Describe the feeling of finding out at u/s the gender of your baby.

skittleblu · July 2011

Do you feel more connected? Excited? Were you maybe a little disappointed cuz you or your DH wanted the opposite gender?

How soon into the ultrasound do they tell you? What else are they looking for at this 20 wk ultrasound? How long did the whole process take you?

MrsLeanna · July 2011

This time I found out at an elective u/s but the first time I found out at the a/s.

With my DD, I was ECSTATIC to find out I was having a daughter, this time, I was a little disappointed because I really wanted DD to have a sister. Opposite reactions from my husband, he was disappointed with the first because he wanted a boy, but was thrilled this time because it is a boy! Needless to say, we both got over the respective disappointment quickly

Yes, I feel more connected because I can use a pronoun, now instead of "it" or "the baby", it's "he" or "him" or "my little boy" I can really picture our future with him in it and what we will do together and how he will fit into our family. I can see him as the little brother. I can choose a name and decorate the nursery and buy clothes, etc.

With the a/s they didn't tell us until the end what the sex was. I think the whole thing was about 30 minutes and they look at everything - heart, kidneys, all organs and body parts, placenta, amniotic fluid. It's very thorough.

happylady07 · July 2011

Both my DH and I were thrilled to find out we were having a boy- but I know we were both kind of hoping for a boy first. Our anatomy scan only took about 15-20 minutes total, and the tech told us first all the shots she was going to be looking for, and asked if we wanted to find out the sex. After looking at my cervix and other non-baby stuff first, she moved on to the baby, and said "well since I've got the shot right now, I can tell you it's a boy! And I'm supposed to tell you that since this is just a 2-D scan that it's only a 60% accurate guess, but I am positive this guy is a boy!" It was so un-real and exciting at the same time, we were both grinning like fools. For me it really was exciting to know "who" was in there, as we had a girl's and boy's name picked out already. We were lucky she looked first thing too, b/c after she took that still, he closed up his legs and never showed us again for the rest of the scan!

LauraM18 · July 2011

We looked at thei heart, kidneys, belly, head size, between the legs, measured the bone in the leg, looked at the spine. We lucked out and got to see fingers and toes too. Baby wasnt cooperating at first and had his legs crossed. As soon and the tech said uh oh I cant see, he popped them open and clear as day its a boy! I wanted a girl so bad. Had dreams about christmas dresses and hair bows. But after already looking at his little face, I wasnt dissapointed at all that we are getting a little man. DH cried (though he wont admit it) but all my thoughts of dresses vanished and were instantly replaced with cars and sports and cowboy boots. As to how soon they tell you is just depending. Your tech showed us the whole baby first and a good head/face shot then looked. It only took us 15 minutes but thats because he was behaving. I hear it usually takes 30 min to an hour but thats just more time you get to look at LO

Waiting4myJulyBaby · July 2011

I found out with DS and this baby at an elective U/S.

With DS (let the flaming begin) I cried for days, I had all kind of irrational thoughts about how I'd never adjust to becoming a mom of a boy, what would happen when he's too old to go in the ladies room with me at the mall (he'd be in the scary men's room alone) etc, and it didn't help that I really wanted a girl and my in-laws came to the appointment with us and my FIL held a matchbox car in each hand for "luck" that it would be a boy, instead of giving me a minute to take it all in he jumped up and down while MIL made comments about how we should name the baby after FIL's dad.

It took me a few days to get over the disappointment, I started to bond with him once we chose a name, bedding, boy clothes etc., and the second he was born I thought how crazy I was and how I could never love anyone more... I prayed my next baby would be a boy too cause he's so sweet, lovable, and such a mama's boy!

This time we went to an elective place as well- just me, DH and DS. It was so relaxed and the minute I found out she was a girl (about 5 min into appointment) I cried just a few tears because I was so excited picturing my son as the protective older brother and knowing that this little girl would steal my husband's heart.

At my A/S scan for my son the tech confirmed the sex for us but it took her at least 30 min to get a good view.

emadlma · July 2011

I had really bonded with my friend's 4 month old daughter so I was hoping for a girl as well. I'd also had a lot of people tell me they thought it was a girl even though in the very beginning I was thinking boy. I must admit I was a little disappointed at first that it was a boy, but now I am happy he's healthy and am having fun looking at all the boy stuff online.

love_melongtime · July 2011

Waiting4myJulyBaby:

I found out with DS and this baby at an elective U/S.

With DS (let the flaming begin) I cried for days, I had all kind of irrational thoughts about how I'd never adjust to becoming a mom of a boy, what would happen when he's too old to go in the ladies room with me at the mall (he'd be in the scary men's room alone) etc, and it didn't help that I really wanted a girl and my in-laws came to the appointment with us and my FIL held a matchbox car in each hand for "luck" that it would be a boy, instead of giving me a minute to take it all in he jumped up and down while MIL made comments about how we should name the baby after FIL's dad.

