How do you feel about drinking a glass of wine in the 3rd tri?

lizliechti · August 2011

I know that in other countries this is no big deal. Glass of wine, especially with dinner is AOK. Just wondering everyone's take on this.

TigerLily084 · August 2011

It's absolutely fine, it will not harm you or baby to have a glass of wine with a meal. If I didn't have GD, I would have a glass every now and again, just as I did with my previous (perfectly healthy) pregnancies. I wouldn't do it in public because of the people who don't understand that it's okay and feel the need to share their "expert" advice with pg women, though. ;o)

jgoetz:) · August 2011

I think it's fine. I still don't feel completely comfortable doing it, but don't judge others who do. I had a glass while on vacation and it was wonderful. Many of my mom friends said they had a glass a week once they got to 3rd tri.

weddingbells2010 · August 2011

Before I was pregnant I didn't think any amount of drinking during pregnancy was okay. Since being pregnant, my doctor has agreed- he's very liberal about other things like deli meats, tuna, etc... but has said that no drinking means no drinking. I won't be doing it.

Michellie7 · August 2011

I'm not sure about it, I just always learned in college that research is unsure how much it takes to impact baby... so I just have that looming in my head. I'm sure it actually is fine, but the unknown is what gets me to not do it. I just worry that if something were to go wrong, heaven forbid, and I did have a glass of wine, I may blame myself.... regardless if it caused the problem or not. Now, my question is.... what is the deal with drinking (say, a glass of wine) and breastfeeding? Is there a certain window where it's ok, like immediately after a feeding or what? I'd really like to know.... cause for reals, I can't wait to have a glass!

Pinaysis86 · August 2011

I'm not against people who do because I was born in Europe and my Mom would drink a glass of wine with dinner all the time while pregnant with my brother and I, it's what you do there! Well atleast in Spain

I wouldn't personally just because if I haven't had a glass this far in I can make it another 3 months without, but kudos to those who can without feeling guilty hahaha I wish I could!!

joy143dh · August 2011

I feel totally fine about it. If it wasn't for the acid reflux today, I'd be having a glass right now.

Someone posted this article yesterday that you may enjoy:
https://news.discovery.com/human/alcohol-drinking-pregnant-women.html Obviously, this does not replace your doctor's recommendations for you, knowing your medical and family history. But it appears to be an unbiased article more or less.

weddingbells2010 · August 2011

Crash Into Me:
I won't, but I wouldn't judge anyone else, either.

Add this to my above comment Except I will admit I did secretly judge a friend who kept resting her beer bottle on her pregnant belly. Something about seeing the bottle move everytime the baby kicked bugged me.

laurakaz13 · August 2011

I had a glass of wine a week during my 3rd tri. It helped relax me on Friday's after the long, exhausting work week. I worked up until I went into labor.

atizon · August 2011

ditto..I don't judge either. I have not drank through my whole pregnancy so a another 2 more mths I can wait. I am to much of a chicken and I'll be paranoid about it.

But wow when it's time that could drink I think I glass and I'll be tipsy since it's been so long. lol

mabma80 · August 2011

It's not worth it.

angel2288 · August 2011

I would consult with your doctor first, since s/he knows your medical history. Obviously if you are on any medications it isnt a good idea, but in a perfectly healthy, non-risk pregnancy, it wont hurt to have a glass of wine every now and then.

*Personally i wouldn't though. Despite the fact that im on medication and am high risk...i just feel weird doing it.

TigerLily084 · August 2011

Michellie7:
I'm not sure about it, I just always learned in college that research is unsure how much it takes to impact baby... so I just have that looming in my head. I'm sure it actually is fine, but the unknown is what gets me to not do it. I just worry that if something were to go wrong, heaven forbid, and I did have a glass of wine, I may blame myself.... regardless if it caused the problem or not. Now, my question is.... what is the deal with drinking (say, a glass of wine) and breastfeeding? Is there a certain window where it's ok, like immediately after a feeding or what? I'd really like to know.... cause for reals, I can't wait to have a glass!

