October 2011 Moms

Whats your plan for BC after baby?

Who has discussed BC after LO arrives with their DH/ SO and OB? I have with my DH but we can't seem to agree on anything other than that we are DONE --the twins will be our first, second and last. DH only wanted to have 1 kid--I wanted 1 or 2 so we know that this is it for us.

I'm a little scared of getting and IUD--know that I hate Nuvaring and the Pill (I've used both) --had good luck with the patch in the past ( no weight gain/side effects) but its not something that docs are really willing to prescribe anymore so I'm trying to convince DH to go for a snip snip--or I'm considering Implanon...

Have you ladies made up your minds about what you'll be doing?

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  • DH is getting the big snip.
  • DH will get the snip -- I've gone through enough with a twin pg and then this one, now it's his turn to man up Smile  Well, and I'm totally OVER hormones so no BCP for me.  I've spent over 1/2 of my life being the one responsible for preventing unwanted pg, time to turn it over to the man!

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  • We plan on using condoms. I was on the BCP for about 14 years prior to conceiving this baby and coming off was really hard on my body with the hormonal withdrawal. We aren't sure when will TTC for baby #2 and I don't want to go through that again so condoms will be the easiest for us.
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  • Once we're sure that we're done having kids, SO is getting a vasectomy. Luckily, we are on the same page about this. It is such a simple procedure and then it's done.

    However, this LO is our first, so we need some BC. I assume at first we will use condoms and we'll be talking to the MW about BC pills that are safe while BF-ing. However, I got pregnant while on the NuvaRing, so I am a little leery of hormonal BC. We'll see...I am not jazzed about the idea of just using condoms. We both very much dislike them. The other thing I considered is tracking my cycle, using natural family planning and then using condoms during my fertile period. Obviously this only works once my period has returned. 

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    Dh can get fixed.

    Yes If we were done, this is what we would do!

    We practiced Natural Family Planning while TTA so I'll go back to that. There are a few issues that can make charting a little difficult with a newborn (such as not getting 3 straight hours of sleep) so I imagine we may throw some condoms in the mix too. I'm hoping to EBF, so hopefully I won't have to worry about bc for 6 months to a year anyway. By then sleep will be established and I can get back into my routine.

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  • Abstinence............. lol

    First time we EBF for 6 mos so we used that (and rarely had sex) Once I hit 7 mos I didn't temp but "lightly" charted until a year........... then when DS was 12 mos we said, eh we'll do whatever and actively try when he's 18 mos.......... yea....do whatever lasted a month.

    Not sure if we'll space 2 and 3 out further than 1 and 2.... so we might be on the same plan again. 

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    None really. We had to go through treatments for this little one, and we would like one more so we'll not really prevent. (the first few months we'll probably just use condoms, then nothing after that)

    We went through treatments too, but I've heard about alot of *suprise* babies when you don't use BC after treatments and since we are sure sure we're done..I'm not willing to risk it.

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  • A combination of FAM and condoms.  I am not a fan of hormonal BC and I also want to keep an eye on my cycles once they return since I conceived on CD75 and that long of a cycle is not normal for me. 
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  • If there's any upside to DH having like 2 sperm, it's that we won't have to prevent. :) It's pretty much impossible for us to get pregnant on our own.
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  • I will be going on the mini-pill while bf'ing and then the regular pill after that until we know if we are going to have another LO.
  • Condoms for us.  We'll be trying for another sooner than later, so no way am I going to get started on the pill just to have to get off of it months later...all while breastfeeding and dealing with hormone changes at the end of the pregnancy.   

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  • This is our first and we plan on having one more.  After this little guy is born I plan on charting and using the rhythm method (not having sex around O).  After we have baby #2 I plan on using the Paragard.  I developed a massive blood clot in my leg and 2 in my lungs last July from using the Nuvaring, and so I am not able to use hormonal BC anymore.  At the present time I don't like the idea of doing any type of surgical procedure - just because it's so "final".  So I think the Paragard is a good option, just in case a few years down the line we get the itch for one more :-)
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  • I always had good luck on the pill and will go back to that for the time being.

    There is an age by which DH and I would like to be finished having kids. If we have more by then, fine, if we only have one, that's okay, too. Once we hit that age, it looks like DH is getting the snip.

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    I will be going on the mini-pill while bf'ing and then the regular pill after that until we know if we are going to have another LO.

    This. We don't do condoms.

