What are your thoughts on having twins?

Dori722 · August 2011

Just thinking and curious....

As we are in our first cycle of IVF, I have thought a lot about how I would feel if we do have twins. Half of me would be really excited...after all the pain of trying to conceive, we would have not one but two sweet babies and I would never have to go through another fertility treatment again. Then the other half of me feels like life would be insane and could I handle it? I also wonder if I would tell people we went through IVF if they asked. Coincidentally twins do run in my family...but I know I always wonder that when I see a woman with twins.

I was just curious, how do you all feel about the possibility of having twins???

kosmos · August 2011

I've thought of this too. I think I would be okay with having twins. Like you said, I'd never have to go through another fertility treatment again. That would be lovely!

However, right now, I just pray for one healthy child.

bumpuser6119831 · August 2011

Most of the time I am ok and happy with the thought process but then I think about the cost and everything associated with twins and I get a little freaked out. That was one question the RE had for us today while we were there. We said we would be ok with having twins if we are so lucky.

chrissyandpaul · August 2011

DH and I talk about this alot. Since a kid I've always wanted twins, but they do not run in either family. We are currently going through our first IVF cycle and would love it if we found out we were having twins. I know things may be a little crazy having 2 babies, but I look at this way; since I won't know any different how crazy could it really be. I certainly would not be disappointed if we did not end up pg w/ twins.

twotexans · August 2011

We honestly used to love the idea. With RSD, pregnancy can be tricky so the idea of two at once was ideal. Now, it is something I do not wish for, mainly because I've watched what my BIL and SIL have gone through. They have 2 year old boy/girl twins from IVF. They never got a break. Now, if it did happen, we would handle it and ask for lots of tips, but we no longer think it's a great idea.

pantsarella · August 2011

Before all this started, I would have said that I would be totally freaked out by twins- twice as much work, cost, etc. But now, honestly, bring on the twins! Only having to go through this stuff once would be a blessing!

sarahtoledo · August 2011

I know you're not supposed to hope for twins, but I sometimes do. We're 37 and will not go through all this again for a second baby, so twins would be great in that way. Of course, twin pregnancies are riskier and two babies at once must be so.very.hard.

I try to be okay with the idea because we have a 20% risk of twins.

MandaS08 · August 2011

chrissyandpaul:
DH and I talk about this alot. Since a kid I've always wanted twins, but they do not run in either family. We are currently going through our first IVF cycle and would love it if we found out we were having twins. I know things may be a little crazy having 2 babies, but I look at this way; since I won't know any different how crazy could it really be. I certainly would not be disappointed if we did not end up pg w/ twins.

This is exactly how I feel. I'm sure twins is SO much work, but if I don't know any different then I would adjust. I have a few friends that have triplets and they couldn't be happier! (trips for me would be a bit much though!)

kerivp · August 2011

The thought of this does freak me out a little...thinking how I would handle twins, plus a toddler. However, I think I would be excited if I found out we were expecting two!

genmalone · August 2011

I know there are additional risks but I'm okay with twins. I can't imagine doing this again so we're one and done.

My hs bff has ivf triplets and I wouldn't want to trade with her. Her pregnancy was really tough and she was on bed rest off and on for 6 months. She loves them and wouldn't trade it for anything.

byrne15 · August 2011

Before IF...the thought of twins totally freaked me out.

However, where I am now, totally ok with it.

kz's_girlygirl · August 2011

Twins run in Dh's family, so there's a chance either way for us. We would be thrilled and count ourselves doubly blessed. ( And doubly tested, lol!)

Eve_Angelique · August 2011

I would LOVE twins! DH and I are both pretty excited at the thought of twins, although a healthy dose of nervous-ness at the thought of two as well!

jessican08 · August 2011

To be honest, my biggest concern would be a safe PG and healthy babies.

It would be tough to raise two babies at the sime time, not saying it wouldn't, but you do what you gotta do! I think it might be more difficult too if you'd already had a singleton and then had twins because you know going in that it would be "different" but I've heard lots of MoMs say that they don't really think much about it because raising two at the same time is all they know.

I don't think I would hesitate to tell people they were conceived through IVF but of course what I say I would do and what I would do might be totally different. I guess it would depend on who was asking and why they were asking.

kelnyc · August 2011

Yes please!

(I am a twin and have always wanted to have twins, so the fertility treatments have just made that more of a possibility.)

