Confession, I'm scared

annabelleev · July 2011

amanda079:
annabelleev:
reinstone:
And what if you're not sick?
Then of course I'll be super thrilled because not only will I get to be pregnant but I'll also feel great.
This is the mindset you should try and find a way to keep.

Yup, that's what I'm working on.

amanda079 · July 2011

annabelleev:
amanda079:
annabelleev:
reinstone:
And what if you're not sick?
Then of course I'll be super thrilled because not only will I get to be pregnant but I'll also feel great.
This is the mindset you should try and find a way to keep.
Yup, that's what I'm working on.

The more positive you stay, and the more positive you think..and the more positive you talk about things - the better. Try not to get hung up on "what if's"..they will only keep you down.

BlueEyedDreamer · July 2011

amanda079:
annabelleev:
amanda079:
annabelleev:
reinstone:
And what if you're not sick?
Then of course I'll be super thrilled because not only will I get to be pregnant but I'll also feel great.
This is the mindset you should try and find a way to keep.
Yup, that's what I'm working on.
The more positive you stay, and the more positive you think..and the more positive you talk about things - the better. Try not to get hung up on "what if's"..they will only keep you down.

You are full of so much wisdom today. I'm sure OP has never heard of this before.

This advice to someone with anxiety is about as helpful as telling someone who is TTC, "Just relax and don't think about it and you will get KU."

amanda079 · July 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
amanda079:
annabelleev:
amanda079:
annabelleev:
reinstone:
And what if you're not sick?
Then of course I'll be super thrilled because not only will I get to be pregnant but I'll also feel great.
This is the mindset you should try and find a way to keep.
Yup, that's what I'm working on.
The more positive you stay, and the more positive you think..and the more positive you talk about things - the better. Try not to get hung up on "what if's"..they will only keep you down.
You are full of so much wisdom today. I'm sure OP has never heard of this before.
This advice to someone with anxiety is about as helpful as telling someone who is TTC, "Just relax and don't think about it and you will get KU."

Seems like you are as well. What would you propose is said to someone with anxiety? I'd love to hear it.

amanda079 · July 2011

MissMusic:
salt78:
If you don't practice yoga, I would suggest trying it out. After I stopped taking my medication awhile back, regular yoga classes really helped me to manage my anxiety.
...but people fart. A lot. Be prepared.

This is oh-so-true..especially of hot yoga...

annabelleev · July 2011

MissMusic:
salt78:
If you don't practice yoga, I would suggest trying it out. After I stopped taking my medication awhile back, regular yoga classes really helped me to manage my anxiety.
...but people fart. A lot. Be prepared.

The BO and patchouli oil are bigger issues at the yoga studio I go to, but I deal. Thanks Stick out tongue

JenBride2005 · July 2011

mrs kennifer:
JenBride2005:
mrs kennifer:

i would suggest maybe seeing an acupuncturist to help calm your nerves. i'm also nervous about morning sickness and i'm not that excited about L&D but DH and i really want a baby... so the pros out weigh the cons. my girlfriends/family that have all had children say the moment you hold that LO in your arms all the stuff that may have happened during pregnancy and anything that may have happened in L&D just melt awaway. don't stress yourself out. just keep your eye on the prize.

GL

I know you were just trying to help, but I had to point out that this is most definitely not true and sometimes a catalyst of PPD for some. It's normal to not immediately connect to your child, especially after a tramatic pregnancy or birth. This should be brought up to people you trust, and seek counseling if you feel bad about it. Don't beat yourself up though, just snuggle your baby and ask for help if you need it. It's important to be more proactive. Worrying doesn't solve anything, actually it's worse than doing nothing. Educate yourself and empower yourself to make decisions that will create a positive environment and experience for yourself.

i was trying to help and be comforting, not bring up all the "what if's" that could happen. i also said that this was something that my friends/family have told me, which is something that i have kept in mind when i start to feel anxious about this whole process.

mrs kennifer please forgive me. I'm not always the best with words so things don't always come out as they mean. I understood what you were trying to do, and I wasn't trying to refute you necessarily. Just more so support your idea with more information. What you said is true is some sense, but I see and hear far too many women who expect the baby to get here and 'fix' everything. This is not a healthy thought and most likely won't happen. Babies as wonderful as they are, usually do make life more challenging. I appreciate your post. I understood that you were being helpful and supportive. I was honestly just trying to do the same.

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