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NewFamily09
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Double baby shower?
NewFamily09
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Has anyone ever been to or hosted a baby shower for 2 people? I posted the other week about wanting to throw a shower for a girl at church. She is very young, unmarried, and has been going through some rough times. People at her work have been judging her and no one is throwing a baby shower for her. I thought maybe we could throw her one at church. Anyway, 2 other girls approached me because they had the same idea and wanted to know if we could all plan it together. The only difference is that one of them wants to make the shower for her sister in law also, who's due a few weeks earlier. I thought this was kind of weird. I thought of throwing a baby shower for the first girl because I know she's in a rough situation and it sounds like people are being mean to her. It would be a nice way to show her that people do care about her. This other pregnant woman is doing fine though. I volunteer with her in the nursery and she seems to be doing just fine- never mentions anything bad happening to her. I guess maybe there could be some situation with her too. I don't want to stir up drama, but I've never heard of having a double shower, especially for two MTB's who hardly know each other- or at least never act like it when they're together. One one hand, MTB's should be grateful for any shower they can get. On the other hand, I wouldn't think it'd be much fun to share your shower with someone else. Should I say something about splitting up the baby showers or keep my mouth shut and go along with it?
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Re: Double baby shower?
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I also think it'll be a bit awkward.
Really, I think it will be downright confusing. What it guests don't want to give a gift to both ladies? Awkward... What if the gifts get mixed up?
This MIGHT work for sister/cousins. Strangers I can't see this going well.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
The only way I would ever do a double shower would be if the two moms were close friends or family, but because these two are not, it would be really weird. Definitely keep the showers separate. On another note, good for you, throwing a shower for this girl who's having a tough time! That's really sweet
I am a teacher; we have joint showers for co-workers all the time, but that's because everyone knows one another. The "guest list" is only other teachers who work at our school. If you are sending out invitations to people, like the friends and family of the mother-to-be, I think it would be awkward to have more than one guest of honor. As a guest, I would feel obligated to bring a gift for both women, and if I don't even know one of them I would be put off by it.
As a side note, I don't think that the other woman's situation has any relevance. You mentioned that you think she's "doing fine" and that you don't know of any hardships. While that's wondeful for her, it's really neither here nor there when it comes to offering to throw a shower. You should host it because you want to give the gift of a shower to her, not out of need or necessity.
The only double shower I've been two was for two best friends who I grew up with. Their babies were due a week apart. So it made total sense that their shower was combined. But they each also had other showers separately thrown by their families, co-workers, or church members. I thought it was a nice idea.
But for these two women who barely know each other, I think it's weird. If your church normally throws a baby shower for members who are expecting, it wouldn't be quite so weird to combine them. But if they usually don't, I think you should say something to the other girl and keep them separate.