FFFC... anyone? Let's make it an interesting day

Brie2006 · September 2011

alison2379:

I'm now going to be the crazy realllly pregnant lady wearing summer dresses with cardigans and tights and scarves.

This cracks me up, Allison!

My confession:

I don't like most of the nurseries I see PIPed on the bump (not necessarily those on this board, FWIW). I think that I may be a nursery snob!

StephK86 · September 2011

Fianschneid:

A big annoying project is coming up at work soon. I had to do it last year and hated it. I could probably get it done in the next month or at least get most of it underway, but I have passed it on to my part time replacement who is already here and training.

Basically, I just gave her my spreadsheets from last year and held a meeting about what she would need to do, then left it in her hands. This morning, she walked up to me and said, "This looks like it's going to be a pretty big undertaking," and I just gave her a kind of vague, "Yeah, it's a big project" and didn't offer to help.

I'm just not interested in taking something new on at this point in my pregnancy.

This is totally something I would do. I had to change desks at work today since I have just switched jobs. I actually switched in December but our IT guy just now set up my other computer. I totally let the office intern scrub out my new cube and move all of my stuff. She offered to do it and no one else has any work for her to do anyways!

My FFFC: People who risk their child's safety get the side eye from me. You need to buy sturdy, SAFE, baby equipment for your newborn. Uncle Ted's 50 year old drop side crib should not be used for your newborn. There are plenty of places to get cheap, nice cribs. No amount of money should be too much when it comes to your babies well being. Make sure your house is child proofed and any house you plan on frequenting with your baby as well. I may sound like a PSA but take it from me bad things do happen to good people.

MereB · September 2011

Mrs. Mo:
I resent the fact that DH gets to hold our baby practically right away yet I will have to wait at least a good 30-60 minutes (not until I get into recovery & they give me the "ok"). I'M the one that had to go through all the physical pain of all the invasive IF testing & procedures while he just had to j.o. into a cup for his testing/sample for all the iuis/ivf. I'M the one that had to stick myself with needles full or fertility drugs several times a day just to attempt to get pregnant. I'M the one that has had to worry about every.single piece of food/drink I put into my body for the past 9 month as well as all the emotional/physical aches & pains that go with carrying a baby. And lastly, I'M the one that will have to be sliced open in order to bring this child into the word. Yet, I'M NOT the one that can hold her right away. Sure, he can bring her over to me so I can kiss her head but my arms will be strapped down so I can't even touch her. This is SO not fair !!!!

Yes, and thankfully HE'S the one that gets to do all of the diaper changes the first week while it's hard for your to be quickly mobile

I'm having a repeat c/s, and although it does seem like a long time to be away from your baby, it goes by much faster than the time sounds. Sorry you're upset you don't get to be the first to hold your baby, it isn't fair.

LCass · September 2011

ProcrastinatingBride:
Liz4444:
DH's parents are going to be staying here for 2 nights for Rosh Hashanah. His mother is going to be doing all of the cooking, etc but I still really don't want them staying here. His mom gets on my nerves... nevermind it's going to be 1 week before my due date. I really don't need to be sitting here listening to the evils of epidurals and how no one she knows keeps a baby nurse longer than 3 days. When we told her we were having ours for 3 weeks, she started making nasty comments about how 'only Bethany Frankel (the real housewife) keeps them for that long'. Yes, I get it, you and your friends are great and my family and I are snobs, but guess what, your son isn't fighting our lifestyle so shut up!

Can I get away with hiding at my parents house for days and only coming home to sleep? Otherwise, I might snap...
This made me chuckle, I have to admit. My parents offered to come down for Rosh Hashanah (the second day of which is literally on my due date). DH was like, "Um, no thanks!" So I think we're going to pass on their very generous offer. I love my parents and wouldn't mind them coming, but DH is adamant that they stay in a hotel when we first come home with our LO (which I am supportive of - they don't know that he's the one behind that request), and it would be hard to kick them out if they were already staying here for RH.
We'll probably just have a very quiet RH, just the two of us, assuming there's no baby at that point. We've done that before when RH is in the middle of the week (we live 4+ hours from family), and we couldn't take time off from work.
GL with your in-laws!

