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May 2011 Moms
How rude is this??
Got a baby shower invite on facebook, so that's problem #1. The couple is hosting the shower themselves, and how close is this to blatantly asking for gifts??
"Who's excited?! We are!!! We would love to have you at our co- ed shower this August and hope that all of the details provided are helpful.
* Sex: It's a boy!
* Gift Registry: Target and Burlington Coat Factory, also the house is a work in progress so Home Depot gift cards would be much appreciated 
* Gifting preferences: Home Depot giftcards help because we are building a baby room! Also, the cloth diapers and laundry items are a priority to us. Please DO NOT purchase any disposables for us.
* Used items welcome: bibs, stroller, burp clothes, clothes: 6 months+, receiving blankets, ALL- IN- ONE CLOTH DIAPERS :-)
* Registry priority: There are no duplicates between the two, please shop at whichever store you frequent/ prefer. We're grateful for whatever you choose!
For all of our out of state family and friends, this serves as an announcement. Feel free to ship something if you'd like, but most of all we wanted you to know :-)"
This is the actual invite, I don't even want to go but feel obligated 
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Re: How rude is this??
Baby #2 on the way!
This is officially the tackiest invitation I've seen for any event ever. I wouldn't go because of it. But I'm really sensitive to things that I consider tacky or impolite.
ETA: I just saw your comment about the updates they posted. Yeah, I wouldn't be speaking to this couple again. That is beyond rude.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
It gets worse
the shower is this weekend, so we've been recieving updates all week...
Shower is at a restaurant, I'm honestly surprised they are paying for anything!
"Please note: You can open your own tab from our party room if we don't have the menu items that you like; we've tried to pick sauce flavors people like etc. We will not be serving soft drinks, beer, etc. Just a heads up so you can plan accordingly."
And most recently
"Some have asked/ commented about our registry items. Although they were not "online only" when we registered for them, some of have been clearanced out of the stores and are online only at this point. Given our inclination toward cloth diapering and natural products, a lot of research went into the items we've selected. For that reason, we will not be changing the items. I hope this does not discourage you from attending or gifting. I'm sure that if you purchase now, your gift will arrive on time. Thank you in advance for your understanding, and have a great week. See you on Saturday!"
My mouth hit the floor!!
Whoa. That is pretty crazy! In addition to the other things already mentioned, I am laughing at the note to those from out of town... "feel free to ship something...." ha ha.
Love it.
This! A huge box of 'em! And telling the out of towner's to ship them gifts? Really? WOW! Everything in this post made my mouth fall wide open in shock!
DS1 Born Apr 29 2011
DS2 Born Nov 5 2013
Pregnant with #3 Dec 24 2014, MMC found at 10w, D&C Feb 10th 2015
Cautious BFP May 25th 2015 EDD Feb 6 2016
I'm tempted to just bring the $40 I would have spent on a gift and after me and my hubby pay for our food and beverages give them the change! I really would just not go, but the restaurant is ACROSS THE STREET from my apartment complex and I really do love buffalo wild wings! I will bring the baby and hence have an excuse to leave early...
I think you should set up a lawn chair in front of your apartment complex and give them the evil eye when they load up their car with gifts after the shower.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
The part that bothers me the most is that this is also serving as an announcement for the pregnancy. They couldn't bother telling the people that they were pregnant but when it comes to present time they can let that set of family and friends know. Really? That's awful. Anyone that was important enough to invite to the shower should have been important enough to know she was pregnant in the first place.
Ugh, just tacky all around.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
This.
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Tempted! But I don't know if she has or will join the Bump, but I doubt she'd be frequenting our board. I would feel terribly awkward if she came across this! I don't know why! lol! If she doesn't feel bad about it...
Not only are they rude they are just plain stupid IMO.
"lso the house is a work in progress so Home Depot gift cards would be much appreciated"
Um yeah- this isn't a wedding shower- the gifts are for the baby, not you.
* Gifting preferences: Home Depot giftcards help because we are building a baby room! Also, the cloth diapers and laundry items are a priority to us. Please DO NOT purchase any disposables for us.
I registered for cloth diapers and if people asked what we really needed off the registry, I let them know that the diapers were important to us. That said, we got 20 cloth (10-25lb AIOs) and 60 newborn disposables and about 200 size 1 disposables. When people saw the cloth at the shower, many commented on them- they had not read the registry at all- oh well. The NBs and size 1s came in handy before LO fit in the cloth (he was 7lb1oz at lowest weight so they were too big at first). And even once we started on cloth I always keep disposables in my diaper bag just for space saving reasons.
Telling guests what's a good gift? (used clothes, size 6 months+?) Register for size 6 month clothes and up and if people don't want to buy off the registry be grateful for whatever they buy you. We had barely any clothes that fit LO when he got home from the hospital and have so many 6 month clothes we'll be lucky if he wears each once- that's what happens when people give you clothes. It was still very nice of everyone to give us the clothes.
I would buy them some size 0-3 month clothes and disposable diapers- but I'm mean like that .. .
buying a gift could never be mean!! I can't wait to tell you guys how this shower goes! lol!
Cannot believe that invite! Some people just have no clue. I as well was waiting to read that is was a gag! Nope
Looking forward to hearing all about the shower.
I would also give something that was not on the registry! Their rudeness deserves a sly response
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
No clue why they can't buy pop! What is that like $1 per person? And since the shower is at 2:30 they are avoiding lunch/dinner. I kinda doubt it will even be a full meal
I agree, they should save their money any buy what they want/need. Honestly, I have yet to look at the registries. I've been far too turned off by the whole situation to seriously look into getting a gift. I will probably give cash. I imagine others will too. Probably will make for a boring shower.
I can only imagine since they felt the need to broadcast that you can still buy the clearanced out items they want online! They should have just designated a dollar amount for each person to give (bet they thought about it!), it's ridiculous!
Oh, I would NOT give them exactly what they want. I would give them something you know they'll hate and not give a receipt!
Heck yes! Don't give in to their princess requests. I would buy them disposables, non-organic clothes, used 0-3 clothes. People that rude about what they want, going as far as to put it down in such detail on the invite need a rude awakening. Sorry, that just really ticked me off that there are people so rude in this world. I wouldn't even go, but that's just me, and Not send a gift.
tacky doesnt even cover this---- more like G-H-E-T-T-O!!!! GL is the resturant in the hood? wth?
I would not go, or call these people friends. sorry
DS Desmond Alexander 6.9.11
DD Vivienne Elena 12.16.13
? EDD 3/29/2018
Haha that made me laugh! That would be hilarious!
I can't believe it is serving as an announcement either. If it were me, I would be sending her used premie clothing and some Walmart diapers wrapped in Christmas Paper.
Even if it's the tackiest invitation ever... intentionally buying something they do not want and will not use just to spite them isn't exactly classy.
Maybe not, but I'm sure the look on their faces would be worth it for the OP. They deserve something for being as rude as they were to their friends.
Look at it this way, they're still getting a gift!
That is quite possibly the most fabulous thing I have ever seen.
Is she planning on letting the baby sh!t merconium in her precious cloth diapers? Ew. There is no way I was letting that happen.