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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
fetal death at 26wks
Hello,
I lost my baby boy on Aug 24th 2011. We buried him on Thursday. This was my first pregnancy and I was so happy to find out I was pregnant. My husband was thrilled because it was a boy. The worst part of it was that there was no indication that he was sick. I just went in for a regular appointment and they couldn't find a heart beat. I was so upset I couldn't even speak. I just hope that god took him from us so he wouldn't suffer in life. I loved him so much and was wondering if anyone could help me. Sometimes I get angry with myself for smiling or not thinking about him constantly. I can't help but fear there is something wrong with me. I think i need to talk to other moms that this has happened to. I miss my baby so much!
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Re: fetal death at 26wks
I am so very sorry for your loss.
No one should have to go through this.
Don't be angry at yourself for a few moments of not thinking of him. If we couldn't have a few moments relief of our pain, we would all be committed or need some sort of pill to help us cope.
I'm so sorry for your loss!! What a horrible thing to happen to you and your family. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
I wasn't as far along as you but I get really upset and can't even leave my bed. Talking with these ladies has really helped me today. I feel better after talking with these ladies. They know what you're feeling and going through. They understand and will support you. This was my first pregnancy as well and I miscarried a week ago when I was 9 wks 4 days.
You will find a way to cope with the loss. Everyone is different. I cried so much this past week and didn't leave my house and I hardly ate. You have to understand it wasn't your fault, I think that's a key to being okay with what happened. There is nothing wrong with you at all. I thought the same thing and my husband just told me our little angel was sent to make us stronger through this experience. I hope things start turning up for you. *sending hugs your way!
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So sorry for your loss!
Don't get upset with yourself for being happy for a couple of minutes. I'm pretty sure everyone goes through the same thing. There will be hours I don't think about my losses and then all of a sudden I get a rush of emotion thinking about the babies I didn't get to bring home.
Hoping that you get more happy moments soon!
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a baby, no matter what stage of pregnancy, is a horrible nightmare. You will be in my t&p.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you can find some comfort here.
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
My daughter was born at 20 weeks, stillborn. We knew a few days before from a Level II u/s that there were lots of problems and that life on this earth would have been so very hard for her. But it doesn't take away the hurt. We also had a burial service for her, which I think helped us, so I'm glad to hear you also had a memorial for your son.
Please don't get angry with yourself for having happy times or times when you are not thinking about your little one. People keep telling me that it will get easier, and I hope that it does for all of us. Some days I have very long times where I feel happy and more like myself. Then some days are not so good, and I miss her and wonder why, if I'll ever feel completely "normal" again. I used to feel guilty, but now most times I am grateful to God for the times during each day that He gives me peace and comfort. Believe me, I still cry and get scared, too.
Take care, and I hope that this forum gives you some comfort as well.
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I'm so sorry for your loss of your precious baby boy. I hate that you have to be here. It's so hard to see so many new people join our "group". I am praying for you and your husband.
I hope you can come here when you feel alone. We're all here for you. You are not alone and the feelings you are having are normal. I didn't have any indication that I would lose my daughter. Her heartbeat went away minutes before they took her by emergency c-section. None of this makes any sense at all.
My faith has been severely tested but I remain faithful. I know that your baby and mine, and all our angels, are resting comfortably in His Kingdom. Angels sing our babies to sleep every night and they are held by His Son, every day. It seems like little consolation, when we miss them so much and want them in OUR arms. But I hope it brings you a little bit of peace. Please come to us when you need to talk. We're all here for you, as we understand how you feel. Lean on those who have walked this path ahead of you. Take care of yourself.