I'm actually kind of jealous of you both for having family coming/offering to come. We live a couple hours from my family, so going to them for the holidays when I'm due on the 4th is not possible. DH isn't Jewish, so having his family in town doesn't really help, and I haven't gotten involved in the Jewish community since we moved here not too long ago. I asked my parents about coming here for Rosh Hashanah, but I don't know if it's going to happen or not. And I'm not even sure I want them to because they'll insist on staying at a hotel (our bed is a queen and we'd give it to them, but they don't want me sleeping on the twin spare bed and DH on the couch) and I don't want them to have to spend the money on the hotel then when they'll also be doing it once or twice in October when baby's here. We lived out of the country for a couple years and I really missed having the High Holy Days with my family, so it kind of sucks to be back in the country and still not getting to spend it with them. Sad

My FFC: I'm being extra lazy with pregnancy as an excuse and I need to stop. I often find I'm getting DH to do things around the house that I'm still perfectly capable of doing myself. I'm trying to tell myself that this will change now that he's working again (we're both supply teachers, so summer break just ended), but on days when he doesn't get called in to work I feel like I'll still pawn off household chores on him rather than do them myself.

MereB · September 2011

I cried hysterically for 2 days because I lost our camera charger and our camcorder. Our budget is very tight, and a new camcorder isn't a possibility. I have no idea where either are, and I was so mad at myself. Now I just feel like an idiot. . . not only for losing the stuff, but mainly for the way I reacted.

karinothing · September 2011

MereB:

Mrs. Mo:
I resent the fact that DH gets to hold our baby practically right away yet I will have to wait at least a good 30-60 minutes (not until I get into recovery & they give me the "ok"). I'M the one that had to go through all the physical pain of all the invasive IF testing & procedures while he just had to j.o. into a cup for his testing/sample for all the iuis/ivf. I'M the one that had to stick myself with needles full or fertility drugs several times a day just to attempt to get pregnant. I'M the one that has had to worry about every.single piece of food/drink I put into my body for the past 9 month as well as all the emotional/physical aches & pains that go with carrying a baby. And lastly, I'M the one that will have to be sliced open in order to bring this child into the word. Yet, I'M NOT the one that can hold her right away. Sure, he can bring her over to me so I can kiss her head but my arms will be strapped down so I can't even touch her. This is SO not fair !!!!

Yes, and thankfully HE'S the one that gets to do all of the diaper changes the first week while it's hard for your to be quickly mobile

I'm having a repeat c/s, and although it does seem like a long time to be away from your baby, it goes by much faster than the time sounds. Sorry you're upset you don't get to be the first to hold your baby, it isn't fair.

I am not entirely sure what your reasons for the c-section are, so this might not apply. However, I do know someone who had immediate chest to chest contact with her infant with a c-section. She said she simply asked the doctors and they couldn't come up with a reason why not. Her DH, obviously had to hold the baby there since her arms were secured until she was stiched up. But when they wheeled her out of the operating room she was craddling her baby. Anyway, always something you could ask about.

aliciaroset · September 2011

somebodysmama21:
As soon as I hit 37 weeks I am hoping LO comes, I do not agree with everyone saying this is 'wishing for a preemie' becuase full term and your due date are two different things. Your due date is based on a medien of delivery times, meaning you could go 2-3 before or 2-3 after and it is safe. However I do know that hoping that is dumb becuase I am a FTM and most FTM go to at least 41 weeks so I am probably just setting myself up to be miserable for 4-5 weeks.

No flames, but my doula has emphasized to us that the latch and sucking instinct is simply not nearly as strong in babies born at 37 weeks as it is in those born around 40, so you're also wishing for a baby with more trouble feeding, assuming you plan to bf.

Now that i'm 37 weeks I'm a lot more comfortable if she decides to come, but I really want her to stay in there for a variety of reasons.

