The hardest part about the Boards

SheenaNash1 · July 2011

ColindaP:
SheenaNash1:
Wow. What a b!tch. OP - Ignore posters like this, they love to stir up sh!t and blow things way out of proportion.
Colinda - Are you even expecting in March? If not, shoo.

Aw. You called me a b!tch. Color me offended. Let me guess - you feel sorry for my husband too?
I might be expecting in March, but you see, when you're at 6 pregnancies and no babies, you can't really take a BFP in June to mean a baby in March. Oh, gosh. Sorry if that just got someone all upset and scared for themselves.

Lol, you're a peach.

Believe me, your story probably didn't make anyone scared or upset FOR THEMSELVES.

Edit: Reworded to not be such a b!tch.

salt78 · July 2011

SheenaNash1:
ColindaP:
SheenaNash1:
Wow. What a b!tch. OP - Ignore posters like this, they love to stir up sh!t and blow things way out of proportion.
Colinda - Are you even expecting in March? If not, shoo.

Aw. You called me a b!tch. Color me offended. Let me guess - you feel sorry for my husband too?
I might be expecting in March, but you see, when you're at 6 pregnancies and no babies, you can't really take a BFP in June to mean a baby in March. Oh, gosh. Sorry if that just got someone all upset and scared for themselves.
Lol, you're a peach.
Believe me, your teary sob story probably didn't make anyone scared or upset.

Sheena...you know I love you, but that was straight rude and disrespectful.

SheenaNash1 · July 2011

salt78:
SheenaNash1:
ColindaP:
SheenaNash1:
Wow. What a b!tch. OP - Ignore posters like this, they love to stir up sh!t and blow things way out of proportion.
Colinda - Are you even expecting in March? If not, shoo.

Aw. You called me a b!tch. Color me offended. Let me guess - you feel sorry for my husband too?
I might be expecting in March, but you see, when you're at 6 pregnancies and no babies, you can't really take a BFP in June to mean a baby in March. Oh, gosh. Sorry if that just got someone all upset and scared for themselves.
Lol, you're a peach.
Believe me, your teary sob story probably didn't make anyone scared or upset.
Sheena...you know I love you, but that was straight rude and disrespectful.

Salt hon, I love you too. I don't want it to be taken the wrong way..I see now how it definitely could be.

I apologize for the poorly written response.

Texas77again · July 2011

ColindaP:

Aw. You called me a b!tch. Color me offended. Let me guess - you feel sorry for my husband too?

I might be expecting in March, but you see, when you're at 6 pregnancies and no babies, you can't really take a BFP in June to mean a baby in March. Oh, gosh. Sorry if that just got someone all upset and scared for themselves.

i feel sorry for your husband.

kathymarie · July 2011

SheenaNash1:
ColindaP:
SheenaNash1:
Wow. What a b!tch. OP - Ignore posters like this, they love to stir up sh!t and blow things way out of proportion.
Colinda - Are you even expecting in March? If not, shoo.

Aw. You called me a b!tch. Color me offended. Let me guess - you feel sorry for my husband too?
I might be expecting in March, but you see, when you're at 6 pregnancies and no babies, you can't really take a BFP in June to mean a baby in March. Oh, gosh. Sorry if that just got someone all upset and scared for themselves.
Lol, you're a peach.
Believe me, your teary sob story probably didn't make anyone scared or upset.

Wow. That was a disgusting thing to say.

OP, just remember that losses are not contagious.

cldixon · July 2011

OK OP said her piece, she didn't mean to be ugly, rude or insensitive.

I think it's time to let this dog die (pardon the phrasing) and move on.

SheenaNash1 · July 2011

kathymarie:
SheenaNash1:
ColindaP:
SheenaNash1:
Wow. What a b!tch. OP - Ignore posters like this, they love to stir up sh!t and blow things way out of proportion.
Colinda - Are you even expecting in March? If not, shoo.

