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October 2011 Moms
FFFC... anyone? Let's make it an interesting day
This mama is on bedrest and needs some amusement, so please bring your best!
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Re: FFFC... anyone? Let's make it an interesting day
I dont do organic...I simply don't see the point in spending the extra money. Yes I get there are pesticides but I don't see an associated risk high enough to warrant spending the extra money. I also don't do all-natural cleaners...chemicals just don't scare me that much I guess...
I don't like DH very much right now. I am sure that he's getting the brunt of my hormones and b!tchiness, but he is NOT responding very well. I was whining last night about how sh!tty I've been feeling and how I just want to be done and he said, "you asked for this."
He said it as a joke, but I just wanted to rip his face off. He's always trying to be cute and funny and I am just so over it.
I am on bedrest and sort've losing my mind and what is he doing tonight? Going out with his boys for a last hurrah... SERIOUSLY?
There better be a nice f!cking push present at the end of this.
Aww I can sympathize...my DH said "remember all that crying when the first treatments didnt work...you wanted this more than anything in the world." My response was--"Really? You don't want these babies--fine then get the F out..." needless to say I overreacted and he recanted his previous statement.
Why are they so dumb? Seriously.
I'm gonna get flamed...
I really don't like headbands for babies. Even though some of them are as cute as can be, they look disproportionate to me and SO not comfortable!!! Plus, I really don't like baby pictures where the baby takes a grown-up pose. They're going to be grown-ups for a long time, can't we enjoy them looking like babies?
I am totally with you.
I too do not do everything organic & eco-friendly. Sure, I try my best to pick the healthiest or earth friendly option. I buy in season, grow my own, can my own goods and everything. However, at the end of the day I'm still on a budget and if it is a matter of busting my budget vs the other two, I'm going to side with my budget.
For example, J&J shampoo. Its alot cheaper than California Baby, and I've got a budget. I confess that I feel a little guilty that I am buying J&J, because I want the best for my baby. Other's on this board have made me believe that maybe I am picking a really bad option. Now I feel like because I *know* that J&J is not as good, that I am somehow a bad mommy.
Stupid, I know...
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
I have a couple.
I purposely wear clothes that makes me look reeeeaally pregnant everytime I have to take the subway (even though I'm not particularly big). Could I stand on the 20-minute trip to the Loop? Sure. I've had an easy pregnancy and I'm still feeling awesome Do I want to? Not really. Seats are hard to come by!
H's parents live in NJ and we live in Chicago. H and I get into a horrendous fight before almost every visit that they make. Coincidence... or master plan? I'll never tell.
This is actually a big topic at my work (community college). We try to teach our students to do what they can as far as eco (in terms of the actual environment and employee treatment, etc) friendly products and companies. Even if you can only afford to replace one food or product, or to change on habit it's better than nothing. I think it's silly for people to feel bad that they can't afford to buy all natural/local/whatever products.
Ugh, I can sympathize too. MH has said stuff like this, and it drives me insane. I'd like to see how HE'd have handled pregnancy and its associated crap. Seriously. And not even because of this, but because of other things, he is on my sh!t list today.
I have to think of what my FFFC will be today ... I'll be back.
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I'm annoyed with MH because he is off today and was supposed to get up and get E ready for school and he didn't do it the way he was supposed to, the bed wasn't made and he tried to send him to school with chips, a pudding and a Capri Sun for snack. He has a "half day" today which means they are eating snack at like 9 am, and I already feel judged as a mom there so I feel the need to try to send in healthy snacks so they aren't all "Oh E's mom sent in crap again", especially on a day when they are eating so freakin early! He didn't let the dog out or feed her, or make E's bed. I also got up before him and had to wake E up because apparently I don't understand MHs triple alarm system where he doesn't get up until all of his alarms have gone off, wtf? I also had to supervise breakfast and repack his snack while trying to get ready for work while MH got dressed. So I turned my phone off and he doesn't know my work number at this office and he is so paranoid I'm going to go into labor so I am taking extreme satisfaction in the fact that he can't get a hold of me.
I will give him my work number here in a little bit in case something happens with E but he is under strict orders not to speak to me until I get home. I am being an uberbitch and I really don't care.
My husband is teetering on the edge of the sh!t list too. He briefly redeemed himself yesterday but his sympathy for the difficulties of late pregnancy is sorely lacking.
With the shift in cold weather, I pretty much have no clothes to wear. Yes, I have grown out of my maternity clothes. After having been well dressed all summer, I'm now going to be the crazy realllly pregnant lady wearing summer dresses with cardigans and tights and scarves.