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  • DH will be getting a vasectomy during the weeks I am still recovering from delivery.  We figured that would be the best way, and there wouldn't be any pressure to wish/want to have sex because I won't be able to!  
  • I'm not 100% sure we are done yet so I'll be discussing an IUD with my OB. 
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  • Having a tubiligation during my c/s...we are done done done!! :) Although when my PCOS starts to flair up I may ask to go back on bcp just to keep my periods shorter, lighter and less painful.
  • I don't think we'll be using anything. I could say condoms but honestly, we all know that won't happen. We're hoping to have another within a couple of years. And I'll be nursing, I didn't use anything when I nursed DD and didn't get pregnant...so my BC will be Prayer!
  • Back to the pill!

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  • DH is getting a vasectomy.
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  • I'll probably count on my PCOS, but we are ready to "accept the consequence" of having a second child (although maybe not a second pregnancy, ha) if our "birth control method" fails.

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  • It took me a year to ovulate to get pregnant with this little guy after BCP and since we will probably start trying within the next year and a half, I do not plan on going back on them. I think we will be using condoms for a while, then nothing, and when he is a year old I will start charting again.
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  • We will go back to charting.....probably use condoms in the beginning until I get back on a regular cycle....

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    Abstinence............. lol

    Well I suppose if I put this as option #2 against the snip---the snip might look more appealing...

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  • Nothing. We struggled to conceive this baby and would be over-the-moon to have a second (or third or fourth) child without assistance. We'll probably use withdrawal/charting for the first 6 months or so and then just take a hands off approach for a year or so before going back to the RE.
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  • Charting and condoms. MH will get snipped when we're done but i will never use hormonal birth control again.
  • Back on the nuvaring for me due to low progesterone issues. I had less side effects with that than taking progesterone supplements.
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  • I had the Paraguard IUD before TTC this one, and I really, really liked it. I talked to my OB about getting another one since we definitely want to wait at least 2 years before TTC #2.  She thought that was my best option since I do not want to go back on the pill.
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  • we're not doing anything.  I had to see a fertility specialist to get pg. w/ this one and all problems seem to lie w/ me so we'll just be careful around O time but don't think we'd be able to get pg. anyway.  If we somehow got pg. again it would be a blessing.  but we're sure we're done after this one.
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    Charting and condoms. MH will get snipped when we're done but i will never use hormonal birth control again.

    Ditto! 

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  • I don't plan on taking any BC after LO. We will probably just use pull out and if I happen to get pregnant again then I do. We are planning on having another anyway. However if we were done having kids I would seriously encourage DH to get a vasectomy.
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  • we'll probably go back to condoms. I don't like being on hormonal BC. If we knew we were done I think DH would get fixed, but we don't. IUD's are pretty awesome from what I've heard, but I don't want one.
  • If you are considering sterilization of you or DH have you looked in to the Essure procedure (non-surgical tubal)?

     I am planning on a Mirena.

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  • I think I might give Paraguard a whirl.
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  • I really liked the pill I was on (Seasonique) but I can't be on it while BFing and there is no way I trust us to use condoms every time (and no way I'm risking getting pg again either, I don't want another baby for at least 3 years).  So I'm considering a copper IUD while I'm BFing, then getting it taken out and going back to the pill. 
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  • Condoms and charting until I'm done BFing and then probably just charting after that until we're ready for #2.  I was only on BCP for about 6 months over 10 years ago and hated it.  I don't do chemicals.
  • We are done (this is #2) so sniping time for DH (which he would get now but I am making him wait until the baby is a month or 2 old).  We are both looking forward to that being done and not having to "do" anything for BC from here on out. 

    To the OP: it sounds like your DH is not totally on board with this?  My friend who is a Dr. described it as similar to having mole removed if that makes him feel better.  Also when I asked my Dr. for a referral she asked if I wanted her to talk to DH about it and had a referral to someone who she said was really great at talking to men about this.  So if you are trying to convince him, you might want to start by talking to your Dr. about it. 

  • Paraguard IUD until DH decides to get snipped.
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  • imagecolleenb262:
    I had the Paraguard IUD before TTC this one, and I really, really liked it. I talked to my OB about getting another one since we definitely want to wait at least 2 years before TTC #2.  She thought that was my best option since I do not want to go back on the pill.

     

    This! I partially expelled 2 of these, but was told it was more than likely due to me not ever having children prior to having them "placed". I plan on getting another one after LO is born and I am "cleared to resume activity" and have one placed. I hated the pill. I had side effects on every one I tried. I chose the Paragard over the Mirena to avoid hormones entirely.

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