ProcrastinatingBride · September 2011

LCass:
ProcrastinatingBride:
Liz4444:
DH's parents are going to be staying here for 2 nights for Rosh Hashanah. His mother is going to be doing all of the cooking, etc but I still really don't want them staying here. His mom gets on my nerves... nevermind it's going to be 1 week before my due date. I really don't need to be sitting here listening to the evils of epidurals and how no one she knows keeps a baby nurse longer than 3 days. When we told her we were having ours for 3 weeks, she started making nasty comments about how 'only Bethany Frankel (the real housewife) keeps them for that long'. Yes, I get it, you and your friends are great and my family and I are snobs, but guess what, your son isn't fighting our lifestyle so shut up!

Can I get away with hiding at my parents house for days and only coming home to sleep? Otherwise, I might snap...
This made me chuckle, I have to admit. My parents offered to come down for Rosh Hashanah (the second day of which is literally on my due date). DH was like, "Um, no thanks!" So I think we're going to pass on their very generous offer. I love my parents and wouldn't mind them coming, but DH is adamant that they stay in a hotel when we first come home with our LO (which I am supportive of - they don't know that he's the one behind that request), and it would be hard to kick them out if they were already staying here for RH.
We'll probably just have a very quiet RH, just the two of us, assuming there's no baby at that point. We've done that before when RH is in the middle of the week (we live 4+ hours from family), and we couldn't take time off from work.
GL with your in-laws!
I'm actually kind of jealous of you both for having family coming/offering to come. We live a couple hours from my family, so going to them for the holidays when I'm due on the 4th is not possible. DH isn't Jewish, so having his family in town doesn't really help, and I haven't gotten involved in the Jewish community since we moved here not too long ago. I asked my parents about coming here for Rosh Hashanah, but I don't know if it's going to happen or not. And I'm not even sure I want them to because they'll insist on staying at a hotel (our bed is a queen and we'd give it to them, but they don't want me sleeping on the twin spare bed and DH on the couch) and I don't want them to have to spend the money on the hotel then when they'll also be doing it once or twice in October when baby's here. We lived out of the country for a couple years and I really missed having the High Holy Days with my family, so it kind of sucks to be back in the country and still not getting to spend it with them.
My FFC: I'm being extra lazy with pregnancy as an excuse and I need to stop. I often find I'm getting DH to do things around the house that I'm still perfectly capable of doing myself. I'm trying to tell myself that this will change now that he's working again (we're both supply teachers, so summer break just ended), but on days when he doesn't get called in to work I feel like I'll still pawn off household chores on him rather than do them myself.

I'm sorry. Sad I have posted here before about how, as excited as I am to have our LO (and she was very definitely planned for), part of me did wish that her EDD wasn't right smack in the middle of the holiday. I hate that my entire family will be together without me there. And honestly, I would almost rather my mom be with the rest of our family than with us. Her parents are in their 90s; it makes more sense to me for her to be with the rest of our family - and them - than us, assuming the baby hasn't come by then.

Mrs. Mo · September 2011

karinothing:
MereB:

Mrs. Mo:
I resent the fact that DH gets to hold our baby practically right away yet I will have to wait at least a good 30-60 minutes (not until I get into recovery & they give me the "ok"). I'M the one that had to go through all the physical pain of all the invasive IF testing & procedures while he just had to j.o. into a cup for his testing/sample for all the iuis/ivf. I'M the one that had to stick myself with needles full or fertility drugs several times a day just to attempt to get pregnant. I'M the one that has had to worry about every.single piece of food/drink I put into my body for the past 9 month as well as all the emotional/physical aches & pains that go with carrying a baby. And lastly, I'M the one that will have to be sliced open in order to bring this child into the word. Yet, I'M NOT the one that can hold her right away. Sure, he can bring her over to me so I can kiss her head but my arms will be strapped down so I can't even touch her. This is SO not fair !!!!

Yes, and thankfully HE'S the one that gets to do all of the diaper changes the first week while it's hard for your to be quickly mobile

I'm having a repeat c/s, and although it does seem like a long time to be away from your baby, it goes by much faster than the time sounds. Sorry you're upset you don't get to be the first to hold your baby, it isn't fair.

