorry to hear this. I'm praying for you and your dad.
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  • I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I'm sure this is such a difficult time. (hugs)

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  • Oh my God, I'm so sorry.  What I will say, having gone through something similar recently is that having an idea of how long you have, even if it is way too short is a good thing.  I kept being told he could have 3-5 years (I knew they were wrong but figured we probably had 6-9 months, not 2).  Had I had a better estimate, I would have taken a full leave of absence and spent more time with him and less time worrying about balancing his needs and work.  Anyway you can take some good quality time off and make his last weeks a time to celebrate him while he is still here?

    I am so very sorry you got this news.  It is heartbreaking to see a parent suffer and know they will not be here.  I will keep you all in my prayers for strength and peace.  And rock on Phoenix, we are all counting on you!!

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  • Im so very sorry to hear this.  I cant imagine everything you must be feeling.  Ill pray for you and your family and for baby Phoenix!
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  • I am so sorry, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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