Adoption?

littlewifey · September 2011

Have you and your spouse talked about the option if TTC goes well over a year?

Katie829 · September 2011

If it comes to it, we will try IUI and IVF before adoption. To be honest, DH doesn't think he will love an adopted child as much as his own. Obviously we don't know yet. For now adoption is not for us.

KNemo · September 2011

We talked about it before we started TTC. My H is adopted and we'd like to adopt at some point, regardless of our TTC journey.

Switzerland87 · September 2011

We will absolutely adopt if we can't conceive on our own. DH's mom is adopted, and I have several adopted family members, so we're both very open to it.

celestialnyte · September 2011

DH and I spoke about adoption well before we even were engaged. He knows its something that if we are able to do financially I would like to do so. I'm a social worker and have always wanted to adopt 5 children from various countries (and yes, I know how much of a financial stretch that is even if it were 5 biological!) So regardless of our TTC journey, I think it's something that we'll discuss later. DH would like biological children first, so that we are able to ensure that we could support them financially first. I've never been on BC and once we have the biological children that we want, then I may start BC so that we don't have any happy accidents while attempting to adopt. (It's late so I'm not sure that made as much sense as I'd like it to!)

brookelynpaisley · September 2011

There's most likely no way we could afford it, and it just doesn't speak to us, quite frankly. I think it's a wonderful thing for the people who feel called to do it, but we don't.

Bonnini · September 2011

Its something we aren't going to consider until Im 35 or older and we hadn't conceived. I know DH isn't for it for it until we've exercised every option.

curlylocks3 · September 2011

Neither of us is opposed to it. We've talked about adoption as well as fertility treatments and we're both on the same page about what we'd be open to doing.

lanejam · September 2011

It's definitely something we would be willing to consider if we're unable to have children of our own.

Ramby · September 2011

DH was very against it while I have always wanted to adopt a child. Something my family doesn't talk about very openly is that my father and his sisters were all adopted because my grandmother couldn't have children.

Once DH found out about my dad, he has been very open to the idea and seems to have had a change of heart - I think it all depends on your situation, and perception of adoption in general.

vpine · September 2011

Katie829:
If it comes to it, we will try IUI and IVF before adoption. To be honest, DH doesn't think he will love an adopted child as much as his own. Obviously we don't know yet. For now adoption is not for us.

This is us too.

MrsBlindLove · September 2011

I wanted to adopt since I was a little girl. DH is open to idea as well. We both have medical issues that may hinder being able to adopt.

Nikko Blue · September 2011

We haven't talked about it. I wasn't going to bring it up unless we are in the position where we need to discuss other options.

byrne15 · September 2011

We will be doing our 6th IUI and will do one more after that. We haven't decided about IVF for sure yet or adoption, but they are options to consider.

Patches08 · September 2011

I'm a birthmom - I placed my daughter with an adoptive couple 7 years ago.

DH & I would not consider adoption (or IUI, ART, etc.) to grow our family. We have decided if we are unable to conceive that would be OK childless.

Sweets11 · September 2011

We spoke with an adoption social worker at an agency at the 18 month mark. Adoption might be a solution to the parenting aspect of IF if our fertility treatments don't end well, but I'm not entirely sure.

We decided to go through IVF first. In my province fertility treatments are a fraction of the total cost of adoption.

Now that we have 12 - 23 chances (in theory) to do FETs, we might just continue doing those until we give up. By then it will be too late for us to adopt (DH is already 38 and we would like to be 'done' having babies by the time he's 40.)

SParkman80 · September 2011

We would try IVF first but yes we've always talked about adoption and have both been very open to it.

Emily&Chad · September 2011

we talked about possibly adopting for #2 if we decide we want 2... but who knows what will happen and how we will feel when the time comes.

bookworm982 · September 2011

I've spent time volunteering in Ecuadorian orphanages, I have adopted siblings, my father-in-law is adopted, and two of my sisters are social workers. Adopting has been a dream of mine ever since my parents adopted my "almost twin" when we were both two. Before we were even engaged, dh and I discussed adoption.

Basically, we want a large family (at least 4) and are happy with any way that children come in to our home. Right now we are ttc, and I really hope we have biological children because I want to experience pregnancy. At some point in the future, we also plan on being foster parents and adopting children. So basically, ttc and adopting aren't either/or for us. We hope to experience both.

bwe1100 · September 2011

Bonnini:
Its something we aren't going to consider until Im 35 or older and we hadn't conceived. I know DH isn't for it for it until we've exercised every option.

Pretty much this with us.

jayangel · September 2011

My wife and I each plan to have a child, if for some reason neither of us are able to get pregnant we may consider adoption. At this point our plan is to each try via iui and if not successful move to ivf. Neither of us are opposed to adopting, its just not something we've really talked about.

KMac570 · September 2011

Neither of us are interested in adopting. That said, I think it is a wonderful thing to do, and I have a great deal of respect for people who give children a home.

almostapearl · September 2011

I'm lucky that I was able to have one child. If we have issues with TTC #2, I don't think we can afford adoption but we're willing to foster. (I know there are good and bad things about fostering, but I know that DH & I can handle the bad)

kellyrn9956 · September 2011

We haven't put a time limit on it per se (been TTC x 2 1/2 years), but we will do IUI's until I can no longer stand it, do one "Hail Mary" IVF, and then move to adoption. It's always been an option for us, as my DH is adopted, but because he is adopted, we would like to try everything that we can for him to have a blood relative.

cchill01 · September 2011

I would definitely consider it, but I'm not willing to pay thousands to adopt a baby, especially since we've done the baby thing once. So, I would probably try to adopt an older child or maybe do fostering. I don't know. It all gets so complicated. And I've heard so many stories of adoptive parents been jerked around by the system or birth parents. It would require a lot of soul searching for us.

SadieTop · September 2011

Yes, before we got married we dicussed it that if do everything we can to concieve and still cannot. Then we would look into adoption. But we are early in the TTC process but its nice to know we have touched on the topic.

OCfish82 · September 2011

I will admit that I have a savings account set up for adoption. It will happen one day for us regardless if I get pregnant or not. My SO was opposed to it at first but recently agreed to go fwd with it one day.

GermanGirl2007 · September 2011

I would love to adopt and so would DH. I completely agree with the PP who said it wasn't an either/or.....we would be happy with both. My sister is adopted, as is my cousin, and I think adoption is an absolutely wonderful thing. I would also love to foster, and DH would be on board with that too.

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