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Picked a name...family doesn't like it....ugh
My DH & I finally picked a name about 2 weeks ago. This is something that has been hard for us, as it was with our other 3 kids. My DH is hispanic and I am caucasian, so coming up with we both agree on has taken a lot of time. We have 3 children already, Antonio, Nicholas, & Illeana, with boy (#4) on the way, so we wanted a name that goes with them and our last name (Garcia). We picked Xavier. We told our parents and both sides hate it. They keep asking "did you guys pick a name yet"....um, yeah we told you already. This is their way of hoping we have changed our mind. To top it off my MIL tells my DH last night that she is hoping we will see our son & realize the name is terrible & doesn't suit our son and we change it.....how rude!!!!! I now know why people keep their names to themselves.
I'm already 1 day past my due date and my emotions are getting the best of me & now I'm not sure if we have chosen the right name....my DH said "if we like it, that's all that matters, who cares what they think" I know he's right, it's just upsetting.
sorry this was just a vent.
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Re: Picked a name...family doesn't like it....ugh
When our front runner was Declan, we told people our top 5 names - that being one of them. MIL HATED it. She said "Any name but that one". I said "Well, it's the front runner, so get used to it".
Even at the hospital when I was in labor, she was still nasty about the name to my parents.
But once DS was born and it became his name - she shut up. She now claims to love it - but I know she's lying. But that's fine. She's putting on a good face.
Honestly, if they continue to be nasty after you actually name your child, you all need to say "Look - this is the name we chose and it's now his name. If you can't be nice about it, then you need to not come around untiil you can be nice about it. we're not going to put up w/ this negativity around our children.".
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stick with your name!!! FIrst off, it's a great name. Secondly, it's challenging enough deciding on one with DH. Believe me, they are going to love your child no matter what and will have to accept the name.
I can tell you for a FACT that right after my son was born, DH told our parents his name and when DH walked away my MIL turned and looked and my mom and said "I hate that name." PLUS his family had made fun of the choice earlier when we mentioned it and we didnt give a crap.
Then last week when reviewing names for LO#2...we mentioned Joshua and James and MIL made a barf sound and said "none of those is as great as Asher! (DS's name). I was like...wait what? you hated his name... just goes to show...they'll learn to love it! Stick with it and congrats on picking a name!
Xavier is a great name!
The pros:
? You and your husband like it (no easy feat)
? It works with both of your backgrounds
? It fits nicely with your other kids' names without being too matchy
? It's a real name with a long history
? It's unusual enough so that he won't be one of five in his class
? It's also known enough so that pronunciation should rarely be an issue
? It sounds great on an adult and a kid
The cons:
? Family members who already had a chance to name their own kids don't like it
I'd ignore them. You've picked a wonderful name.
Btw, I love your siggy pic- your kids are adorable and I love how each of them has a little bit of a different personality in that picture!
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Screw them..it's both your husband's and your child...not theirs. You call him whatever you like. I think Xaxier is a fine name.
I would call them out on it and tell them just how rude they are being. That's one thing parent's aren't usually expecting...their own child to scold them. Do it, put them in their place.Like everyone else is saying -- once the family meets your sweet boy, they will associate your son with the name and come around to it. My family didn't like my DD's name at ALL when we shared it (Paisley Sophia) and tried to convince us to swap the fn and mn -- but after she was born, they said they loved the name and that it "suited her."
I personally really like the name Xavier! Who cares what others think, though
Congrats on agreeing on a name and meeting your baby boy (hopefully very soon!!)
This.
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That's just why we didn't tell any one our name(s).
My cousin listened to her (stupid) IL's opinions and changed her baby's mn. 14 years later she still stews over how much she dislikes it and wishes she would have kept her original pick.
Forget them! Xavier is a wonderful name!
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Oh my gosh, I love that name. It is on my list for boy names this time around! I would just use it if you love it. They will get used to it soon enough. We didn't tell our name until he was born...think we will do the same this time around too! Good luck
I had family bitching to me about the girl names that I had chosen. SO & I had decided that if we have a girl, her name will be Vivienne Louise. A few of my relatives HATED it. "That's an old ladies name". I was really hurt, but also wanted to have a girl just to tell them to shove it and get used to the name because that's what its gonna be.
They got lucky and we're having another boy. Screw what your family thinks!