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MommyMals2012
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**VENT** If I hear that one more time...What are you tired of people telling you!?
MommyMals2012
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I know that people mean well when they give me there "best pregnancy advice", but if I hear..."aww, it will get better soon." one more time I am going to scream!
What is something that you are tired of hearing, weather it is dumb pregnancy advice or something that just makes you want to SCREAM!!!
(just thought it would be good to see what else is driving the bumpies crazy, besides morning sickness and constipation!)
so lets hear it ladies...
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Re: **VENT** If I hear that one more time...What are you tired of people telling you!?
"Get your fill of sleep now, because you won't sleep later!"
Right, are you saying there's some way to SAVE sleep for use later? And, please, while there were plenty of late nights when my son was an infant, that period was such a short blip in his childhood I barely remember it.
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I'm just tired of people telling me only negative stories. Like the second anyone finds out I'm pregnant it's all "OMG you're going to be so miserable and tired and never sleep again" and "Here want to borrow my screaming brat for the weekend to see how it's going to be for you?", etc.
How about some NICE stories of what it's like to be a parent? Christ.
"If you think it's tough now, just remember you'll have two in a few months." My mom and DH like to remind me of this and I finally broke the other night and screamed "Really, are YOU pregnant? Because I am so I am constantly reminded I'm going to have another baby" at DH. He looked at me like this
I know I'll be getting it soon cause I get BIG pregnant so I am NOT looking forward to:
"Are you sure it's not twins/more?"
and now "Are you getting your tubes tied?"
Seriously, I'm married and my oldest is 9 now and it's really NONE of your BUSINESS!!
It's a GIRL!
OMG I hear this one from people who hasn't seen me in a while. Like if I am, you are not taking care of them! and NO it's just one!
I know when I was like 7 months pregnant I was like yeah my dr is pretty certain there is only ONE in there! One 'lady' actually asked me last time, "wow, how many do you have in there?" I was like wtf? "ONE!" Then she seriously asked me if the baby was like 15 lbs or something I was like um no (for the record he weighted 8 lbs at birth biatch).
It's a GIRL!
This isn't my first but everyone is talking to me like it is. My favorite little gem??
"Just wait, you're going to get HUGE since this is your second!"
and then I got this one from my cousin "oh you're following all that food crap? I didn't do that" well.. not trying to sound judgy but maybe just maybe that's why you gained way more weight than you were supposed to and haven't lost it 3 years after your youngest was born.. (she tells me all about how she had no issues spending 9 months on the couch with no exercise eating fold-overs literally ever day).
When m/s was at it's worse I hated hearing "try crackers" seriously you dont think after throwing up for 5 weeks I havent tried CRACKERS?
now it is when other family members/friends babies cry or need a change they hand them to me "you need practice" - you take care of your babies and I will take care of mine when he/she gets here!
and...
"your body will never be the same again"
another one that bugs me is "your life will change so much, just wait" DUH!!! why wouldnt your life change with a baby, but it will change for the better.
The other day at work a person that didn't know I was pregnant says "just never have kids" then talks about her daughter..
That same day I told someone I was pregnant. We were just chatting and she asked if we had animals. I told her a really spoiled dog and she said well WHEN you get a divorce just make sure you have somewhere written that you want the dog and he can have the kid..Thanks a lot for that great advice..NOT
This one is a favorite too...
"what is it...a boy or a girl?"
I don't know! I am only 11 week today!
"Stop worrying about it! You're pregnant."
Easier said than done. They don't "get" the whole miscarriage scare and beta levels.
I love DH completely, and he has been super wonderful through all of this.
But if he tells me one more time "get used to being tired, becuase you'll never sleep once the baby comes" he is getting punched in the face.
I realize babies can make you sleep less. But it's not like all of society screeched to a halt from sleep deprived parents wandering around. And just because I will be tired in 7 months doesn't mean I don't get to be tired today too. I get both. When he can carry the baby he can be tired. until then, STFU.
"Are you sure theres not two in there?"
I also hate people assuming they will be my childs god mother or father....ummm No!! did I ask you to be
"Why are you always tired?".....umm why do you think
I hate when people who recently had a baby assume they know EVERYTHING and try to tell me EVERYTHING they think they know
or people who predict my childs behavior, like what?? my baby hasnt even arrived in the world yet and your already predicting behavior issues
or people tryna remind me of how expensive its gonna be, thanks my husband and i have been preparing, we obviously know, diapers and bottles and cribs and everything is not free
HAHAHAHA, That's when you come back and say, "NO DEAR I've been carrying the baby for 40 weeks, YOU will be tired because YOU will be the one getting up to bring the baby to me to nurse or making the bottle, and YOU will be the one rocking, walking, pacing, bouncing, burping, changing etc the baby. so it sounds like once the baby comes I'll be sleeping plenty, and YOU will be pretty tired. Better start saving up now, because I don't want to hear you complaining."
My jaw literally dropped when I read this. "Oh your marriage is going to fail, and you don't need that pesky kid around, so keep the dog(oh and pay child support)"
I really really hope that she isn't a mother but I'm sure the world isn't that lucky...
Well, this isn't advice or anything, but I am certainly sick of hearing it. Every time I let someone know I'm pregnant (this is mostly family members), they ask if I've had morning sickness. When I tell them that I really haven't had any (lucky me), they then ask me if I've had any other pregnancy symptoms. Because, seriously, like I want to tell them I've been suffering from some really bad constipation for several weeks. Why do they insist on asking?
