Okay, people, what's the big hurry?

+diana82+ · September 2011

ITA on the sex thing. The driving thing, meh. I didn't drive until 2 weeks but could have easily. My staples were out 1 w pp, and I never took more than motrin for pain.

As for taking it easy? LMAO. I have a 2 year old and DD was in the NICU. As soon as she was d/c she was readmitted to the hospital for 2 days for a possible infection. I would have gladly parked it on the couch for 2 weeks but that wasn't even remotely an option. However, this was my 2nd c/s and after both I felt about 90% by the time I was out of the hospital and I think that was largely because I was up and moving as soon as possible after.

magdalina.h · September 2011

I don't get it either. Except for having an older child that needs to be cared for. Chores, driving, sex... I don't get it.

Cotton · September 2011

Planned c/s. Helpful husband, but he has a busy job. I drove, did chores, climbed stairs and lifted my over-10-pound baby (in his carseat even) before 2 weeks. Please, who else could do these things for me? Have my mom move in with us? No thanks. I felt great. Incision was easy, healing fine, not painful. I was feeling WONDERFUL simply bc I wasn't pregnant with my 10lb 14oz baby anymore. LOL. I might be tough, or just lucky? I've given birth without drugs before. This was easier, all the way around.

I'm happier when I'm helping and not being waited on. And my kids all love me and are being nurtured just fine I wish someone had told me THIS before the surgery! I had everyone telling me I had to be a baby about it!

Elizabeth

byrne15 · September 2011

pepomntpat:

Sex, right away? Driving, right away? Expecting to be back in shape right away?

You had a baby! You had a baby surgically! Take it easy on yourself and be nice to yourself.

I did NOTHING for two weeks except feed my baby, feed myself and shower. I was very blessed to have a husband who kept up with things, but I doubt I would have done much regardless. Those first few weeks are precious for bonding and essential for healing. Don't take shortcuts in your healing. It never hurts to take it a little easier than you think you may need to. Take this seriously. There is no need to be super mom yet!

Why does it matter what other people want to do after THEIR c-section?

Not everyone is so "lucky" to have a husband that was available for them to do nothing for 2 weeks. And guess what...some people CAN'T do "nothing". Just because that is what you want to do...doesn't mean other people do.

Believe it or not, some women don't get maternity leaves, or need to go back to work ASAP because that is what their job requires.

Just because a woman needs to do other things, doesn't mean she didn't use the 1st couple weeks to bond with her child.

Sounds like you are the one who is trying to be super mom.

avalivsmom · September 2011

Couldn't have said it better myself

Ardmhs83 · September 2011

canthardlywait426 · September 2011

avalivsmom:
Because I am talking about myself and no one else. I don't know anyone's situation and I don't pass judgment on anyone whether they are SAHMs or if they are working moms. I applaud all mothers, the ones that stay at home and the ones who work. To me there is no difference. I am lucky enough that I can stay home.

Not to be snarky, but I absolutely took your post the same way. You said that your children were nurtured and still are because you're a sahm. Took that to mean that they are nurtured because you are a sahm. If it's not what you meant, you worded it really poorly. Working moms are just as nurturing and babies are just as taken care of when their parent works.

avalivsmom · September 2011

Read my previous post that that is not what I said or meant! The person who started this post made it seem that if you did not take it easy and just sit and do nothing except "nurture" your child then you weren't doing the right thing. I wanted her to know that my children are nurtured no matter what even if I didn't hold my children all day long. What does it matter...SAHM or working mom??? That wasn't the subject of this post and if anyone is offended by what I wrote that was not the intent. And BTW I never said they were still being nurtured BECAUSE I was a SAHM. If you are going to try to quote me, quote me right.

SirSleepsALot · September 2011

Do you only have 1 kid and a husband who works normal hours? yeah, I don't. I had to get moving as quickly as possible. No issues, no complaining, no nonsense. We don't all have the luxury of lounging around while others care for us.

pepomntpat · September 2011

Oh for goodness sakes! All I said was to take care of yourself and be kind to yourself. Only on the bump would telling people to take it easy and reduce their expectations be flameful. I never said you didn't nurture your children. I just said be kind to yourself and not be in such a hurry to get back to normal. Hope you all had a wonderful recovery!

FishNchips1 · September 2011

um I wasn't allowed to do anything for 6 weeks!!! Took me forever to heal and im still working on the baby weight a year later lol!

tusshie2004 · September 2011

Preach it girl!

snoopy3319 · September 2011

I think the idea of the OP was that there have been a lot of the same questions popping up...When can I have sex again? When did you really start driving? Honestly, do what makes you feel good and stop what doesn't. If you choose not to listen to the doc and something happens, then it's your own fault.

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