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August 2011 Moms
***FLAME FREE FRIDAY CONFESSIONS!***
Anyone have anything to confess?
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Re: ***FLAME FREE FRIDAY CONFESSIONS!***
I've been meaning to confess this one. I never ever read birth stories. I feel very envious of people's vaginal deliveries since I had an unplanned and undesired emergency c-section. I do have some emotional baggage from my experience. I even cried when watching "Knocked Up" because the woman got the natural vaginal birth she had wanted...
just wanted you to cringe...just kidding.
MY FFFCs:
I hate lobster I love just about all seafood but lobster, it actually makes me gag.
I'm tired of hearing about the hurricane, I live in eastern NC and now the only thing on my TV (no cable) is around the clock coverage. Seriously? Its still 12 hrs away, an hourly or bi-hourly update would be plenty.
I have another one!
Our mailman's last day of working our route is today, and our office got him butterfinger wafers as a goodbye present. I hate butterfingers, but I am literally sitting on my hands trying not to open them for myself instead of giving them to him! I think it's the "wafer" part that is calling to me...
I would really be okay with MIL never seeing LO. She is a hot mess and not someone I really want around my child (alcoholic, co-dependant, excuses for other less than upstanding family members, does not have a job--because she chooses not to, generally lazy, all up in other people's business because she has so much "freetime")
Just for the record my mom is a hot mess, too. It is just I know that MIL will press more to see "the baby". My mom could really care less.
Both will be GMA to LO "technically" but will not be actively involved in LO's life or influence them in anyway. They will never spend the night at either GMA's house.
I have worked hard to pull myself out of a dramatic family situation and really have a low tolerance for drama and BS now.
The closer I get to becoming a mom, the more I just want my space. And I get tired of people saying how it is not fair to keep LO away from them. I am not really keeping LO away, just limiting the interaction. Family or not, I will NOT put up with crazy people.
vent/end
My confession:
I want to supplement my BFing with formula, but feel like I'm a terrible mother for thinking this way. LO is constantly hungry and I can't tell if it's a growth spurt or if he's simply not getting enough milk. I tried giving him some Similac last weekend and he spit it out, didn't spit it UP just out when it hit his mouth. I'm trying to tough it out for him, but I feel like I'd be a happier Mom and maybe my crying (and his when he wants to eat) would calm down if I didn't feel so overwhelmed with BFing.
His next appointment is Sept. 1st, so I'll probably consult the pediatrician at that point, but I still feel super guilty.
I considered doing that one day, and then went into labor the next
I'll keep my fingers crossed that you go into labor soon!
We are combination feeding and I had the exact same thoughts at first. I've never been excited to BF but I know it is best so I planned to tough it out. Well our little guy went a whole week without gaining weight so the pediatrician told us to supplement with as much as he would take. That ended up being 2-3 oz at each feeding in addition to what he got from me. I'm not going to lie-I'm a little relieved that the dr told us to do it b/c it really did take a lot of the stress off of me and help me maintain my sanity.
My parents are throwing a "meet the baby" bbq tomorrow and I am dreading it.
Becca will be only 9 days old and I do not want her passed around like a hot potato. I'd like her great grandparents to get the chance to hold her although my grandmother is pretty shaky and almost dropped my first dd when she held her for the first time. I really don't think she should be held by all of my aunts/uncles/aquaintances and I think it will be hard to turn them down. I'm considering keeping her in a carrier for much of the bbq.
Additionally, the bbq open house is from 11:30-4, my older daughter's naptime is at 1:30, she won't sleep at my parents' house because she is terrified of the ceiling fans (I have no clue why, she isn't scared of ours) so she is going to be a disaster mess from lack of sleep and it will throw off her schedule for the next couple of days as well.
I know I sound totally ungrateful for the bbq, I know that it is saving us a lot of money and time and we won't have to do all the clean-up that we would need to do if it was at our house but I just feel like I'm going to tick off family by not letting them hold Becca and my older daughter is going to run amok. Here's hoping that people are understanding and my older daughter is very chilled out tomorrow
I have had a few people offer to throw us on once LO gets here and I hate to sound ungrateful but I really don't want one. Too much trouble for us to get LO out and like you said there is a tendency to do a lot of "baby passing"....