Aw. You called me a b!tch. Color me offended. Let me guess - you feel sorry for my husband too?
I might be expecting in March, but you see, when you're at 6 pregnancies and no babies, you can't really take a BFP in June to mean a baby in March. Oh, gosh. Sorry if that just got someone all upset and scared for themselves.
Lol, you're a peach.
Believe me, your teary sob story probably didn't make anyone scared or upset.
Wow. That was a disgusting thing to say.

OP, just remember that losses are not contagious.

That's why I reworded to reflect my original intent. I certainly didn't mean it to sound the way I typed it out at first. I'm definitely not that much of a b!tch, it was typed in haste.

Again, my apologies.

diana.filipi · July 2011

Well, from having been on the boards since 1st tri with DD I can say that those posts will drop off once you leave 1st tri and after a bit here on March 2012. There may be a loss every now and then later (by 2nd tri) but by and far mostly not.

Try to remember that more of the difficult stuff gets posted than the glitter and rainbows stuff. Folks who've had a difficulty or loss need more support than those who are doing Aok.

Texas77again · July 2011

SheenaNash1:

Believe me, your teary sob story probably didn't make anyone scared or upset.

Indifferent

SheenaNash1 · July 2011

Texas77again:
SheenaNash1:

Believe me, your teary sob story probably didn't make anyone scared or upset.

Agh! I reworded it and apologized for the way that came out above. But again, Colina and anyone who was offended I TRULY apologize for the way that was typed out.

I was meaning to say in relation to this post and the OP I didn't think her saying that in this thread made anyone scared for themselves. I did NOT mean that her losses didn't make anyone upset, not at all.

I'm sorry! I really am!

mommypro · July 2011

the struggle and hustle:

mommypro:
I know exactly how you feel. I hope this doesnt offend anyone one but I dont read any of the posts with losses or anything negative in them. The early weeks are stressful enough. I have my own worries and to read about those worries becoming realities for some women makes it hard to be happy and that is what I think you should be trying to surround yourself with during pregnancy, happiness. So I avoid the unhappy things completely.

I truly hope you don't have to go through the losses I went through. That said, if should happen to you, would you want support from us, or would you want us to avoid your post like the plague and leave you in grief and unsupported? I am pretty sure the losses I experienced have anything to do with happiness or lack there of during those pregnancies.

Actually, I would want you to do whatever it takes for YOU to be as happy as possible during your pregnancy. What you all seem to be missing from the OP and myself it seems is that we stated verey clearly that what was being said was not ment to offend. I agree that these boards are here for us to be able to support each other but if you want to be able to say what you want and have others respect that then you should do the same for them. Weather you like what they say or not. Which is exactly the reason I dont read those posts. Not that they shouldnt be posted cause they should but I dont have to read them. And I dont think thats insensitive, just honest. At first I read them and comented too saying how sorry I was,etc. But the more I saw the sadder I became and sorry if I dont want to be sad right now. Im just trying to make my pregnancy as happy as posibble.

lisaNDmike08 · July 2011

PSA to mommypro and OP: when you post insensitive things that invalidate the pain people struggle with on a daily basis, they may actually feel hurt by your thoughtlessness in spite of you starting with the words "I'm not trying to be mean."

sweetea929 · July 2011

cldixon:
Boo to drama post!!!!!
YES hearing about a loss is hard and scary. Life is hard, and scary, and bad stuff happens. People have formed bonds and friendships on the board and they have the right to post about a loss and get support from other girls in the boards they are part of.

This. These types of posts make me less enthusiastic about checking in on these boards.

[Deleted User] · July 2011

the struggle and hustle:
mommypro:
I know exactly how you feel. I hope this doesnt offend anyone one but I dont read any of the posts with losses or anything negative in them. The early weeks are stressful enough. I have my own worries and to read about those worries becoming realities for some women makes it hard to be happy and that is what I think you should be trying to surround yourself with during pregnancy, happiness. So I avoid the unhappy things completely.

I truly hope you don't have to go through the losses I went through. That said, if should happen to you, would you want support from us, or would you want us to avoid your post like the plague and leave you in grief and unsupported? I am pretty sure the losses I experienced have anything to do with happiness or lack there of during those pregnancies.