I am not entirely sure what your reasons for the c-section are, so this might not apply. However, I do know someone who had immediate chest to chest contact with her infant with a c-section. She said she simply asked the doctors and they couldn't come up with a reason why not. Her DH, obviously had to hold the baby there since her arms were secured until she was stiched up. But when they wheeled her out of the operating room she was craddling her baby. Anyway, always something you could ask about.

Thanks for this ! I have my appt with the doc that will be doing it next week and I will definitely ask her about this. I know it's not the "same" as being able to hold her but it will at least give me some contact with her Smile

karinothing · September 2011

Mrs. Mo:
karinothing:
MereB:

Mrs. Mo:
I resent the fact that DH gets to hold our baby practically right away yet I will have to wait at least a good 30-60 minutes (not until I get into recovery & they give me the "ok"). I'M the one that had to go through all the physical pain of all the invasive IF testing & procedures while he just had to j.o. into a cup for his testing/sample for all the iuis/ivf. I'M the one that had to stick myself with needles full or fertility drugs several times a day just to attempt to get pregnant. I'M the one that has had to worry about every.single piece of food/drink I put into my body for the past 9 month as well as all the emotional/physical aches & pains that go with carrying a baby. And lastly, I'M the one that will have to be sliced open in order to bring this child into the word. Yet, I'M NOT the one that can hold her right away. Sure, he can bring her over to me so I can kiss her head but my arms will be strapped down so I can't even touch her. This is SO not fair !!!!

Yes, and thankfully HE'S the one that gets to do all of the diaper changes the first week while it's hard for your to be quickly mobile

I'm having a repeat c/s, and although it does seem like a long time to be away from your baby, it goes by much faster than the time sounds. Sorry you're upset you don't get to be the first to hold your baby, it isn't fair.

I am not entirely sure what your reasons for the c-section are, so this might not apply. However, I do know someone who had immediate chest to chest contact with her infant with a c-section. She said she simply asked the doctors and they couldn't come up with a reason why not. Her DH, obviously had to hold the baby there since her arms were secured until she was stiched up. But when they wheeled her out of the operating room she was craddling her baby. Anyway, always something you could ask about.

Thanks for this ! I have my appt with the doc that will be doing it next week and I will definitely ask her about this. I know it's not the "same" as being able to hold her but it will at least give me some contact with her

You are welcome. I find that sometimes OBs (and probably all those in the medical profession) get used to doing things a certain way, but if someone actually asks them for alternatives they are willing to help (with in reason). Another tidbit she told me is that you can ask people to move out of the way when they are checking the baby out (weighing, cleaning off, etc). She was telling me that they often just forget that they are in the way and that you probably want to be able to see your baby during this process.

cantalopes24 · September 2011

karinothing:

You are welcome. I find that sometimes OBs (and probably all those in the medical profession) get used to doing things a certain way, but if someone actually asks them for alternatives they are willing to help (with in reason). Another tidbit she told me is that you can ask people to move out of the way when they are checking the baby out (weighing, cleaning off, etc). She was telling me that they often just forget that they are in the way and that you probably want to be able to see your baby during this process.

ITA. They brought E over to me when they were waking me up from being under general and the nurse held him and encouraged me to kiss him and put his face next to mine. I was absolutely horrified because I was so high I had no idea what was going on but thats a totally different story lol. If they could do that for me theres no reason why they should be able to tell you no if you ask!

StephK · September 2011

crystalbaby:
I'm at the OB's office and have obviously been giving a urine sample here since my BFP. For some reason instruction #2 on the sign hanging on the door never registered with me until today. I have been using, what I thought were alcohol wipes, to sanitize the Sharpie (that I use to write my name on the specimen cup) and the stall door handle.
Instruction #2 says to "Clean from front to back." I then realize that they're not alcohol wipes but some sort of wipe to clean yourself before depositing your specimen. The most embarrassing part of this confession is that after I read, "Clean from front to back.", my first thought was not "Wow, these are for cleaning my lady bits." My first thought was, "Why does the Sharpie need to be wiped in a certain direction?"

