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February 2012 Moms
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Is everyone finding out gender?
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We found out for our DD at our 20 week u/s that we were having a girl. I've had so many friends lately who have opted to not find out and its kinda making me want to wait. I feel like for the 1st one, we had to for the shower but this time around, its not as important to know ahead of time. I am a planner, so it might drive me crazy to not know though! My husband really wants to know so he is really trying to persuade me 
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Re: Is everyone finding out gender?
12/2010-hysteroscopy done to remove uterine polyps
6/2/11=BFP!!!!
EDD 2/12/12
currently we are at NO.
my whole entire life..i've always wanted to NOT find out...up until we started TTC..that's when i decided i wanted to find out...... H always wanted to find out....up until we were TTC..then he decided he didn't want to.
ugh.
i think for now, it's "easier" for us to not find out...i think we'll have the u/s tech write it in the envelope, and if we decide to find out..it will be there when we are ready.
As of now we're going to not find out. I really like the idea of being the doctor telling us when we're meeting the LO. My second main reason is for our baby shower. I figure if you don't know the sex people will be less likely to get you that really cute outfit that won't come in handy in all and get you diapers or bottles, etc if they don't know the sex. My friend (who's having a girl) had a shower and every gift she got (and there were ~60 people there) was clothes!! EVERY GIFT!
We got some clothes, some that we couldn't really use. I can't believe she got all clothes. Just be careful tho - I've been to some unknown and they got lots of clothes still, just all yellow and green
We are still on the fence. In the begining I was certain I wanted to know but after thinking about it and hearing my brother/SIL's stories we're starting to think maybe we don't want to know....that it would be fun to wait until the day of and have that extra surprise after going through birth. We'll see though.. We have a few weeks to decide though.
And not to start anything but to the PP who said it was "dumb" not to find out.. That was sorta offensive. But I'm hormonal and most things are offensive these days LOL
I'm a planner, and we didn't find out for DD. We won't find out for this one either. I really had to think about it this time, but it was just such an amazing experience to have them lay DD on my chest and me to be the first one to see if she was a boy or girl. (I didn't have the doctor call it out, I wanted to.)
It was funny because everyone thought I was having a boy. EVERYONE. And although in my heart I knew she was a girl, I started to think that too. I had to do a double take when I saw that she was indeed a girl.
DH wants to find out and I don't really want to. So the compromise is that only he & I can know. So we are telling people we are not finding out, but secretly we are. We may end up sharing later, who knows.
Plus a friend said "Unless you want a ton of cloths at your shower, don't tell. We wish we wouldn't have, since LO couldn't even wear most of the cloths." So that got me thinking. We'll see.
"When the world says, 'Give up,' Hope whispers, 'Try one more time.'" -Anonymous
Also - I really hate uni-sex baby clothes. I think they're all too girly for a boy and too tacky for a girl. Which, let me tell you how much I hate fruity little fancy-pants baby boy clothing. Ick!!
We are not finding out. This is our first. In our religion, it is bad luck to bring anything for the baby into the home until the baby is born, and baby showers are not thrown. My parents and father in law are going to be busy setting up before baby comes home...but they're totally on board and super excited! So all purchases will be made after the baby is born, and gifts will come from family and friends as they choose to send.
On a separate note, I want my H to have his moment to shine with our pregnancy. I feel like everyone is calling me and asking how I am, and he's kinda on the back burner (which he's quite ok with). I want him to be able to run out into that waiting room...to our waiting families, and say, "It's a....!!!!!!!
We waited with DD and we will with this LO. I just loved the anticipation, and it was such an emotional, special moment to find out right after giving birth. Our family was cute too--they got way more "into" our surprise pregnancy than they did with the cousins who found out ahead of time.
I'm a total planner, and I don't get the "I can't do it--I'm a planner" argument. I actually thought it worked about better not knowing. For our shower, we got more of what we needed and I love that all of our basic gear is gender neutral so I can reuse it. I bought a few outfits for each sex, but even clothes wasn't really a problem as SO many people brought clothes after she was born. And the room was gender neutral, but very cute. We added girly touches over time after she was born.
If you take a look at the due date list on the blog, you'll see that LOTS of February mamas are going to find out gender.
I feel like a weirdo for wanting to wait until birth!
I'd like to wait, but my husband really wants to find out. So- we had to make a deal. . . We'll find out with this one, and with the 2nd child it'll be a surprise.
My two concerns about finding out: 1- what if they're wrong. (I don't think this happens as often anymore, but 27 years ago I was supposed to be a 'boy' according to an u/s about a month before i was born) 2- I want necessities and more gender-nuetral type stuff so I can use it again with another bay.
Definitely agreed with this. DH and I both feel really strongly about waiting -- we really, really, REALLY do not want to get flooded with pink-and-sparkles or blue-and-sports. (And I know for sure that my stepmother would do that, and likely other people, too!)
No offense to those of you who feel you have to have the "girl" or "boy" exclusive stuff, but it really isn't our style at all.
♥ Married since June 2009 ♥
TW: Living children & Losses:
Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)
Mocky Road
i totally agree with the dh thing. i really want him to have this moment where he gets to give the big news to our families. hes really excited about it too.
Exactly, "different strokes for different folks" - so the judgement seems unnecessary. You don't seem like the type of person that LITERALLY meant the person is DUMB for not finding out - at least I hope not. Maybe just a poor choice of words....? I wasn't personally "offended" because it takes a lot to offend me..but I still think it could have been said a little differently.
I obviously see both sides to it. There's a huge part of me that is anxious to know, but another part that would think it would be fun to wait.
We are waiting to find out, although every few days DH has a breakdown moment and says "I NEED to know!"
My feelings are that when you find out the gender of the baby, you bond with it all during the pregnancy, and when you give birth, you already know the person looking back at you. And I think that's great and what some people want very badly.
I want to wait because I want to feel as though I am meeting the baby for the first time when he/she arrives. I want DH to place them on my chest and tell me whether its a boy or a girl. Its not that I am not attached with the pregnancy or don't want to bond, I am just so looking forward to the anticipation of labor.
All that said, my mom and DH don't believe that I can actually make it to delivery without finding out. My mom said, "I would be absolutely shocked if you made it to labor without finding out!"
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16