Hahahah! That is awesome! I will totally tell him that next time
I hate that now that I'm pregnant, everyone feels the need to ask me how I am. They didn't ask me how I was before I was pregnant, only now. And the irritating thing is that when I say anything along the lines of "okay" or "fine" to avoid the conversation they say really? no morning sickness, dizziness, etc. I really don't like talking about how sick I am lately and I don't feel like disclosing to friends or family that I have constant heartburn and suffer from constipation. Ick! My MIL constantly texts my husband to ask how I am, and tells him to make sure I'm getting enough sleep and fluids. Excuse me, but no one can make me do anything. And trust me, I wish I were getting enough sleep. But nothing you say is going to affect how I act.
The other thing I hate is when family members start making plans for the babies. My mother wants to have x, y and z at her house for when we visit but doesn't ask us about our plans for visiting. She doesn't take me seriously when I say that we won't be visiting often because it's a smoking house and they have two large, loud dogs. If we have a girl her middle name will be Ruth after my maternal grandmother, and my mother says that she is going to call the baby Ruthie. I insist that she does not do that because the baby will have a first name for a reason - you can't just pick what you want to call the baby, that is mine and my husbands job. It's just irritating to me when people make plans for the babies that are still a part of my body (especially without talking to my husband and I first).
I get tired of the food crap, too. I get really tired of people telling me what to eat and when to eat it. Or "eat more because you can finally eat whatever you want, whenever you want!" or "I ate steak every single day and only gained 27 lbs!!" Ooookay.....
I'm also really tired of people asking me if it's a boy or a girl. How the *** do I know???
I am also sick and tired of hearing the "your body is never going to be the same. Your boobs will sag and your belly will look disgusting, etc..." I know, obviously, it will change, but have these people never heard of exercise? Usually the people telling me this are the same ones who are sitting years after giving birth, still dealing with their pregnancy weight and then some.
When this next one is born I'll have two babies under two and all I EVER hear from people is "Wow, you're going to have your hands full!". I hate it because we TTC number two and I am really excited but when I tell people I'm pregnant that's the FIRST thing they say. What ever happened to "Congratulations"?
Ugggh.
Honestly, I thought new baby tired had nothing on pregnancy tired. With pregnancy tired you are sleep deprived and physically drained. New baby tired you are just sleep deprived. I would take that any day!
Only a couple people know that I'm pregnant so I haven't gotten any annoying comments with this pregnancy BUT I know that I'll be sick of hearing "Oh you're due on Easter??," and "if you go a week early you'll have an April Fool's baby." My EDD with DD was 12/23 and all the comments I got were about her due date being so close to Christmas. Like I hadn't thought about that before talking to you. People just need to say congratulations and leave it at that!
"Are you married?" or "Wow...how old are you?"
I was asked both of these THREE TIMES on three totally different occasions! I am 23 and married but I look much younger (I can easily pass for 15-16). I get that some people may wonder/judge/stare, but I think actually asking is kind of rude.
"Eat Saltines."
No, really? I've eaten so many that my body has started to reject them. I'm not kidding. Trust me, if the Saltines still worked, I'd be eating them constantly!
"That's decaf, right?"
Even if it wasn't, it's really nobody's business! And yes, for the record, it is.
"Are you scared about how bad labor is going to hurt?"
Of course I am. I'm human. But I'm only 10 weeks along...let me worry about labor later! I don't want to stress about it the whole time!
"You probably shouldn't be in a play right now."
Well, I was cast and under contract before I knew I was pregnant, and it's my profession, so...
My husband's aunt is awesome, but she just assumes that we are going to get her to watch our baby. She runs a home daycare and turned down another family to save room for our kid when it comes even though I haven't even slightly suggested her watching it. She lives nowhere near us and I haven't decided on any of that yet, but now I feel pressured to use her no matter what or risk hurting her feelings.
This! With my first I was so sick and everyone always asked if I tried crackers.
I haven't had much morning sickness and I hear all the time "oh, just wait it will kick in and you will be miserable" or "just wait till you're as big as a house"
Seriously people how about being encouraging?...
OMG do I know what you mean. DD was due 1/14 (my grandfathers birthday.. and I'm not even kind of close to him) and she was born the day after christmas instead. Now all I hear is how she must be jipped. First of all, our home is not based on materialism (though she does not need or want for anything but I prefer to make things about more than just presents) and Second of all, my birthday is also close to christmas so no my child does not get "jipped"
I must be the wierdo of the group, but most of these comments I'm reading wouldn't bother me in the least. :::shrugs shoulders:::
Not dissing you guys for getting annoyed. We all get annoyed by different things. I'm just noticing how wierd I am. lol
This made me laugh, poor guy! They just have no idea lol
I don't know why it bothers me so much but I'm so tired of hearing...." oh wait you're life will never be the same/it changes your life forever." And then they follow it up later with 'But its for the better of course!" I want to say of course my life is going to change forever I'm adding another member to our family!! I'm now going to be responsible for another human being for at least 18 years. Duh of course its going to change! Did you really think I hadn't considered that??LOL Okay I feel better now! I love these venting posts! ahhh makes my whole day better to get it out!
(BFP 2/7/14. Miscarriage 4/3/14 at 12 weeks)
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I get that you want your mom to be supportive... but seriously, just because she had an epidural (or whatever way she decided to go "unnaturally") doesn't mean she doesn't know how painful childbirth is. I bet she has a pretty darn good idea.
Totally agree.
Some of them are a little annoying, but not enough that it would bother me.
I always hate when people say that DD is missing out because of the gifts. And then they always have a suggestion to make sure she is getting the 'proper' amount of gifts for her birthday and Christmas. DH's birthday is close to Christmas as well, so we already knew how to go about it. We are not materialistic either, so I think that's what is really irritating about the comments.