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They say it comes in 3's....

Well I hope its true and I am done with crappy news,

First was the death of my friends baby, Mia Libby.

Number 2 is my brother has skin cancer, he went in again today for them to take more out to see how serious it is. I thiknk its really rocking us because a teacher in her 20s at Mitty just died from this....

Then we found out yesterday we were scammed....the birthmom isnt pregnant.

She took us for a lot of heartache and a decent chunk of change. I am so heartbroken, angry, embarrassed and guilty feeling. Again (I feel like a broken record you must get so annoyed with it) but it brings back up all the pain of not being able to provide Tony with a child myself and Jennifer with a sibling.

Of course I know how lucky we are to have her and it does lessen the pain, but it doesnt erase it. She told me the sex...talked about me being in the room, we told her the name...I told her how my friend Sarah was also having a little boy a month after us and how fun that will be...

I feel like I am insane grieving over a baby that never was...but somehow he was to us, we had things for him, had told family and friends...

I am not sure we will share next time we get matched...but then again I dont want to let this whore steal that joy from us.

I thikn the easiest way to describe adoption is its like forever being in the first trimester...So excited and hopeful, dying to share with everybody but scared it will be taken away. Floating around on cloud nine and strangers have no idea why because I am not showing...Does that make sense???

 this sucks...

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  • Why would someone do that? This just breaks my heart, I am so sorry Libby.
  • I'm so sorry!  Having no experience in the process I can't even imagine how it got that far that someone supposedly 9 months pregnant was straight up lying - thats crazy!  I wish I knew what to say...
  • I am so, so sorry!  Is there anything you can do to get that money back from her?  Can you press charges against her?

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  • (((HUGS)))...So sorry that you are having to deal with this.  It's amazing how people think it's o.k. to mess with people's emotions.  I am sorry!
  • Oh Libby, I am so so sorry.
  • Oh God Libby, I'm so sorry.
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  • OMG, Libby! I can't imagine... I'm so sorry! :(
  • Oh Libby I am so sorry! I understand when placements fall through but to find out there never was a baby. I can't imagine that pain. Having never been in your shoes I imagine that you are 100% correct about adoption being like the first trimester. I am putting you and your family in my prayers tonight. I can't imagine what kind of person does that to another human being, to lie and steal like that. You are a wonderful person and mother with a wonderful family, who has every right to want and seek out another memeber of the family.  (((((((HUGS)))))))))
  • This is absolutely disgusting and heartbreaking. I am so, so sorry. I hope there's a special place in hell for people like her. It's making me sick to my stomach that anyone could do that to you.

  • I'm sorry Libby. I can't imagine, just wanted to offer my support.
  • I am so so so very sorry. :( What an absolutely terrible thing for the "birth mom" to do!! I'm angry and sad for you.

    Sending a huge ((HUG)) and prayers for strength.
     

  • Libby! I am so so sorry hun.  That is terrible.  I can't believe that someone can do that.  Huge Hugs to you.  Stay strong sweetie. 
  • Dammit, Libby, I'm so upset and angry for you right now.  You've been through so much and now this.  Un-effing-believable!

     

  • gosh Libby, I'm sorry.  I don't know why people would scam someone over something so personal.  Please try not to let this bad turn you jaded.  I'll be thinking of your brother.
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  • I am reporting her to her probabtion officer...but cant go for the money...she has nothing which is why we were willing to help out...And just putting her name out in all the adoption groups I can so she doenst do this to any of family....

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  • I can't even imagine Libby...I'm so sorry!
  • Libby, I am so sorry for your loss. It is a loss to you. As a birthmom, I cannot even fathom why someone would do something like that to another person. I know that you and Tony will be placed with the right baby when the time is right. I have faith in the adoption system. Have you looked at using another agency, one that "validates" the pregnancy?

    I know you have heard me talk about them before, but as a birthmom I cannot talk even good things about Bethany Christian Services. They are wonderful for both sides.

  • I am still so sad about this Libby and UNBELIEVABLY PISSED about it too....I have a few choice words for that "woman"...I would love to meet her in person...

    I am sooo soooo sorry and know that Aaron and I are always here for you...no matter what you need.

    And I am so sorry about the news about your brother....hopefully they caught it early and everything will be OK...I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers..

    And as always...you guys are always in our prayers.  We love you guys!

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    I am reporting her to her probabtion officer...but cant go for the money...she has nothing which is why we were willing to help out...And just putting her name out in all the adoption groups I can so she doenst do this to any of family....

    OMG.  Un-effing-believable.  I'm so sorry Libby.  At least you can try and make sure she doesn't do this to anyone else.

    Sending hugs and dust your way, and your friend's, and your brother's.

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    This is absolutely disgusting and heartbreaking. I am so, so sorry. I hope there's a special place in hell for people like her. It's making me sick to my stomach that anyone could do that to you.

    Ditto.

    And I hope you'll be able to sue her and/or press criminal charges against this awful woman.

    And I also hope your brother beats the skin cancer!

    Lastly, please don't feel like a broken record or that you can't share with us.  We're here to support you on - as you so appropriately put it - the roller coaster.  For all the ups and for all the downs!  Big hugs for you, Libby!!!

  • I'm so so sorry Libby. =(

    Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs.

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    This is utter bullsh!t.  I'm here if you need me and I'm sending you and Tony lots of hugs.

  • I am so so sorry. She'll get what's coming to her. Are you guys pursuing litigation against her?
  • Oh my gosh! What a witch!! I am so sorry.  Big hugs and many prayers. 
  • It sickens me that someone could do this.  I am so sorry for your loss and about your brother.  Keep the faith - I know it's difficult, especially in times like this. I really hope things work out for you.
  • I cannot believe that is all happening to you and I hope things turn around to lots of positives soon! ?That fake birthmonster is evil. ?(((hugs))) ?
  • I'm so sorry.  I cannot understand, why people do they things they do.  Especially, with something so big as this topic.  I'm sorry.
  • I am so sorry, Libby. I could never understand why someone would do such a horrible thing like that. Sad
  • I'm so sorry. :( People can be so selfish and cruel. :(
  • I'm so sorry Libby...I can't believe that lady lied to you. WTH? It'll happen for you...((hugs))
  • Big Hugs to you!  I'm sooo sorry.
  • I am so so so sorry, Libby! Hugs!
  • I'm so sorry Libby! 
  • I'm so sorry to hear both abut this and your brother.  I hope your brother recovers quickly and that you have the strength to get through this and be matched with the right mom/baby very soon.  I can't believe someone would do that.  How can she sleep at night? I'm sure Karma will get her back. 

    I completely understand your analogy of being in the first trimester.  That's a great way to describe it.  I hope you don't let this horrible person deter you from sharing the great news next time.  We're all hear for you and read to hear the good and the bad.  Take care of yourself.

  • I'm very sorry about your brother!  They've made great strides recently on skin cancer, so fingers crossed that they'v found his quickly and can treat it easily.

     

    Secondly, I'm really sorry about the scam artist.  How on earth did she convince the agency that she's far enough long to know the sex and yet not really be pregnant???  Don't they require medical records???  I hope you dont give them repeat business after this, and do press charges -- do not let this girl take advantage of you, she obviously conned you on purpose.

  • I am SO sorry Libby.  And I desperately want ten minutes alone in a room with that girl.  Pathetic.

    Big hugs to you...

  • I'm so sorry for all the things your family has been hit with lately. 

    I can't believe a person can be so heartless and lead you guys on like that.  

    ((HUGS))

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  • I am so sorry!  What a terrible thing to happen to you!  Its unimaginable to do that to someone.  Karma is a b!tch, I hope she gets hers someday. 
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