You are fine to have a glass of wine or a beer while breastfeeding, it won't harm baby. Typically, the alcohol is at its highest point in your system 30-60 minutes after you drink, so it's suggested that you simply don't feed the baby or pump during that window. Example: feed baby at 7pm, have a glass of wine at 7:45pm, you're fine for another nursing or pumping session by 9pm. If you drink enough to be tipsy and need to relieve yourself of engorgement, you can "pump & dump" where you dispose of the milk that may contain alcohol (and instead give baby previously pumped milk or formula for that feeding). Once your body has metabolized the alcohol, there is no need to pump & dump or wait to nurse since alcohol is not stored in breastmilk. HTH!

ctygrlstl · August 2011

I have no problems with it because of 'safety' issues. I think it's perfectly safe in moderation, just like everything else we pregnant ladies keep getting shooed away from. Moms eat sushi in Japan, they drink wine in Italy/France/Spain, heck, they drink beer in Germany, and all their kids are doing just as well as ours, if not better. That said, I don't think I could get away with it in the states. Sushi I can get away with, it can be made to-go and hubby can pick it up :-) but there's no way I could order a glass of wine in a restaurant. I'd love to feel like I could have a glass without getting chewed up and down by every person who saw, but it's just too taboo here. I'd have to hide in the kitchen under lock and key to have a sip, lol! And even then, 'Nobody expects the Spanish inquisition!!' would probably bust down my door.

crzygirl · August 2011

Go for it! No problems

preggersin2011 · August 2011

i've had a glass a wine throughout out my pregnancy when i've gone out to dinner. maybe 1-2 times a month. About my usual before pregnancy.... my friend's doctor told to have half a glass a night before bed to help her sleep in her 3rd trimester.

35baby · August 2011

I don't know if I would have drank at all during any phase of my pregnancy since I didn't really drink all that much prior to becoming pregnant. Then I went to my boyfriend's sisters wedding and had a glass of champagneto toast the happy couple. I didn't feel guilty because it is simply one glass not even full and I haven't had any other liquor since. The choice should be up the woman although no offense here 1-2 times monthly is to much for me personally.

NativeFloridian · August 2011

I don't personally have anything to drink because I'm not in the mood. I just don't have a taste for it right now, the same way I lost my taste for bacon and fried eggs. That said, I don't see anything wrong with it, at all. A glass of wine with a meal here and there...no biggie.

As others have pointed out, it's common in other countries for women to have a glass of wine or maybe even a beer with their dinner. No one bats an eyelash, their babies aren't being savaged by Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Additionally, it's not really possible to eliminate that sense of the unknown when it comes to alcohol and pregnancy, for the same reason we'll never really know what effect roller coasters have on a developing fetus - there aren't enough mothers who'd be willing to put their babies at risk for the sake of gaining scientific knowledge.

Really, moderation and common sense are key. I think, at least in the US, the reason we're told not to do it at all is because some people will take and inch and run a mile. "Yes, you may have a small amount of wine," becomes, "WOOHOO! WINE!" and a baby with FAS. It's basically just the easiest way to maintain a relative amount of safety and good health for the population.

tiplovesdap · August 2011

My doctor would probably ok and as long as I had that I'd drink a glass no problem. However, ive heard of it kind of turning pregnant ladies' stomachs from the acid, etc. I personally have medical issues that prevent it for me but those don't apply to everyone. Cheers everyone!

BettyBookworm · August 2011

TigerLily084:
It's absolutely fine, it will not harm you or baby to have a glass of wine with a meal. If I didn't have GD, I would have a glass every now and again, just as I did with my previous (perfectly healthy) pregnancies. I wouldn't do it in public because of the people who don't understand that it's okay and feel the need to share their "expert" advice with pg women, though. ;o)

I am not going to do it myself, but if others feel comfortable then that is their business. My doctor says its perfectly fine to have a SMALL (read: 4 to 6 oz) glass of wine if I really want to. I personally don't want to take the risk, and would rather abstain. Its a personal preference, and to each their own.