ELF4321 · August 2011

We would prefer a singleton birth -- at my age (37), a pregnancy may already be hard on my body and a twin pregnancy would multiply the risks so much. I'd be nervous if we ended up with twins. Esp. since DH travels a lot for work and we don't have any family in our area -- I can't imagine trying to take care of two babies on my own when he's traveling.

MrsZ816 · August 2011

I have always thought I might have twins. Twins run on both sides of my family and my sisters are twins. The baseline ultrasound I had before starting Clomid was right before I O'd and I had 2 dominant follicles. So we know that uneven unmedicated there is a chance of twins. Part of me is terrified but part of me knows if my mom did it with a 2 1/2 year old then I can do it with no other children!

Mrs.JulesH-S · August 2011

I would be TOTALLY cool with having twins. Since DD is so much older, it would be a lot easier.

ccam · August 2011

I think we'd be okay with it. The actual pregnancy and the health of the babies would make me nervous, but without having any other kids, we would know no different in terms of raising them. DH is actually hoping for twins, but I don't think he really understands what he'd be getting himself into. It definitely wouldn't be easy!!

farmerlynda · August 2011

jessicandavies:
To be honest, my biggest concern would be a safe PG and healthy babies.

This. I've always thought I'd love to have twins -- but most of all I would love to just have a healthy, normal pregnancy and a healthy, happy baby. (Oh, and did I mention it would be great if this happened ASAP?)

I am probably different from most in that I would like to give birth at home under the care of a CNM, as long as I am low-risk. Obviously that wouldn't be possible with twins. (Note: if I lived in a big city, my preferences for birth would probably be different... but trust me, I've done tons of research and the hospital options around here just aren't great.)

Those are my "secret" preferences. If I got pregnant with twins? I'm sure I'd be over the moon, because heck... I'd be pregnant!

Aime32 · August 2011

it does make me nervous about the risky pregnancy and caring for both babies at the same time....however, DH and I are both open to having twins.

Megaloo05 · August 2011

Ive thought of it and talked with my husband about it. In the beginning of our TTC journey he was absolutely against having twins (like he could control it right?!?). Now that we are 13 months into our TTC journey and facing treatments, he is okay with it. We would both rather have 1 at a time but we would be okay with 2 at a time. The thought of more than two at one time scares the sh!t out of us. (we aren't naive, we know its a possibility). My two best friends have twins and one of them I babysit all the time. I am used to twins and I am comfortable with them. Overnight too. Its a ton of work thats for sure.

BzeetyD · August 2011

jessicandavies:
To be honest, my biggest concern would be a safe PG and healthy babies.

This. We just had this conversation with our RE the other day. I am ok with twins if it happened to me, but I am not interested in filling out our family any sooner than we'd planned.

I have a friend who gave birth to triplets at 24 weeks, lost 2 of them immediately and the third is still in the hospital, 8 months later. Not a good situation for anyone.

The risks are so much higher for both the mother and the babies. Once they're born, at least they'd be here and taking care of them would be an issue, but not that big of a deal. It's before they came into the world that I'd be worried about.

CGoldman96 · August 2011

I would be tickled pink. I think DH would be a little nervous. We have a really good support system, with both my parents and sister living a few blocks away so we would have a good bit of help when we needed it. I, too, would not do any further treatments if we were to have twins. I hope and pray we are able to have at least one healthy baby.

Blueyed228 · August 2011

We are ok with it. I am going to be a SAHM, both of our moms are retired and my mom lives in the same town, H has a great work schedual and is around a lot during the week, and we have a great support system.

Thats not to say it would be easy or the most ideal, but I would be happy if it happened.

hootie123 · August 2011

Doing medicated fertility treatments - you almost have to be open to the thought of having twins. We plan on transferring 2 embryos b/c we are ok with the thought of twins. At this point I would be so happy with any pregnancy - so I would be thrilled either way.

weddinginbloom · August 2011

I'm scared of the risks to the health of the babies and having them come out way too early. I've seen a few people from this board have some very serious health issues with their new twins.

Trish11278 · August 2011

Through this entire process I would be so grateful to have twins and have pretty much prepared my DH and myself for it.

CTumelty · August 2011

We are now trying to decide if we are going to transfer 1 or 2. My DH is against twins for many reasons but mainly he is worried for my health as well as the babies. We already had one mc would we be able to handle if we lost one twin or possibly both? Me on the other hand keeps thinking about my age and how many babies I want. My RE is pushing for us to transfer 1 because of the high grade embroys. It's a tough decesion that is going to take a lot more talking on our part.

bhead81 · August 2011

We are okay with having twins but with that said it also scares me a lot. I know we can handle raising them as I work with twins currently (have since they are days old and they were meth addicted) but I worry about safely caring them to term. I want to have kids and their health is upmost important so the complications that can arrise with twins does worry me.

