Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Blood type
My Blog




I found out my blood type when I was pg with DD. I have it written down, but never remember off the top of my head. I do know I am the same as DH, which means DD must be the same as both of us (I think, high school biology was a loooooong time ago).
I have donated blood in the past, so I have been typed before, but I either never asked or never remembered what it was.
Just ask the pedi, and they will tell you what his blood type is.
Like Dana, I am RH-negative (type O-) and I had to get a RhoGAM shot at 28 weeks because my DH is type AB+. They typed Aaron at birth, through the cord blood (prior to donation) and that's how they also did his initial screen (mandatory in NJ, I think).
Aaron is A-. Same blood type as my mom, actually.
Funny story... when I was born, they had to type me because my mom is A- and my dad is O+. They said I was A- like my mom. And for years I thought I was. Until high school biology class where we self tested for A, B or O blood type (couldn't test for negative or positive RH, though). I did the test twice and both time came up as O. So my mom had my pediatrician (I was 17) test me and, yep, I'm O-.
The hospital screwed up. Good thing they got the negative right, since my mom would have needed a Rhogam shot after delivery had I been positive.
I'm fascinated by blood type. I'm the universal donor (O-) and DH is the universal recipient (AB+). He is the 2nd most rare common type (behind AB-) and I'm the 3rd (most think O is the most common, but it's only O+).
Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
To read my blog, click on the giraffe pic below!
LO is A- just like DH and me! They insisted on giving me the Rhogam shot after my m/c even though I knew I didn't need it. I was then insistent about not needing it after LO was born.
Even though LO was A- and the hospital knew it, he always received O- blood in the NICU. I thought that was strange. Why waste O- when the blood type is known?
I have actually checked Caroline's hospital paperwork because I had wondered about this question before. It isn't on there. I wonder if that is because I am B+ and a Rhogam shot wasn't an issue. Or maybe they just don't record it.
I need to make a note to ask the pedi next time we are there.
That IS odd. If both you and DH are A- then your LO would be neg no matter what! Though two A- can have an O- baby (if recessive O). Though perhaps the hospital wanted to cover their butt in case you were fooling around? Semi-serious there... they prob. have to for lawsuit risks.
But VERY odd re: the transfusion of O- when she was typed A-.
Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
To read my blog, click on the giraffe pic below!
Your LO is typed when they are born. This is mandatory with all the other bloodwork at the time of delivery.
Just ask your pediatricain or OB, it should be in their medical records :-)
I work in a lab, and did Blood Banking :-)
I'm sure the first one was simply to cover for lawsuits. But the transfusions - not only was it wasteful, it deprived my husband of feeling useful. I can't donate blood (lived in Europe during Mad Cow period) but DH donates every other month.
This was the *one thing* he could do for our son (I know they wouldn't have used his blood but still).
He still donates religiously but it would have made him feel good to know our son was getting A- blood.