I am dreading going home to visit my parents this weekend. My cousin's bridal shower is this weekend, DD#1 is her flower girl, so I feel obligated to go to her shower. Its a 2.5 hour drive for me, with 2u2 and a dog. I have no motivation to pack. I don't know what I'll do if I have to go to the bathroom. I have no clothes to wear, so I am dreading this shower. I am afraid to bring my newborn around a bunch of people, and I know that people will be stopping by my parents house all weekend to see her.
If I don't go, then I am here by myself with a 22 month old and newborn all weekend because DH works Fri-Sun nights, so I will be alone all night and he will be sleeping all day tomorrow, Sunday, and Monday. I don't know which is worse- traveling with them but having help, or staying home and being on my own.
Dh's family thinks they need to have some sort of get together EVERY flippin weekend it's exhausting! When LO was 2 weeks old, my SIL threw a surprise party for my IL's for their anniversary that isn't until OCTOBER... so here I am trying to pump and have my LO out for the first time for an extended time and I've got everyone passing him around and taking pictures. And next weekend we have to go for 2 birthday dinners.. I hope LO sleeps in his carseat the whole time.
Speaking of taking pictures.. Don't people realize they should turn the flash off when they are taking pictures of a sleeping baby.
I'm a 2u2 person, and I must also confess that I really didn't want 2u2. DH and I decided to start trying for #2 once #1 was 1 year old (and by trying I mean we didn't use protection, I didn't chart or pee on ovulation sticks or anything like that). It took 7 months for me to get pregnant with #1, so we figured even if it took half that time to get pregnant, then there would be at least 2 years between. I was pregnant 3 weeks later! Sooooo..... hello 2u2.
1. MIL has brought over food and means well i guess... but i just want her to STAY AWAY from my son! She will have him 10hrs a day once I go back to work and I dont want her around him more than she has to be. I can't stand her and the only reason is bc I'm jealous she will be taking care of my baby.
2. I absolutely loooove ds, but I miss my hubby. I'm already planning our post baby date. Makes me feel terrible that I am planning and looking forward to something that doesnt involve lo.
Haha...it's really not that bad, I promise!
It's definitely A LOT of work, don't get me wrong. However, it is a lot easier than I could have ever anticipated. It has definitely been easier on us to go from 1 to 2 than it was to go from 0 to 1.
I don't really have anything fun to confess...besides the fact that I still detest breastfeeding. 3 bouts of mastitis and now we're dealing with thrush. NOT FUN!
This. Exactly. I went from a planned waterbirth at home to a c-section which was unplanned and unwanted and not an emergency. I still can't bring myself to look at my incision and am having a really hard time coming to terms with the way the birth went. If you need someone to vent/whine to, feel free to pm me.
My mother dosent care about anyone but herself, and is faking caring about DD.
I'm not the only one who sees it either. Her sister watched her throw a full on tantrum over my mil helping DH get dressed to come into the or for our emergency c-section. Completely ignoring the fact that her beautiful granddaughter was right in front of her eyes being washed and checked over by the nursing staff. Then she promised to come visit me in the hospital early in the day, but didnt bother to show up until right before the end of visiting hours/shift change in the NICU (despite spending hours at my house less than 1/4 mile from the hospital) THEN blamed the fact her husband didnt get to see the baby/she didnt get to spend enough time with the baby on the fact that my inlaws were monopolizing all the available time. (for the record the inlaws spent a total of ten minuites between them in the nicu with me and the baby.)
Three days after I got out of the hospital, mother dear spent a good half hour berating me about not giving a relative face time with the baby, followed by another half hour attacking my inlaws for 'running me over with a (insert cultural slur) train' because they followed DH and my instructions for coming to visit the baby and had the audacity to post pictures of FB of different relatives holding/cuddling the baby. When I broke down in tears at the table, my aunt assumed baby blues (having missed the entire first half of the conversation where I was being bawled out) and mother went running get DH from the upstairs apartment.
