would you a baby name that was also an ex bf?

kimberlyk921 · August 2011

So the name "Vincent" is a family name on my side. My grandfather, dad, nephew all have Vincent as their middle name. We also have a few Vincent's for first names and even a few Vincenzo's, but that dates wayyy back. I've seriously always had that name on my baby list. But it just so happens that I had a semi-serious boyfriend that I dated for 3 years during high school whose name was Vince. I brought up to DH that I love that name and since it runs in my family I would love to carry it on. He said he likes it better then my other choices but he feels a little weird seeing as my ex bf had the same name. Would you still use it or give it up? I hate the idea of giving it up because of an ex bf. Obviously he didn't sour the name for me or anything lol

abba916 · August 2011

hmmm...I usually stay away from ex bf names no matter how long ago or how great the break up was but it sounds like you have different circumstances (the whole family connection).

Do you think your DH is REALLY ok with it?

I wouldnt go near an ex bf name but that is just me.

Arcadia1114 · August 2011

We went through something similar. If LO was a girl, I wanted to name her Karen after my sister who passed away. The was DH's high school girlfriend's name. Luckily, we had a boy or else it would've turned into a battle. DH was absolutely against it.

Aloe0l · August 2011

If it was a typical 2 week type HS boyfriend, I probably wouldn't think twice. A serious boyfriend....I would probably find it weird - though, it's hard considering it is a family name also. If you could make it "different" enough (i.e. different nickname, spelling, etc) I think it would be ok, but, there isn't much room to be creative with "Vincent"

kimberlyk921 · August 2011

Aloe0l:
If it was a typical 2 week type HS boyfriend, I probably wouldn't think twice. A serious boyfriend....I would probably find it weird - though, it's hard considering it is a family name also. If you could make it "different" enough (i.e. different nickname, spelling, etc) I think it would be ok, but, there isn't much room to be creative with "Vincent"

DH did say he liked the nickname Vinny lol

kg_08 · August 2011

That's hard because it's a family name, but I wouldn't be comfortable using an ex boyfriend's name. I split with both exes on good terms, but it would still be weird.

karencz · August 2011

Personally, I wouldn't use it but it's up to you and your DH.

karencz · August 2011

Mrs. Day:
We went through something similar. If LO was a girl, I wanted to name her Karen after my sister who passed away. The was DH's high school girlfriend's name. Luckily, we had a boy or else it would've turned into a battle. DH was absolutely against it.

Well that's my name too so I say you still should!! Wink

MamaNikita · August 2011

if your DH is okay with it, i don't think it's a problem. my dad's name is anthony and so is my serious ex, but i would use anthony as a middle name, not first name. also, my dad goes by tony and not anthony, so if there is a chance of varying it to something other than what you called your ex, it shouldn't be a problem.

Doylesa · August 2011

If DH is okay with it, I would still use it. Your ex was a part of your life years and years ago. As time goes on, obviously it will just get to be more of a distant memory. It sounds like it's a strong family name, so I wouldn't rule it out, unless it make DH feel uncomfortable.

mrs.kapow · August 2011

My H actually suggested Parker as a girl's name and that's my serious ex's last name, so I vetoed it quickly. But we also see my ex a couple times a year and I know it would be a topic of conversation if we named a baby the same first, middle or last name as he has.

BUT none of those are family names for me either. That makes yoru decision more difficult. I would probably relegate it to a middle name, though.

workingmama · August 2011

My favorite boy name is a HS boyfriend's name. We dated for 1.5 years and it is definitely off the table for me. It makes me sad, but it is just too odd even though the ex and I are still friendly and there are no feelings there at all - nor have there been since the breakup so many years ago.

GL with your choice!

emiliemadison · August 2011

Eh, I'm an oldie and high school is so far removed that those names wouldnt really bother me. Of course, if HS was only a few years ago? Yeah that might be different LOL!

riserst · August 2011

emiliemadison:
Eh, I'm an oldie and high school is so far removed that those names wouldnt really bother me. Of course, if HS was only a few years ago? Yeah that might be different LOL!

Ditto this. I couldn't even begin to remember the names of all the kids I dated in high school. It pretty much lasted a week or so anyway... so it really wouldn't matter. My highschool was also huge.. I think I graduated with at least 50 Steven's, Michael's, Brian's... Jeff's ... the list goes on.

If it was a SERIOUS relationship though I would probably boycott the name. My husband and I both love the name Grant. His best friend's name is Grant and my very serious (almost married) x-boyfriend. I just couldn't do it.

LoveMyMen · August 2011

Personally, I wouldn't.

vmm0016 · August 2011

DH's middle name is Jon and if we had a boy he wanted him to have that name. I dated a guy named Jon for a couple months before I meet DH but he knew that and still wanted the name. It seemed a little weird to me but if DH was okay with it I would have done it but since your DH is not okay with it, I would not.

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