Yes s&h. Yes the loss posts make me sad, but I know when I had a loss the support I received from the boards was amazing, and I don't know what I would have done without it. So I will read them and offer virtual hugs and kind words, because this is a community and you get out what you put in.

The level of drama in this post is nothing, ladies we are all just being honest not mean. I don't think honesty = drama. Anyone can post their opinion and anyone can respond to that opinion, and disagreement isn't necessarily a bad thing - in fact I think the disagreement in this thread was mostly quite respectful.

Mattel · July 2011

salt78:
As someone who has experienced a loss, I can tell you that the support of these boards was instrumental to my healing process. Sorry...posts like this just irk me. As if people that suffer a loss are supposed to walk on eggshells so as not to upset everyone else.

This is exactly what I was thinking reading the OP. The fact is, pg losses are more common than anyone would like to believe they are, and as a result, some of the women that come here with a BFP will end up with a loss. It's devastating and terrifying, I've been there. But it's reality. And when you're a part of a group of a lot of pg women, it's one you inevitably will face in some way. All we can do is be supportive. Furthermore, reading about a m/c will not make you have one. It will either happen or it won't, and the large majority of the women that start out on this board with BFPs at a few weeks will go on to deliver beautiful babies.

electricdoctor83 · July 2011

lisaNDmike08:

PSA to mommypro and OP: when you post insensitive things that invalidate the pain people struggle with on a daily basis, they may actually feel hurt by your thoughtlessness in spite of you starting with the words "I'm not trying to be mean."

This even though I am tardy to the party....

I've had 5 losses...they suck. I come on the boards to get support. Sorry if I freaked YOU out with my losses, that must be so hard on you?

Next time my body rejects a baby and I have to excuse myself from the 1st trimester or BMB I'll just keep quiet so I don't scare anybody else that is having a healthy pregnancy.

I don't even know why I lurked on this board...it WAS my board until I lost my last pregnancy. Just like July 2011, October 2011, December 2011, January 2012 were all my birth month boards.

Scary enough for ya? I am in a bad mood and probably shouldn't even post this, but I don't care right now. I'm aggravated and bitter.

the struggle and hustle · July 2011

electricdoctor83:
lisaNDmike08:

PSA to mommypro and OP: when you post insensitive things that invalidate the pain people struggle with on a daily basis, they may actually feel hurt by your thoughtlessness in spite of you starting with the words "I'm not trying to be mean."

This even though I am tardy to the party....

I've had 5 losses...they suck. I come on the boards to get support. Sorry if I freaked YOU out with my losses, that must be so hard on you?

Next time my body rejects a baby and I have to excuse myself from the 1st trimester or BMB I'll just keep quiet so I don't scare anybody else that is having a healthy pregnancy.

I don't even know why I lurked on this board...it WAS my board until I lost my last pregnancy. Just like July 2011, October 2011, December 2011, January 2012 were all my birth month boards.

Scary enough for ya? I am in a bad mood and probably shouldn't even post this, but I don't care right now. I'm aggravated and bitter.

Electric - I just wanted to extend my sincere sorrow for all of your losses. Reading your response honestly brings me back to my last one. I know your most recent loss is very fresh and that was the worst stage for me. I hope things get easier for you and when you are ready to try again, you have positive results. Best of luck and if you need anything or anyone to talk to, I'm around.

electricdoctor83 · July 2011

Thanks I am still very raw right now and I'm not sure why I even lurked on this board...I guess I like pain? I really need to ban myself. I kind of feel bad being so snarky...I am totally not a mean person at all (so sorry OP and others).

From one momma who knows multiple losses to another ((hugs))

the struggle and hustle · July 2011

electricdoctor83:

Thanks I am still very raw right now and I'm not sure why I even lurked on this board...I guess I like pain? I really need to ban myself. I kind of feel bad being so snarky...I am totally not a mean person at all (so sorry OP and others).