LOL! Thank you, I need this laugh today. Big Smile

LCass · September 2011

ProcrastinatingBride:
LCass:
I'm actually kind of jealous of you both for having family coming/offering to come. We live a couple hours from my family, so going to them for the holidays when I'm due on the 4th is not possible. DH isn't Jewish, so having his family in town doesn't really help, and I haven't gotten involved in the Jewish community since we moved here not too long ago. I asked my parents about coming here for Rosh Hashanah, but I don't know if it's going to happen or not. And I'm not even sure I want them to because they'll insist on staying at a hotel (our bed is a queen and we'd give it to them, but they don't want me sleeping on the twin spare bed and DH on the couch) and I don't want them to have to spend the money on the hotel then when they'll also be doing it once or twice in October when baby's here. We lived out of the country for a couple years and I really missed having the High Holy Days with my family, so it kind of sucks to be back in the country and still not getting to spend it with them.
I'm sorry. I have posted here before about how, as excited as I am to have our LO (and she was very definitely planned for), part of me did wish that her EDD wasn't right smack in the middle of the holiday. I hate that my entire family will be together without me there. And honestly, I would almost rather my mom be with the rest of our family than with us. Her parents are in their 90s; it makes more sense to me for her to be with the rest of our family - and them - than us, assuming the baby hasn't come by then.

That does make sense. I wish I could comfort myself by thinking that way, but my mom's family lives in South Africa and Vancouver. My dad's family lives close to my parents, so dinner always includes my grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousin, but none of them really care about the holiday and try to rush through "all that Jewish stuff" to just get to food. I know my mom would rather spend it with me, although I also know that they want to go to their shul. Oh, well. Next year we can be with our families, right? With a sweet baby to join us!

ProcrastinatingBride · September 2011

LCass:
ProcrastinatingBride:
LCass:
I'm actually kind of jealous of you both for having family coming/offering to come. We live a couple hours from my family, so going to them for the holidays when I'm due on the 4th is not possible. DH isn't Jewish, so having his family in town doesn't really help, and I haven't gotten involved in the Jewish community since we moved here not too long ago. I asked my parents about coming here for Rosh Hashanah, but I don't know if it's going to happen or not. And I'm not even sure I want them to because they'll insist on staying at a hotel (our bed is a queen and we'd give it to them, but they don't want me sleeping on the twin spare bed and DH on the couch) and I don't want them to have to spend the money on the hotel then when they'll also be doing it once or twice in October when baby's here. We lived out of the country for a couple years and I really missed having the High Holy Days with my family, so it kind of sucks to be back in the country and still not getting to spend it with them.
I'm sorry. I have posted here before about how, as excited as I am to have our LO (and she was very definitely planned for), part of me did wish that her EDD wasn't right smack in the middle of the holiday. I hate that my entire family will be together without me there. And honestly, I would almost rather my mom be with the rest of our family than with us. Her parents are in their 90s; it makes more sense to me for her to be with the rest of our family - and them - than us, assuming the baby hasn't come by then.
That does make sense. I wish I could comfort myself by thinking that way, but my mom's family lives in South Africa and Vancouver. My dad's family lives close to my parents, so dinner always includes my grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousin, but none of them really care about the holiday and try to rush through "all that Jewish stuff" to just get to food. I know my mom would rather spend it with me, although I also know that they want to go to their shul. Oh, well. Next year we can be with our families, right? With a sweet baby to join us!

Definitely. Smile

soon2bjmn · September 2011

crystalbaby:

I'm at the OB's office and have obviously been giving a urine sample here since my BFP. For some reason instruction #2 on the sign hanging on the door never registered with me until today. I have been using, what I thought were alcohol wipes, to sanitize the Sharpie (that I use to write my name on the specimen cup) and the stall door handle.

