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SS calls me mommy

alyssafaretraalyssafaretra member
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Hi, I'm not really new to this, I've just never posted before. My SS is 2 and has been calling me mommy he basically started talking. I came into the picture, when he  was only 4 months old. I've tried to correct him, but he thinks its funny and says "no, mommy" I would be like Bobby, my names Alyssa baby, but he just doesn't get it. I feel bad that he does this and DH and I have fought because of it, but we've literally tried EVERYTHING. My mom says its because he loves me so much, and his "real" mom makes him her last priority, and so that's why he clings to me so much. Any advice on how I should go about this situation?
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  • thesuttons53787thesuttons53787

    My niece called her step-father "Dad" after he came into her life around 3 or 4. Her biological father wasn't around much until he saw someone else stepping up to the plate. Now my niece is 13, and lucky for her she has both dad's in the picture, while living with her mom & step-father full-time. When she's at home, she calls my brother in-law "Dad", and her bio-father "Daddy John". But she's respectful enough to call her bio-father "Dad" when staying with him & talking to him on the phone. If she really didn't want to call her step-father "Dad", she wouldn't have to, but that's who he's become to her...

    I would just let your SS do what's comfortable for him, but when you can make it known that he should call his bio-mom "Mommy". Like if she calls to talk to him or comes to pick him up, continue to say "Mommy's on the phone" or "Mommy's here".

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  • mrsgabusmrsgabus member

    My DS calls my husband Daddy, My husband came into my life just after my son was born and when my son began to talk he automatically called My Dh his daddy. We tried to correct him but eventrually we let him make his own desicion on what he wanted to call my DH. (however My son has not seen his father in 3 years,and really only saw him on occasion the year before that... he is 5 years old now)

    So In my case Dh is the only father is knows so it makes sense that DH is called such.  Children at that young of age can see people in a different light, I would keep working on it but in the end that may be what he calls you. Maybe he can add your name to it ..such as Mommy A"


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  • FutureMrsDrew73110FutureMrsDrew73110 member
    I started dating my DH when my youngest SS was 3 months old. When he started talking I too was "Mommy". We always corrected him, but he would just get mad and yell "Mommy" back. He is now 5 and calls me Mommy, Step-Mama (like his sister) or Amy (like his brother). It depends on the day/ time and what else is going on. But so long as the child continues to call the parent their appropriate title, I don't see anything wrong with the child calling the step-parent with what they're comfortable with.
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  • alyssafaretraalyssafaretra member
    thanks ladies.. =] and he does call her by her appropriate title, but for a while he wasn't. I believe though that it was her fault for not spending that much time with him. I feel bad when he calls me mommy in front of her though, so I try not to be in the same room with them together to avoid that awkwardness.
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  • lexusedmondsonlexusedmondson

    As long as you and your husband are comfortable with him calling you that I think thats all that matters. If his mother gets upset its not like you are teaching you to call him that. And in my opinion if you have been in his life since he was 2 you are his mommy, you didn't give birth, but if you change him, take him to the doctor, hold him when he cries what else would you call that than a mommy? 

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  • alyssafaretraalyssafaretra member
    thank you, and I've been in his life since he was basically 4 months old, so that's why I couldn't blame him for thinking I am his mommy.
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  • luckyangelluckyangel member

    imagealyssafaretra:
    Hi, I'm not really new to this, I've just never posted before. My SS is 2 and has been calling me mommy he basically started talking. I came into the picture, when he  was only 4 months old. I've tried to correct him, but he thinks its funny and says "no, mommy" I would be like Bobby, my names Alyssa baby, but he just doesn't get it. I feel bad that he does this and DH and I have fought because of it, but we've literally tried EVERYTHING. My mom says its because he loves me so much, and his "real" mom makes him her last priority, and so that's why he clings to me so much. Any advice on how I should go about this situation?

     

    All my skids call me Mama, Mom, Mommy.  The counselor said that children should be allowed to call the caretakers in their lives whatever makes them comfortable.  Just let it be and be glad that you're that important to him. 

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