DH comforted me, and calmed me down. We go up to get the baby only to find my mother had completely changed the baby's outfit from the skin out for no reason other than she felt like it. (baby had just had her diaper changed and everything prior to mother coming up). She's just a hateful person and I wish I could cut her out of my life completely.
Strawberry's Pumkin; Grown just for her, started on her birth day.
My LO is one week old today and I couldn't be more in love. I feel very guilty about having an unplanned c-section after a failed induction...i never once thought I would have a c-section so I didn't prepare myself for it - the recovery has been so hard I can't even begin to describe it. I never thought it would be that painful. Thankfully, it's been a week and I'm finally feeling better but I am very sad I didn't get the delivery I wanted.
I do not like passing my LO to anyone other than my DH and mom.
Breastfeeding has been a real struggle. I have "flat" nipples and if one more effing nurse told me that in the hospital (I had no idea, I liked my nips) I was going to throat punch them. I have been using a nipple shield bc its the only way she eats - and the pediatrician wants me to wean off of it, etc but my LO will not eat without it. I've been pumping which helps but again, I never knew all of this would be so hard...
Baby wear!!
I scan through birth stories and don't read the whole thing.
I read the part about their dilation (ie: I was then 9cm and...), the pushing or c-section part (ie: After 2 hours of pushing...), and the weight of the newborn.
In other words-- I look for numbers: 9cm, 2 hrs, 8lbs 2oz.
That's about it! lol
No, MIL. We do not need you to babysit our 2 week old baby.
1. You don't have milk coming out of your boobs.
2. The added difficultly of bringing a newborn on a date is limited to carrying in a car seat. The worry of leaving a baby at home would be much worse.
We'll call you when we're ready. We're aware that you're waiting.
Other confession: Thanks to our ped being very conservative on things to do with a newborn, H won't let anyone hold baby unless they've washed their hands or doused in hand sanitizer. Today I went to visit my office and cringed as I insisted that they do the same.
Hahahaha, this is what I want to do when my baby decides to make an appearance...I just hope I will have your strength to do it. Good for you!
This makes me sad (that you feel guilty) because I see myself in you. We had to supplement. My milk didn't come in until over a week after the boys were born. I spent hours (yes, hours) with a lactation consultant in my room. Both she and the nurses felt awful for me because neither boy wanted to latch. Even now, I'm pumping and feeding through a bottle. I'm only making enough for one boy to get BM per feeding, so they're currently 50% BM/50% FF.
It's the way it is and I had to be OK with it, even though I was (and am) so, so disappointed. Our pedi put it well though...the boys are still getting the benefits of BM and I am no less bonded with my boys than I would have been had I EBF. We still have lots of cuddle time, chest to chest time, and the like. My boys will not love me any less because they had to be supplemented, and your LO won't either!
I hate the fact that I am only surviving day to day because of the Zoloft the docs put me on.
I'm pretty much REALLY pissed at my FI (if he's even that anymore?). We've been together for 10 years and have two really beautiful girls. He's out meeting with an attorney right now to solidify his rights to our kids. So, I've been researching an attorney myself. I've also been trying to figure out my rights to the house, custody of the girls, along with child support. While things have been decent here around the home, I know our relationship is over.
He claims it's because he doesn't love me the way he should, but I know it's because of the other woman.
So, basically, I have two beautiful daughters and a boyfriend that doesn't want me. You think your life sucks because H wont change a diaper? Try living my life.
I used a nipple shield for 14 months with no problems. And I had 2000oz in the freezer no supply issues. Don't let your ped stress you out about that, you have plenty of time to wean from it, your nipples will become more erect with time. I haven't had to use a nipple shield this time at all.
I am going to be in the same boat when LO arrives.
No matter what brand.. size.. shape.. texture.. absorbency.. they all give me "diaper rash". I also feel like I am wearing a diaper!
Is it bad that I snagged an extra diaper rash cream to stick in my bathroom to use for myself? I am definitely a tampon person.
I pretty much just want to hit DH all the time. He usually isn't even doing anything annoying, I am just itchy and cranky and can't stand the sound of his voice.
And I had a banana split for dinner. I ate the whole banana and only one scoop of ice cream, at least.
*shudders* That is a horrible feeling.