Instruction #2 says to "Clean from front to back." I then realize that they're not alcohol wipes but some sort of wipe to clean yourself before depositing your specimen. The most embarrassing part of this confession is that after I read, "Clean from front to back.", my first thought was not "Wow, these are for cleaning my lady bits." My first thought was, "Why does the Sharpie need to be wiped in a certain direction?"

AHAHAHAHAAA! I love this.

Liz4444 · September 2011

jonnygurl76:
Liz4444:
MrsClark8109:

I dont do organic...I simply don't see the point in spending the extra money. Yes I get there are pesticides but I don't see an associated risk high enough to warrant spending the extra money. I also don't do all-natural cleaners...chemicals just don't scare me that much I guess...

I'm with you, I really just don't care that much. I also used to work with a few fashion designers who are big organic designers. They showed us these promo videos that they did, and frankly, I was sitting there watching thinking, 'your not ok with chemicals but you are ok with slavery?'. The organic cotton was getting picked in a third world country by an 85 year old woman who's making $0.25 an hour. Then, once it's picked and baled, guess what, that cotton is not being swum over to the US, it's on a plane using what? lots and lots of fuel... Maybe it's just because I found these guys to be complete a$$hats, who have the fashion community kissing their organic denim covered behinds, but it really turned me off to the whole thing.

i am not flaming you Liz4444, but didn't you tell us yesterday that you ordered a $68 coming home outfit that is made of white organic cotton?

I get the confusion. I just buy what I like, if it's organic, so be it, but it's not a selling point to me... what I meant by I just don't care that much is that I won't go out of my way to make sure I'm buying only organic or not buy something that isn't. There are so many people out there who go all nuts with the, "it has to be green", "I won't buy it if it's not organic", even to the point of seeing women on here who write on their registries "my child will be 'green' don't buy me anything not organic". Those people that are very high and mighty about it get on my nerves because they also tend to be the ones that don't know very much about what goes into the making of the clothes.

If something's cute, I won't turn it down because it's organic. I actually didn't even notice that in the description of the coming home outfit... I just looked at the picture!

CakeBatter · September 2011

I'm due 10/19 but I'm secretly hoping I'll go into labor by 10/7 so DH will get out of work. DH is in IT and normally has a M-F 7:30 - 5:00 schedule; however, we just found out that they are demanding that he work all three days of Columbus Day Holiday weekend with no additional compensation (including no comp time off) and no set hours. He can wirk from home but will be expected to be on the phone and computer from the time they start each day until they decide to watp it up. Besides destroying our weekend, D1's daycare is closed that Monday. There's no way in hell I can take care of her for more than 2 hours on my own due to my physical complications, let alone 3 days. DH has family nearby but they are of no help: MIL literally will not play with DD1 (she gets bored) and is just generally not a trustworthy sitter and SIL frequently is ill. I don't know what I'm going to do.

Liz4444 · September 2011

ProcrastinatingBride:
LCass:
ProcrastinatingBride:
Liz4444:

DH's parents are going to be staying here for 2 nights for Rosh Hashanah. His mother is going to be doing all of the cooking, etc but I still really don't want them staying here. His mom gets on my nerves... nevermind it's going to be 1 week before my due date. I really don't need to be sitting here listening to the evils of epidurals and how no one she knows keeps a baby nurse longer than 3 days. When we told her we were having ours for 3 weeks, she started making nasty comments about how 'only Bethany Frankel (the real housewife) keeps them for that long'. Yes, I get it, you and your friends are great and my family and I are snobs, but guess what, your son isn't fighting our lifestyle so shut up!

Can I get away with hiding at my parents house for days and only coming home to sleep? Otherwise, I might snap...

This made me chuckle, I have to admit. My parents offered to come down for Rosh Hashanah (the second day of which is literally on my due date). DH was like, "Um, no thanks!" So I think we're going to pass on their very generous offer. I love my parents and wouldn't mind them coming, but DH is adamant that they stay in a hotel when we first come home with our LO (which I am supportive of - they don't know that he's the one behind that request), and it would be hard to kick them out if they were already staying here for RH.