I do feel for those who choose to imbibe in public because I drank grape juice (regular old welches with some perrier in it as a sweet treat!) at the dinner table once when we were out, and I got the stink eye from everyone!

KAK ;-> · August 2011

NativeFloridian:

I don't personally have anything to drink because I'm not in the mood. I just don't have a taste for it right now, the same way I lost my taste for bacon and fried eggs. That said, I don't see anything wrong with it, at all. A glass of wine with a meal here and there...no biggie.

As others have pointed out, it's common in other countries for women to have a glass of wine or maybe even a beer with their dinner. No one bats an eyelash, their babies aren't being savaged by Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Additionally, it's not really possible to eliminate that sense of the unknown when it comes to alcohol and pregnancy, for the same reason we'll never really know what effect roller coasters have on a developing fetus - there aren't enough mothers who'd be willing to put their babies at risk for the sake of gaining scientific knowledge.

Really, moderation and common sense are key. I think, at least in the US, the reason we're told not to do it at all is because some people will take and inch and run a mile. "Yes, you may have a small amount of wine," becomes, "WOOHOO! WINE!" and a baby with FAS. It's basically just the easiest way to maintain a relative amount of safety and good health for the population.

This made me laugh because a couple of months ago I got on what I thought was a "kid" coaster with my 5 yr old...I thought it was one of those spooky ones and not an actual coaster. My LO flipped around like crazy for about 10 minutes!

OP - I have a half a glass a couple of times a week or so. My OB is fine with it and my MW recommended it with my DD. I'd much rather have a little wine than sleep medication or lack of sleep. To each their own. I'm actually much more worried about the chemicals and GMO & processed food we expose ourselves and our LOs to that haven't been studied.

christiney06 · August 2011

TigerLily084:
It's absolutely fine, it will not harm you or baby to have a glass of wine with a meal. If I didn't have GD, I would have a glass every now and again, just as I did with my previous (perfectly healthy) pregnancies. I wouldn't do it in public because of the people who don't understand that it's okay and feel the need to share their "expert" advice with pg women, though. ;o)

all of this except that I did have wine in public, on MH's birthday last month at a restaurant. I could give 2 sh*ts if someone gave me the stink eye over it. now that I have GD, I will miss my bi-weekly glass of wine for the next 10wks.

Runnergirl2242 · August 2011

Nope. I am not. I will wait until after baby is born and weaned.

nikkirenee81 · August 2011

Crash Into Me:
I won't, but I wouldn't judge anyone else, either.

This. With DD I had a half a beer once but I just figure that I will wait until I can enjoy a few Wink

kcisthebombdotcom · August 2011

I think giving up wine while pregnant is like giving up peas while pregnant-there's no point and there's no benefit.

I think that our society ingests a lot worse during pregnancy between processed foods/fast food. That sh!t is full of chemicals and way more harmful than 1/2 glass of wine could ever be IMO.

newmama0208 · August 2011

I can wait....

Galaxy8227 · August 2011

I think once in awhile a glass of wine is ok--my problem is that I'm not a big fan of wine--I love vodka--so I"ll be waiting a few more weeks to indulge

NativeFloridian · August 2011

KAK ;->:
NativeFloridian:

...for the same reason we'll never really know what effect roller coasters have on a developing fetus - there aren't enough mothers who'd be willing to put their babies at risk for the sake of gaining scientific knowledge.

This made me laugh because a couple of months ago I got on what I thought was a "kid" coaster with my 5 yr old...I thought it was one of those spooky ones and not an actual coaster. My LO flipped around like crazy for about 10 minutes!
OP - I have a half a glass a couple of times a week or so. My OB is fine with it and my MW recommended it with my DD.