Temp423319000008365 · August 2011

I would LOVE love love twins! I think that would be the biggest blessing in the world. Difficult, yes. But so wonderful too!

Mrs.Slick · August 2011

Knowing there are many more risks, I would feel very blessed to become pregnant with twins. I have no illusions that it's all about ::squeeee! matching outfits!:: and such but I would love it, I'm sure.

kellygksu · August 2011

I had a dream last night that I was pregnant with twins! It actually said "twins" on the pee stick that they gave me immediately after the lap that I had in my dream...hmmmm....I think this is just anxiety over the upcoming lap!

The idea of twins makes me a little nervous due to health of the babies and financial reasons. However, we'd like to have two kids, and it would be nice to never have to go through this TTC BS again!

KateBee · August 2011

kellygksu:
I had a dream last night that I was pregnant with twins! It actually said "twins" on the pee stick that they gave me immediately after the lap that I had in my dream...hmmmm....I think this is just anxiety over the upcoming lap!

I love this dream! Wouldn't it be great if pregnancy tests actually worked like that?

I would love twins. I have twins on both sides of my family, so I've always known it was a possibility. At this point I'd just like to have a healthy, happy baby, but if we had twins I would be just as thrilled.

ufsandra85 · August 2011

i think it is exciting and scary. When I was pregnant before I was pregnant with 2 babies. the reason I dont say twins is that they were different gestational ages. Yeah I am like one of those news specials. Unfortunately we lost both of them. I was excited and scared. Scared because i knew I had a 97% of losing both of them. Excited because I was pregnant. My sister was pregnant with twins but lost the other one at 16 weeks. I think I would rather have 1 baby for health reasons because I am not sure my uterus can handle 2 babies but I would like to have 2 because then I would have 2 babies and wouldnt have to go through all this again. I think if i was pregnant with twins I would never be able to relax and always be scared. i guess i would just be thankful to have one baby in my arms but we have enough love and money for 2

machole513 · August 2011

We would be ok with it, growing up I had twin uncles and my brother had twins (boy/girl) and they are going to be 3 this fall. They are SUCH a handfull. I would be happy with just one of course especially I know how crazy life can be with twins!

kellyrn9956 · August 2011

It would be fabulous, but scary to me for two reasons:

1. The cost of day care

2. I have a hole in my heart, and the extra blood flow may end me up on bed rest (but that could happen for me with a singleton anyway...)

Ms H13 · August 2011

Twins would be perfect!!! Even before we started TTC (long, long ago) DH and I talked about how we were hoping for twins, and that hasn't changed one bit! Of course we'll be over the moon if we get pregnant, whether singleton or multiple, but if I/we could choose we would choose twins.

AKB090609 · August 2011

I would be A-OKAY. There are so many sets of twins and HOM in my family that I am used to caring for more than one baby at a time, plus I often am alone with four infants at work so I am up for the challenge.

HotChocolate79 · August 2011

Like others, the idea of never having to deal with IF again is appealing to me because frankly, I can't imagine doing this more than once. On the other hand, I can't imagine two babies. The one couple I know who has twins has a SAHM and a live-in nanny, and she still says she feels like going crazy. The SAH thing is definitely not in the cards for us.

This is a long-winded way of saying I have no idea. If this is what the universe sends our way, we'll take it and be grateful.

blueberries8 · August 2011

It is very hard for me to imagine that I even might ever become pregnant with twins at this point. I think they say the chance of twins is highest with the first IVF and after that the chance goes down considerably. Last round we transferred 3 good embryos and nothing stuck, so I am hoping & praying very hard just for anything to stick for our 3rd embryo transfer.

In principle, I would love twins - if we manage to have one, we would keep doing IVF to build our family but the idea of a guaranteed little family even without going through this hellish process again or even with going through it again but not succeeding, is very enticing.

On the flip side, I am also pretty scared of twins - not so much the amount of work, I think we could figure it out, but the risks of the pregnancy. I feel like a lot of the time that you see awful complications, especially when it involves pre-term labor, it's usually with twins and of course there are no guarantees that that isn't going to happen to me, too, if I am carrying twins. I also think the pregnancy itself, even if healthy, is no walk in the park at all compared to carrying a singleton!

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