I just messaged DH asking if he could have a little chat with his parents on the drive home from the airport just giving them the heads up that it's late and DD is sleeping so we'll bring her to their room in the morning once she wakes up (or something like that).
DH replied, "Can they just come in and take a peek? They won't wake her up. Just to see her in person?" I replied that I'd rather not. In order to see her they're going to have to come into our room (can't see her from the door) and turn on a light. I just don't want to risk waking her up.
On one hand, I can understand that they came to visit specifically to see DD. Flew 14 hours from across the world - literally. But on the other hand I'll be supremely pissed if they wake DD up by "taking a peek." It will also be weird because I'll probably already be in bed because they won't be home until close to midnight. Ugh! I can see this slowly building into an argument already.
Re: Update to: Am I too uptight?
Sorry but I agree with your H. 14 hours... just to see her.... just a peak... if she wakes up then I'm sure they are rested enough from that 14 hour trip to watch her until she falls asleep again.
Unless they are criminals or creeps I wouldn't be worried about them watching her.
If you are worried about her schedule/cycle/blah blah... i'm sure you've retrained before and this seems to be very important to your husband. I'm sure he will love you more for being sweet and caring about this situation rather than taking charge of the situation.
If you are worried about YOUR sleep and YOU having to retrain her... just let your husband know that if she wakes up that you would like to go back to sleep and he needs to stay up and put her back to sleep. And that he will need to re-sleep train or get her back on her schedule when your in laws leave. I think that's a fair statement for your sanity.
If he has a problem with that then that is when I would be taking charge of the situation.
I agree with this.......its not like they live close and they will be stopping by anytime to see your lo.
Its a once in a blue moon thing........Pick your battles, I don't see this as being one of them. IMO
Yea, let them see her.
I remember your post from earlier and I totally get the whole privacy thing, but just let them take a peek. Don't let it turn into a argument when it doesn't need to be one.
Go Phils!!
Ha, this.
I've learned that there are special occasions and on those special occasions I'm ok with interruptions or slight pauses from my OCDness about my child's "schedule."
They are flying 14 hours, what's another 6-7 hours to wait? What if they "peek" in on her and it screws up her sleep for the rest of the night and then she's cranky the entire next day? What if she ends up sleeping a lot of the next day since they woke her up the night before? Are you going to continuously peek in on her while she sleeps?
Sorry, I think they can just wait. It's really not that big of a deal.
This.