Case in point! Just because we don't know doesn't mean a little exposure is going to wreak havoc on our unborn children. We're simply told, as a matter of course and with no conclusive evidence to back up the fear-mongering, not to do certain things because there's not really any practical way to go about studying these things in the first place.

We can, however, rely on deductive reasoning. The conclusion I draw is that a small amount of wine with dinner is not going to harm an unborn child. A Four Horsemen or two a few times a week probably would. Again, common sense, and moderation.

mabst196 · August 2011

I have the occasional glass of wine. I'm fine with it.

liv97 · August 2011

I've had a glass or half glass of wine here and there the whole pregnancy.

I think it's so odd that so many moms "won't risk it" because they don't want to do anything possible to hurt the baby, but then when the baby is born they use plastic bottles, buy mattresses with formaldehyde, lotions with chemicals, plastic toys, let them CIO at 4 months, etc. People seem to focus on pregnancy as the one and only time when you can hurt your baby, but there are sooooo many things that are worse than tuna, wine, sushi, etc.

aliciaroset · August 2011

just here to ditto that in moderation is fine. I usually have less than half a glass of beer with food over about an hour. I love the taste of beer with food and it brings me a lot of pleasure and relaxation, which is great for baby.

Others have mentioned chemicals, but what about driving? Every time you get behind the wheel it's a risk for baby, but nobody would judge you for that extra trip to Target for fun.

TigerLily084 · August 2011

aliciaroset:
just here to ditto that in moderation is fine. I usually have less than half a glass of beer with food over about an hour. I love the taste of beer with food and it brings me a lot of pleasure and relaxation, which is great for baby.
Others have mentioned chemicals, but what about driving? Every time you get behind the wheel it's a risk for baby, but nobody would judge you for that extra trip to Target for fun.

Well put! I swear, some people are so stinking paranoid while they're pregnant. I know someone who won't use a hair dryer for fear of overheating her baby. Yes, I'm serious. Wish I was kidding. I know that MIL swore by drinking one small shot glass of red wine each day while pg to keep her system regular - as she was taught by her Italian family. Her sisters and SILs all did the same. Between them, there are about 35 kids, all healthy pregnancies. I'd like to ditto the point that freaking out about having one glass of wine while pg, but not thinking twice about driving on the freeway, for example, is kind of ridiculous. )

fadushi · August 2011

I don't judge others who do drink a glass of wine here or there during pregnancy but I won't do it. If there is even a slight chance of it getting to my child I won't do it. I love my kids too much to potentially put them at any type of risk because I can't wait a couple months to have some wine.

sarteratops · August 2011

Every time I see this topic posted I giggle a little because I know it will get so many mixed responses. If you want a glass of wine and your doctor says it's ok, go for it. Don't search for justification here because you're not going to find it (in the nicest way possible, I've just seen from experience). I can tell you I've had a few glasses of wine in my 3rd tri, maybe 1 every other week, and sometimes it's enjoyable. I was afraid that if I drank one glass I'd want more and would put my baby at risk but I am barely able to finish a whole glass because of the heartburn it causes.

liv97 · August 2011

aliciaroset:
Others have mentioned chemicals, but what about driving? Every time you get behind the wheel it's a risk for baby, but nobody would judge you for that extra trip to Target for fun.

seriously? i suppose that's true, but it's easy to avoid chemicals (something that DOES cause damage), and not as easy to avoid driving (something that MAY cause damage). They are totally different in my mind. toxins by their nature are toxic and bad. cars aren't. Yes, to be 100% chemical free is practically impossible, but it's really easy to significantly diminish the toxic load given to babies if you're informed and diligent. Plus, even if they are the same, we buy safe cars, drive carefully, install car seats, (hopefully) keep kids rear-facing for as long as we can, etc. Why not apply that same level of diligence to the chemicals we are giving our kids?

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