We'll probably just have a very quiet RH, just the two of us, assuming there's no baby at that point. We've done that before when RH is in the middle of the week (we live 4+ hours from family), and we couldn't take time off from work.

GL with your in-laws!

I'm actually kind of jealous of you both for having family coming/offering to come. We live a couple hours from my family, so going to them for the holidays when I'm due on the 4th is not possible. DH isn't Jewish, so having his family in town doesn't really help, and I haven't gotten involved in the Jewish community since we moved here not too long ago. I asked my parents about coming here for Rosh Hashanah, but I don't know if it's going to happen or not. And I'm not even sure I want them to because they'll insist on staying at a hotel (our bed is a queen and we'd give it to them, but they don't want me sleeping on the twin spare bed and DH on the couch) and I don't want them to have to spend the money on the hotel then when they'll also be doing it once or twice in October when baby's here. We lived out of the country for a couple years and I really missed having the High Holy Days with my family, so it kind of sucks to be back in the country and still not getting to spend it with them.

My FFC: I'm being extra lazy with pregnancy as an excuse and I need to stop. I often find I'm getting DH to do things around the house that I'm still perfectly capable of doing myself. I'm trying to tell myself that this will change now that he's working again (we're both supply teachers, so summer break just ended), but on days when he doesn't get called in to work I feel like I'll still pawn off household chores on him rather than do them myself.

I'm sorry. I have posted here before about how, as excited as I am to have our LO (and she was very definitely planned for), part of me did wish that her EDD wasn't right smack in the middle of the holiday. I hate that my entire family will be together without me there. And honestly, I would almost rather my mom be with the rest of our family than with us. Her parents are in their 90s; it makes more sense to me for her to be with the rest of our family - and them - than us, assuming the baby hasn't come by then.

ok, how about you both come here with your DHs and stay with my ILs and I'll go live in your home for the weekend! Procrastinatingbride, I remember you wanted my MILs yiddishisms... DH knows that after the baby comes, no one we are related to is sleeping in this house, so if the baby is early, well, they are SOL! I would love for them to offer to stay at a hotel, but that will never happen and DH made me feel bad when I alluded to it. No one had better think they are staying here for Yom Kippur!

TheMrs.C2009 · September 2011

I am normally just a lurker, but have a few things to get off my chest today:

1) My BIL and his wife decided last week that they want to throw a co-ed shower for us next weekend. While I appreciate the gesture, I will be 38 weeks pregnant at that point and probably massive. Also, I have been on modified bedrest due to severe back pain for the past few weeks, and although my OB has okayed going to showers, I know I will be in pain for most of the time. But the worst part about all of this... She wants to have the shower at a SMOKEY pool hall!!! Seriously?? She is a mom, so you would think she would remember that pregnant woman + smokey pool hall/ bar = no good! Not sure what I am going to do about it all. She gets her feelings hurt easily, so I can't just send DH and stay at home instead.

2) We are still 3 months +/- from Christmas and I am already getting stressed out about my dad. He normally stays here, but DH and I decided that we wanted this Christmas to be just us, no OOT guests. Although I have hinted at this to my dad, I still haven't come right out and told him that he needs to stay somewhere else( my grandmother lives in town too, but she doesn't have the best housekeeping skills, so he isn't a fan of staying there). I keep preparing myself for the ensuing guilt trip, but just can't do it. Thinking of making DH tell him so that I just don't have to deal with it.

Sorry these were so long! Didn't realize I had so much to vent

crazyjackie · September 2011

I am really annoyed with my mother, she is always making mean and snide comments about my husband. She is NOT coming to my babyshower tomorrow and we are ALL HAPPY because all she does is make all of us walk on eggshells hoping that she doesn't say something mean or stupid. She thinks just she survived cancer 4 years ago that we should all just be happy that she is here and put up with her BAD behavior. I don't even want to let her know when the baby is coming - that is how bad it is.

Also, I am TERRIFIED of birthing this child, TERRIFIED, and my doctor is refusing to let me have a c-section. I am having massive panic attacks....

Finally, I also hate headbands, they are so STUPID.

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