This makes sense, and makes me feel better. I know it is a silly thing to worry about, just some of the recent topics we've had on TB have made me feel guilty about some of the decisions I have made.
People sometimes imply that because other's are not doing all organic or all earth friendly that we are somehow under educated or misinformed.
I'm with you, I really just don't care that much. I also used to work with a few fashion designers who are big organic designers. They showed us these promo videos that they did, and frankly, I was sitting there watching thinking, 'your not ok with chemicals but you are ok with slavery?'. The organic cotton was getting picked in a third world country by an 85 year old woman who's making $0.25 an hour. Then, once it's picked and baled, guess what, that cotton is not being swum over to the US, it's on a plane using what? lots and lots of fuel... Maybe it's just because I found these guys to be complete a$$hats, who have the fashion community kissing their organic denim covered behinds, but it really turned me off to the whole thing.
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I always b!tch at DH that 'he did this to me'. His response is the same as yours, "you asked for it". I want to punch him.
I already got the push present... it's good... I picked it out, though!
My husband has been working out of the house for 15 hours a day this week. Normally he works mostly from home and may have an out-of-office appointment day a week. While it's great money and I know it's not easy for him to juggle everything, I am secretly bitching about the fact that he works on Saturday as well - it's our anniversary, and it's the last one we'll ever have just for us. I know I am being a brat.
I can't believe I am going to say this......
I simply can not bring myself to read the updates on baby Allie. It makes me so sad to read about what she is going through. And the pictures of her break my heart. Flame me. Go ahead. I deserve it. I am a terrible person.
DH's parents are going to be staying here for 2 nights for Rosh Hashanah. His mother is going to be doing all of the cooking, etc but I still really don't want them staying here. His mom gets on my nerves... nevermind it's going to be 1 week before my due date. I really don't need to be sitting here listening to the evils of epidurals and how no one she knows keeps a baby nurse longer than 3 days. When we told her we were having ours for 3 weeks, she started making nasty comments about how 'only Bethany Frankel (the real housewife) keeps them for that long'. Yes, I get it, you and your friends are great and my family and I are snobs, but guess what, your son isn't fighting our lifestyle so shut up!
Can I get away with hiding at my parents house for days and only coming home to sleep? Otherwise, I might snap...
1. I've had a really easy pregnancy and a lot of times don't know how to relate to all the ladies on this board that have had a (much) more difficult time than I. But I do empathize!
2. I cried on Monday at our OB appointment because of my weight. Long story short, I had lost just over 100lbs from 2008-2010 and had maintained about an 80lbs weight loss until I got pregnant. Then I was "banned" from exercising at about 20w pregnant because I would get severe BH's during exercising. Over my pregnancy, I've gained 40lbs, even though I HAVE been really watching what I'm eating, and I crested the 200lbs mark on Monday and I just balled.
This made me chuckle, I have to admit. My parents offered to come down for Rosh Hashanah (the second day of which is literally on my due date). DH was like, "Um, no thanks!" So I think we're going to pass on their very generous offer.
I love my parents and wouldn't mind them coming, but DH is adamant that they stay in a hotel when we first come home with our LO (which I am supportive of - they don't know that he's the one behind that request), and it would be hard to kick them out if they were already staying here for RH.
We'll probably just have a very quiet RH, just the two of us, assuming there's no baby at that point. We've done that before when RH is in the middle of the week (we live 4+ hours from family), and we couldn't take time off from work.
GL with your in-laws!
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Big hugs to you. I remember your weight-loss story and have wondered how it's been for you gaining weight during pregnancy. I lost some weight before getting pregnant too, and I also have been instructed not to work out (since week 27, the first of two hospitalizations).
I pretty much have stopped weighing myself at home because I am worried about how I'll deal with the numbers. I see it once a week now at the doctor's office, but I just am trying to compartmentalize it and worry about it later. I know there are reasons why I'm gaining weight (the baby is gaining, for one thing, and my metabolism does not react well to my current sedentary lifestyle), and I will apply myself to getting the weight off once the baby comes.
I don't know if the harder thing for me is the number on the scale or knowing how much of an uphill climb I'll have in terms of physical fitness when I do go back to the gym. I was averaging under a 10-minute mile for the first time in my life when I got pregnant, and now (and for the past 11 weeks) I am not even allowed to walk on a treadmill.
It's definitely a struggle. You have my sympathy. Just know that this is temporary; you lost all that weight once, and you can do it (with less weight to lose) again.
