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Captaintightpants
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F/U to As if throwing your own shower wasn't bad enough...
Captaintightpants
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So I got another email from the former co-worker who was throwing herself her own baby shower for her second child because she felt "Cheated" at her first one. She's gift grabby and decided this baby needs new stuff even though she still has perfectly good baby furniture from her first child.
She said that maybe someone should just throw her one since so many people were telling her that they wouldn't come and decided I should throw her one. Um, sorry you don't get to decide that someone is going to throw you a baby shower. So I did reply to this email and told her no, I would not be throwing her a baby shower, and suggested that unless someone offered to throw her one, maybe she should just let it go.
She responds within half an hour (I had my email open, I was waiting on a reply from my editor) about how someone needed to throw her one, because if people weren't going to come because she was throwing it herself, than someone had to throw her one because she deserved one. So again I tell her I wouldn't be throwing her one, wished her luck, then set her email to go to spam. I'm glad I did, because within the hour my spam folder had gone up by nearly 15 emails.
A lot of people are against a second baby shower, so people may be declining because of that, but most likely it's because they know of her gift grabby tendencies and that she only registered for really high dollar items. Out of curiosity I looked at her registry, there was not a single thing on that list that was under 75 dollars.
Part of me thinks I should keep an eye on her on FB just to make sure she doesn't try and tell people that I'm throwing her a shower...I do fear she would not be above that.
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Re: F/U to As if throwing your own shower wasn't bad enough...
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Wow. The only thing I can say is she has balls to demand that you throw her a shower. Especially since she called you jealous in the email she sent you when you declined her invite in the first place.
I still say she got rid of all of her baby stuff as soon as her first out grew it.Either that or she thinks the world owes her just because she is pregnant again.
She still has it, it's sitting in storage. She's confirmed that she does still have it, she just thinks she deserves new things because it's a new baby.
Holy Hannah!! Does her office have padded walls?! I seriously thought I knew some crazy people, but you definitely win. I am so sorry you have to put up with the drama, but you seem to be handling it well AND keeping us entertained!!
Wow she falls into the "the world owes me because I have graced the world with my presence"
Good luck in dealing with her. I just wonder why she thinks you "owe her a shower" after the email she sent you before.
Because I couldn't sleep last night, I decided to read a couple of the emails I sent to spam. I don't know why I thought that was a good idea, but I did. Anyhow, Most of them were just her bitching and whining about how she deserves a shower and that someone should throw her one and how she needs new stuff for the baby. The best one was the one where she said I should be jumping at the opportunity to throw her one. I laughed so hard I almost peed myself. Then I got an email from her brother (Who I actually am friends with) who started the email with:
"I apologize for the large explosion of crazy, I hope you did not die in a petrified mass of WTF."
Which cracked me up more than a little bit lol. He pretty much went on to say she pretty much was telling every family member (Including his wife, who just recently had a baby of her own) that someone had to give her a shower. Now her SIL did not have a shower, but the family and friends (including myself) still bought her several things the baby needed. Except of course for crazycakes, who spent the entire time complaining she shouldn't have to get her anything if she wasn't having a shower. While they were searching for a car seat, their mother brought up that his sister had 3 in storage and to ask her about them. Her response? "NO, those are mine, get your own d@mn carseat." So not only does she have 3 perfectly good ones sitting in storage, that she won't allow anyone else to use, she seems to think she's entitled to new ones.
On facebook she's already started talking about how someone will throw her a shower, and just knows that it's only a matter of time before someone realizes that she deserves one, and her baby deserves the best. Even if she wasn't acting like a self-entitled brat, and someone had wanted to throw her a shower, I'm due in early October, I would have declined the invite anyway. Why on earth would she think I'd like to spend my last few weeks stressing out over trying to put together a baby shower when I still have stuff I need to do to prepare for my own LO's arrival.
This right here is FANTASTIC!
I have a friend who is going to have 2 under 2 in October. She is having her second shower for the second baby this Sat. That's right, she's on shower #2 for the second baby. Her sister threw her one and her mommy group is throwing her the second one. She has two registries set up and her first child is only 20 months old.
Everyone I know around me thinks I'm over-reacting and see nothing wrong with multiple showers. My mom even thought I was talking out of my ass when I told her she should have had a Sprinkle instead, she had never heard of that term.
She is, and actually I think her husband directed this behavior. According her to brother, she wasn't really like this until she married him and his snotty ass family. I didn't know her until after she was already married, so she's always been a crazycakes to me. I just think these kids are going to be such spoiled brats, because of how their parents behave.
A meet the baby party is something different from a shower in my opinion. If you host a meet the baby party, it always means to me you really just want people to see the new baby not so much that you're asking for gifts. No issues with a meet the baby party, big issues with the "I'm entitled, throw me a shower so I can get presents...wah!"