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operation end the bedtime insanity is....going....

groovygrlgroovygrl member
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ok, I guess. 

DD went down with much less fight tonight than the last 2 nights. I instituted a strict bedtime routine last night & plan to continue with it, H seems to be on board... both kids were up & crying for about an hour each in the middle of the night last night. I never thought I'd be dealing with this still at 2 yrs old.

However, now DS is the one throwing a fit at bedtime & has been yelling "momma hold you" (he gets the you & me mixed up :) ) for like 20 min. I think I might just open the door, tell him I love him & to lay down for night night. Is that breaking all the rules? Argh. I never know what to do. I want them to feel secure & not abandoned but don't want to continue this cycle...

 

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Re: operation end the bedtime insanity is....going....

  • shellshavintwinsshellshavintwins
    Going through the same thing right as we speak, it's been a rough day in the house so I am tempted to go get the screamer. But I am exausted and she is way over tired and if I let her out she is just winning and getting what she wants.
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  • groovygrlgroovygrl member
    Argh well I gave in & sang You are my sunshine...but he laid right down after that.  He's easier than his sister in general but I hear you on giving in & giving what they want :(. It sucks. 
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  • UsedToBeGoldieUsedToBeGoldie member

    i'm glad they are making progress!

    I'd go in and give him a hug- but not take him out of the crib... tell him you love him, but it's time for night night (bed, sleep, whatever you guys say)... lay him down, pat his back- then walk away.... you can stand in the doorway if that will keep him laying down... or sit in a chair in the room... and slowly start moving out of the room- ie) go chair, to doorway, to hallway, etc.  That's a technique they use on those nanny shows a lot - and we have used, and works well when they just seem to want me near.

    We also find that when they are going through their rough patches, sometimes if daddy puts them down for the night it's easier on them.... they cry a lot more for me than they do for DH, when they are in thoes crying stages.

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  • groovygrlgroovygrl member
    imageUsedToBeGoldie:

    i'm glad they are making progress!

    I'd go in and give him a hug- but not take him out of the crib... tell him you love him, but it's time for night night (bed, sleep, whatever you guys say)... lay him down, pat his back- then walk away.... you can stand in the doorway if that will keep him laying down... or sit in a chair in the room... and slowly start moving out of the room- ie) go chair, to doorway, to hallway, etc.  That's a technique they use on those nanny shows a lot - and we have used, and works well when they just seem to want me near.

    We also find that when they are going through their rough patches, sometimes if daddy puts them down for the night it's easier on them.... they cry a lot more for me than they do for DH, when they are in thoes crying stages.

    Yeah, I have seen that on supernanny before, maybe i'll try that next time. I did pick him up & hug him but stood right next to the crib and then put him back down.

    MH often puts him down but we're trying to get a bedtime routine that will be the same when he is home & when he's not so we put him down together... 

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  • shellshavintwinsshellshavintwins
    With my girls going in there seems to make it so much worse since they think I am about to give in like I used to. I do find when they are really upset that if I tell them from the livinng room (next room over) that everything is ok but they need to go to bed now, they settle down a bit.
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  • sara1014sara1014

    Sometimes Marshall is difficult to put down.  I agree that it's so hard to second guess if what you're doing is considered giving in, but you don't want them to feel like you've just left them.

    What I did one time (and it worked) is I went in when he had been completely beside himself.  I said, "I'm going to hold you for 2 minutes and then it's naptime."

    I picked him up and sat in the rocking chair with him - no talking nothing.  And when something like 2 minutes was up, he went in, laid down, and went to sleep.

    Now, he doesn't really know what 2 minutes is or whatever, but it seemed to work and I let him know up front that there was a set time he would need to be on his own to take a nap.  This has continued to work...only now, I usually just say, "I'm going to give you one big hug and then you need to lay down."

    Good luck!  It's good to know things are getting somewhat better! :) 

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