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September 2011 Moms
Clicky: Do you and your DH/SO go to bed together?
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Re: Clicky: Do you and your DH/SO go to bed together?
Heh. This is actually a joke in our house.
So I do not like going to bed without my husband. It's not a clingy thing or anything like that (we're actually quite happy to have separate social engagements/circles of friends/etc.), I think it's just a juvenile thing that I'm going to "miss" something, or the idea of completely tying up the end of a day. Generally speaking, we're ready to go to bed at the same time. But, sometimes, the following conversation takes place.
Him: All right. I'm going to bed.
Me: Why?!
Him: I'm exhausted.
Me: But I'm not tired yet!
Him: So stay awake.
Me: But... ... but no! Stay up with me! There's still stuff we can do.
Him: Good night, sweetie.
Me: *groooooooan* *follows him to bed*
or...
Me: *falling asleep on the couch*
Him: Sweetie, go to bed.
Me: Are you going to bed?
Him: No.
Me: *settles on the couch to sleep on his lap*
What can I say: I'm a total weirdo.
DH and I do not have the same work schedule.
I get to work at 5AM - unless it's the opening of a major hunting season, DH is not at work this early. He's law enforcement, but practically sets his own hours based on what he needs to patrol. Sometimes he's coming home when I'm getting up for work.
Even when he has to get up at 7am, he's usually up later than me because he napped during the day and still has energy. I try to go to bed at 9 or 9:30PM.
Typically, we go to bed together. But, recently I've been so exhausted in the evenings, that I go to bed around 10:00, and he isn't tired, so he'll come up maybe an hour or so later. I HATE going to bed alone, but lately, there's really no option!
Wow. This is us exactly. Like you two, we are pretty independent in other aspects of our relationship, but I just really don't like to go to bed without him.
LOL, a weirdo who it madly in love with her Monsieur
Love it.
HEY! Are you living in my house? Those are exactly the conversations we have! Or at least we did, early on. Nowadays, I've pretty much accepted the fact and I am a much earlier-to-bed person than he is. (This is even true not pregnant...pregnant, you can forget about it.
) So most nights I go to bed on my own. I don't love it, but I don't whine about it anymore. He makes an effort to come to bed with me at least once or twice a week. His body clock is just different than mine.
We used to all the time.
More recently, DH has been doing so much more for me and with me. Thus, he spends the minute he gets home to the minute I go to sleep with me. He often works after that. I love that he is creating this balance so he has time with our son when he arrives. He is so good and disconnecting for a few hours to spend time with his family. I love that.
I voted never, but I guess there are the rare occasions that we do. He stays up super late, and I just can't hang much past 10 or so. Some nights I can manage to stay up until 11, but other nights I'm ready for bed by 9. He's usually up until at least 1 or 2.
Lately, I can't fall asleep if he comes to bed at the same time as me. I don't know why, but I just can't fall asleep when he's in bed. I have enough trouble falling asleep when he's not there, but when he is, I might as well go sleep on the couch.
Right now we don't- I am much more of a night person than he is, so since I'm not working FT right now, I stay up a lot later than he does.
When I am teaching FT, we probably go to bed around the same time 75% of the time.
TTC since 10/07
11 medicated cycles
including...
4 IUIs*5 IVFs*1 FET
2 chemical pregnancies*missed m/c @8w 9/09*missed (twin) m/c @8w 5/10
Laparoscopic myomectomy 8/10
Chromosomal translocation of #2 now requires ICSI and PGD
IVF #4= success!!! G-man born 8/18/11
IVF #5 2/2013 = N born 10/10/13 at 35w3d
I put down almost always! We go exactly the same time (9pm) on weeknights as we both need to be up early for work!
Weekends are a different story. He is a total nightowl & will stay up until 3 or 4am working in the garage or on his car. I still prefer to be in bed by 10pm even on the weekends! Yes we are very exciting people
DH simply doesn't need as much sleep as I do. He's a 5 hours a night kinda person, I like 8 (pre-pregnancy, now I like 8+!). We both get up at the same time in the morning, but he goes to bed about 3 hours after I do. Every now and then we'll meet in the middle if he's tired earlier and I've stayed up a bit.
:-) He's my sweetie...
It's the way smarter move! I'm just a lame-o who can't bring herself to it... yet.
I voted SS.
DH comes to bed with me every night. I like to turn in pretty early and watch a little tv in bed before going to sleep. DH goes to bed much later.
So, he will come in with me and rub my back and stay with me until I fall asleep and then he comes out to the living room and stays up for a few more hours.
Afer dinner, I clean up and get the dishwasher going. Then, I go lay in bed with my laptop and watch my shows (after I make sure the boys are in their beds). DH will mix himself some cocktails and sit out on the deck. Usually talking to friends on his cel, or listening to "Old Time Radio" on NPR.
I'll usually fall asleep around 11pm, and I think he comes in around midnight or 1am. Sundays, he'll come in and watch "True Blood" and then heads to bed.
I hate being the last to sleep. Don't know why, but I do.
We are the same. I am not needy either, except bedtime. We just moved into a compact cottage house so I am getting better because no one ever feels far away.
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I do the same thing and so does H.
The only time him and I don't go to bed at the same time is when one is angry at the other. He'll usually stay downstairs watching TV and I'll be in our bedroom.
This is me exactly!!!