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That's what I keep telling myself, too.
) Plus I wouldn't trade being pregnant for keeping the weight off.
I agree! My friend wont let her baby leave the house without a headband with a HUGE flower on it. We were out one day and some stranger made a comment "OHH baby grew another head" it totally pissed my friend off, but I couldnt help but chuckle to myself.
I dread finding out what my fitness "level" is going to be like when I go back to exercising. Also, I'm terrified that I won't find the energy or motivation, either. But, my sweet DH, has already told me several times that he will always be willing to drop what he's doing at home and watch DD whenever I feel like going to the gym.
) But like you said, we CAN do this!
i am not flaming you Liz4444, but didn't you tell us yesterday that you ordered a $68 coming home outfit that is made of white organic cotton?
I haven't read the updates since early on, so I wouldn't know that. But I am VERY glad to hear she is thriving and doing well. Thank you for the update.
This is me too - bought all cute summery maternity tops, and now I am down to a pair of yoga maternity pants and maternity stretchy tights. I just alternate them everyday with different tops and dresses and try not to look like a slob.
My confession is I don't understand the women on TB who FREAK OUT about someone touching their child. I see this a lot when lurking on the month to month boards and I just don't get it. Maybe it is because I am not a germaphobe.There will be a string of posts with everyone going "OMG! Someone touched my child!" and "oh here is my story about a time when someone touched my child!"
Luckily I did see a few moms who were like "Eh, I am not that worried about it" so I was relieved to see it is normal not to freak out and run to TB when it happens.
Note: It is usually just touching hands - not licking the kid or something. I know it is flu season and babies put their hands in their mouths, but I still do not see the need to freak out. Wipe their hands after.
Oh and I don't mean inappropriate touching. When I re-read this I realized "touching" could mean something totally different.
That's good to hear; MH has been really great about supporting me in that too.
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Been there, done that! Sat cross legged in the middle of the kitchen floor bawling and holding my puppy for comfort over the stupidest little plan change ever. DH looked at me like I had 3 heads...
I don't get a lot of new parents who let their folks walk all over them as far as inviting themselves to stay at their place within a week after delivery. My mom offered to do this for me and DH, and I shut it down immediately. I poliitely told her that while her mother stayed with her during the first week, she was 23 when she had my brother and my dad went back to work after 2 days. We are both 30 years old and my DH gets two weeks off. She seemed a little bummed but completely respected where I was coming from.
DH and I are adults and as such are a) more than capable of handling our child on our own and b) not afraid to have a potentially uncomfortable conversation with our families in order to express our wants and needs. I just don't get others who can't do this. You're going to be parents. Part of that means making tough decisions and doing things that won't always be popular.
My SIL is already asking "when are you going to start looking for a job" well, before I got pregnant every drs office and hospital had my resume and no one called. I'm not going to come home from the CS and go out looking for jobs that aren't there. NTM, I don't have child care and haven't even thought about it bc I didn't think I'd be returning to work for a while (and secretly hoped that we'd move before that happened). So my SIL instists that she could baby sit. Well, thanks I guess but I won't just have a baby, I'll still have DD who is 8 and SIL never volunteers to babysit her. Also, she's been known to text and drive and drink and drive...So, sorry you won't be watching either of my children and chances are I'll stay home with them until we can move away from you. The worse part is that the ILs are also pressuring me to use SIL for babysitting, since she's close. So maybe I'll rat her out about drinking and driving or maybe I'll keep making excuses as to why its better that I don't work or go out or whatever.
And yes, she would drink and drive with my kids in the car. The other day we all went out to dinner and we met her and her BF at her house. Got to the vehicles and she asked "do you want us to drive or go in your truck" I said "well we're right here so lets just take ours." Then they climbed into the truck and both of them reaked of alcohol. They offered to drive us, her brother, her pregnant SIL and her neice after she had been drinking all day (yes all day, they were off work that day and started drinking at lunch).
A big annoying project is coming up at work soon. I had to do it last year and hated it. I could probably get it done in the next month or at least get most of it underway, but I have passed it on to my part time replacement who is already here and training.
Basically, I just gave her my spreadsheets from last year and held a meeting about what she would need to do, then left it in her hands. This morning, she walked up to me and said, "This looks like it's going to be a pretty big undertaking," and I just gave her a kind of vague, "Yeah, it's a big project" and didn't offer to help.
I'm just not interested in taking something new on at this point in my pregnancy.
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i agree with this 100%. how are you going to be able to speak up for your child if you can't speak up for yourself? grow up and be an adult.