From one momma who knows multiple losses to another ((hugs))

Believe me - I totally get it. Lurking on the board because it was supposed to be your board. I did the same thing last time all 3 times. Followed them through first tri and beyond thinking (mean and rude things) about people. Don't feel bad for how your emotions are expressed. I don't think anyone thought you were mean, and if they did, I would have to say there might be some sort of empathy gene missing from them.

mommypro · July 2011

electricdoctor83:
lisaNDmike08:

PSA to mommypro and OP: when you post insensitive things that invalidate the pain people struggle with on a daily basis, they may actually feel hurt by your thoughtlessness in spite of you starting with the words "I'm not trying to be mean."

This even though I am tardy to the party....

I've had 5 losses...they suck. I come on the boards to get support. Sorry if I freaked YOU out with my losses, that must be so hard on you?

Next time my body rejects a baby and I have to excuse myself from the 1st trimester or BMB I'll just keep quiet so I don't scare anybody else that is having a healthy pregnancy.

I don't even know why I lurked on this board...it WAS my board until I lost my last pregnancy. Just like July 2011, October 2011, December 2011, January 2012 were all my birth month boards.

Scary enough for ya? I am in a bad mood and probably shouldn't even post this, but I don't care right now. I'm aggravated and bitter.

First of all let me say how sorry I am for all your losses. The thing is nothing that was said was at all a personal attack on you or anyone else who has experienced a loss. Please explain to me how what I said was so offensive to you. Because I dont want to be constantly bombarded with negativity during my pregnancy? Thats not taking away from anything you or anyone else may have experienced. I am truely sorry if any of my words hurt you or anybody else. I simply choose to not read anything negative that adds to the fears I already have myself. From what I have read a m/c can happen at any time without warning and there is nothing that you can do about it. So I try to not think about it, I try to be possitive. And its hard to remain possitive when you read about all the horrible things that can go wrong. How is that insensitive to you? Im just trying to remain stress free.

the struggle and hustle · July 2011

mommypro:
electricdoctor83:
lisaNDmike08:

PSA to mommypro and OP: when you post insensitive things that invalidate the pain people struggle with on a daily basis, they may actually feel hurt by your thoughtlessness in spite of you starting with the words "I'm not trying to be mean."

This even though I am tardy to the party....

I've had 5 losses...they suck. I come on the boards to get support. Sorry if I freaked YOU out with my losses, that must be so hard on you?

Next time my body rejects a baby and I have to excuse myself from the 1st trimester or BMB I'll just keep quiet so I don't scare anybody else that is having a healthy pregnancy.

I don't even know why I lurked on this board...it WAS my board until I lost my last pregnancy. Just like July 2011, October 2011, December 2011, January 2012 were all my birth month boards.

Scary enough for ya? I am in a bad mood and probably shouldn't even post this, but I don't care right now. I'm aggravated and bitter.

First of all let me say how sorry I am for all your losses. The thing is nothing that was said was at all a personal attack on you or anyone else who has experienced a loss. Please explain to me how what I said was so offensive to you. Because I dont want to be constantly bombarded with negativity during my pregnancy? Thats not taking away from anything you or anyone else may have experienced. I am truely sorry if any of my words hurt you or anybody else. I simply choose to not read anything negative that adds to the fears I already have myself. From what I have read a m/c can happen at any time without warning and there is nothing that you can do about it. So I try to not think about it, I try to be possitive. And its hard to remain possitive when you read about all the horrible things that can go wrong. How is that insensitive to you? Im just trying to remain stress free.

Mommypro - seriously, you need to let this go. She just had a damn miscarriage. Did you not see the post she made after apologizing? By responding to this you are just not letting it die. You can't be stress free and positive by continuing to read and respond to this thread. GTFO of this post since it has to do with loss and you don't want to surround your self with it. You made it clear you don't open up loss threads and don't offer your condolences because it is so scary. Seriously, you didn't need to respond to this. Grow up and quit being so whiny.

electricdoctor83 · July 2011

Mommypro: I will not explain anything to you because you just don't understand. Be happy that you don't get it.

Have a healthy and happy pregnancy.

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