Picked a name...family doesn't like it....ugh

jennyfur211

My DH & I finally picked a name about 2 weeks ago.  This is something that has been hard for us, as it was with our other 3 kids.  My DH is hispanic and I am caucasian, so coming up with we both agree on has taken a lot of time.  We have 3 children already, Antonio, Nicholas, & Illeana, with boy (#4) on the way, so we wanted a name that goes with them and our last name (Garcia).  We picked Xavier.  We told our parents and both sides hate it.  They keep asking "did you guys pick a name yet"....um, yeah we told you already.  This is their way of hoping we have changed our mind.  To top it off my MIL tells my DH last night that she is hoping we will see our son & realize the name is terrible & doesn't suit our son and we change it.....how rude!!!!!  I now know why people keep their names to themselves. 

I'm already 1 day past my due date and my emotions are getting the best of me & now I'm not sure if we have chosen the right name....my DH said "if we like it, that's all that matters, who cares what they think"  I know he's right, it's just upsetting.

sorry this was just a vent. 

Temp108743750006959

I think it's a good name and a good fit. I'd do what you want.

EastCoastBride

When our front runner was Declan, we told people our top 5 names - that being one of them.  MIL HATED it.  She said "Any name but that one".  I said "Well, it's the front runner, so get used to it".

Even at the hospital when I was in labor, she was still nasty about the name to my parents.

But once DS was born and it became his name - she shut up.  She now claims to love it - but I know she's lying. But that's fine.  She's putting on a good face. 

Honestly, if they continue to be nasty after you actually name your child, you all need to say "Look - this is the name we chose and it's now his name.  If you can't be nice about it, then you need to not come around untiil you can be nice about it.  we're not going to put up w/ this negativity around our children.".

mben1119

That's why we haven't told anyone our name. People always have opinions on names, and I don't care what they think. 

gisa886

I think it is a great name! It isn't like you made some weird name up, that is a real and very normal name.

sept9107bride

stick with your name!!! FIrst off, it's a great name.  Secondly, it's challenging enough deciding on one with DH. Believe me, they are going to love your child no matter what and will have to accept the name. 

I can tell you for a FACT that right after my son was born, DH told our parents his name and when DH walked away my MIL turned and looked and my mom and said "I hate that name."  PLUS his family had made fun of the choice earlier when we mentioned it and we didnt give a crap. 

Then last week when reviewing names for LO#2...we mentioned Joshua and James and MIL made a barf sound and said "none of those is as great as Asher! (DS's name).  I was like...wait what? you hated his name... just goes to show...they'll learn to love it! Stick with it and congrats on picking a name!

karen_loy

I like that name and goes with your other kids names, like PPs said what's important is that you and your DH love the name, not what others think

ames71

Xavier is a great name!

The pros:

? You and your husband like it (no easy feat)

? It works with both of your backgrounds

? It fits nicely with your other kids' names without being too matchy

? It's a real name with a long history

? It's unusual enough so that he won't be one of five in his class

? It's also known enough so that pronunciation should rarely be an issue

? It sounds great on an adult and a kid

The cons:

? Family members who already had a chance to name their own kids don't like it

 

I'd ignore them. You've picked a wonderful name.

HannahO28

screw your family. Xavier is awesome.

curlylocks3

I think Xavier is a great name, I also think it goes well with your other kids names and your LN.  I also think that once they meet Xavier they will either come to love it or at the very least not dislike it, because they are going to love him.  Sorry you're going through that though.  Good luck!
Btw, I love your siggy pic- your kids are adorable and I love how each of them has a little bit of a different personality in that picture!

LoCarb

I LOVE Xavier!  And really it's interchangeable w/ the latin name Javier.  They need to rethink their opinion

PhilsWife07

It's a good name and sounds nice with your other kids' names. Once THEY meet the baby, THEY'LL change their minds and accept it, maybe even grow to like it. It sucks but it really won't be an issue for long. Sorry they're being insensitive.

McGillicuddy13

ITA with PPs. Xavier is a great name! They'll come around, and if not, so what. You've got a beautiful little boy with an excellent name.

Ivana_Stolichnaya

Screw them..it's both your husband's and your child...not theirs.  You call him whatever you like.  I think Xaxier is a fine name.

I would call them out on it and tell them just how rude they are being.  That's one thing parent's aren't usually expecting...their own child to scold them.  Do it, put them in their place.

Ivana_Stolichnaya

duplicate...Bump hiccup.

JillianGoe

Like everyone else is saying -- once the family meets your sweet boy, they will associate your son with the name and come around to it.  My family didn't like my DD's name at ALL when we shared it (Paisley Sophia) and tried to convince us to swap the fn and mn -- but after she was born, they said they loved the name and that it "suited her." 

 I personally really like the name Xavier!  Who cares what others think, though  

Congrats on agreeing on a name and meeting your baby boy (hopefully very soon!!)

westrose

I am sorry that your family does not like it. I say they will get over it after a while. This just confirms my decision not to tell anyone our names. We love them and do not want them ruined. There is nothing anyone can say to our faces once it is on the birth certifcate. 

smaoph425

mabenner1:

That's why we haven't told anyone our name. People always have opinions on names, and I don't care what they think. 

This. 

BrideBuddies

Tell 'em when THEY have another child, they can pick the name.

BelleIsa

That's why we're not telling anyone the name until the LO is born. ILs can't complain once the name is attached to their precious grandchild...

PeridotEyes

That's just why we didn't tell any one our name(s).

 

My cousin listened to her (stupid) IL's opinions and changed her baby's mn. 14 years later she still stews over how much she dislikes it and wishes she would have kept her original pick.

Forget them! Xavier is a wonderful name!

Sean+Lyss

My grandmother hated the name DH and I choose for DS. She actually went as far as to offer my husband $1,500 to change it, and this was after he was already born. He told her that she could either get used to the name and stop talking about it, or we wouldnt be visiting anymore.

MaybeMore

What's wrong with Xavier????

sagoon

It's your baby, you get to name it.  They already got to name their babies.

ryry1977

Oh my gosh, I love that name.  It is on my list for boy names this time around!  I would just use it if you love it.  They will get used to it soon enough.  We didn't tell our name until he was born...think we will do the same this time around too!  Good luck

nilly5

I had family bitching to me about the girl names that I had chosen. SO & I had decided that if we have a girl, her name will be Vivienne Louise. A few of my relatives HATED it. "That's an old ladies name". I was really hurt, but also wanted to have a girl just to tell them to shove it and get used to the name because that's what its gonna be.

They got lucky and we're having another boy. Screw what your family thinks!