It took me a few days to get over the disappointment, I started to bond with him once we chose a name, bedding, boy clothes etc., and the second he was born I thought how crazy I was and how I could never love anyone more... I prayed my next baby would be a boy too cause he's so sweet, lovable, and such a mama's boy!

This time we went to an elective place as well- just me, DH and DS. It was so relaxed and the minute I found out she was a girl (about 5 min into appointment) I cried just a few tears because I was so excited picturing my son as the protective older brother and knowing that this little girl would steal my husband's heart.

At my A/S scan for my son the tech confirmed the sex for us but it took her at least 30 min to get a good view.

YIKES! Just a reminder to me of why my H and myself are the only ones who are allowed to attend these types of events! Including labor!

ladykatie81 · July 2011

I really wanted a girl but my hubby and I were pretty sure it was going to be a boy. The second the u/s tech put that thing on my belly, she said "I know what it is. Do you want to know?". YES! It's a girl! I was surprised and kind of rubbed it in hubby's face as he kept telling me it was going to be a boy. I am thrilled but I also realized that having a son would have been equally as thrilling. Since it's our first, we can try for a boy next time!

Ivana_Stolichnaya · July 2011

I was drawn towards everything girl in the stores...little girl's clothes, toys, dolls, bedding etc. I just felt that it was a girl. 16 weeks rolls around and we got an early guess that we were having a girl and I instantly teared up. I was so happy and excited. We were at a perinatologist's office due to the baby had a slight irregular heartbeat. It was hard to concentrate on what the Dr. was saying after that because all I could think of was, "I'm having a little girl!"

On the ride home my husband was going through gender shock, he was silent and didn't talk about the appointment that much. I finally said, "I can't believe we're probably having a girl!" and he sort of responded with a half-ass, "yeah that's neat"

It took him a couple days but he eventually warmed up to the idea. At 20 weeks it was a girl. I'm still so happy I got my girl, I really wanted a girl in the house, someone I could go shopping with, talk about girl stuff with etc. With the pregnancy I really don't have a preference, a little brother or sister would fit in just fine.

gymkatinka · July 2011

I just found out, yesterday.I had an amnio, but before that they did a 16 weeks anatomy scan.Everyone, friends and family thought it was going to be a boy.I've only been looking at boy's bedding, boy's names etc.,So when the technician announced that it was a girl, we were in shock.We are thrilled, of course, but it took hours to recover.Today my doctor called with preliminary amnio results and he confirmed, that its a girl.

We are just so happy.We got 3 D pictures as well, and knowing that the little dancer in belly is a girl, is just too overwhelming.I wasn't expecting it, but I'm so happy.

katie0919 · July 2011

I had an elective ultrasound with this little guy at 14 weeks, because I could not stand the wait!! After about 10 minutes of trying to get him to cooperate, he spread 'em and was clear as day a little boy! I had the strangest reaction, because I always thought I wanted a boy first...but for some reason I just had a *feeling* this baby was a girl. Not even that I wanted one, I just felt like it was....so honestly I got used to that idea. I was certainly happy, because I would love one of each...but I wasn't as happy as I thought I would be initially. But, I looked over and saw the look of pride and joy in my husband's eyes and I couldn't have been happier. And now, especially after it was confirmed again at the a/s that he's a boy - I wouldn't have it any other way. He's my little man, and I just dream about what he's going to look like and be like (hopefully just like his daddy) and I just wouldn't have it any other way. I think you definitely bond more when you find out the sex. Good Luck!!! Enjoy it!!

honeybee #1 · July 2011

Definitely excited, because I wanted a girl. And it's helped me to feel more connected and start to adjust to the idea that she's not just our baby but a girl, a person all of her own, and soon she'll have a name even. We've known for a couple of weeks now that we're having a girl and it's still sort of sinking in. My DH tried to act disappointed but failed miserably at it, it was hilarious.

I remember they looked at the heart and the main arteries, the stomach, the kidneys, between the legs, at the feet and hands, measured the abdomen, measured the femur and the humerus, and located the placenta. And I'll be going in for another ultrasound for a closer look at her brain, because she wouldn't get her head out of my bladder.

calliesmom6 · July 2011

our a/s went pretty quickly, maybe 20-25 minutes? the tech told us that everything looked great and the results/details will be send to my OB. when it came down to finding out we were having a boy i had mixed feelings. i was excited because the whole time i had been telling everyone i was certain it was a boy so i was pumped up to find out that i was right. shortly after the excitment passed i think i mostly felt scared. we already had our boy name picked out so now referring to the baby by his name or him or he just made it really feel real. the shock of "holy crap. were having a baby. this freakin' is scarey." wore off in about a day or two. then i was totally excited and really think that knowing his gender has really helped me bond with him i can hardly wait to meet my new little man

nichellemybelle · July 2011

I had mine done at about 19w3d. We are having twins so the doctor checked baby A first an told us within minutes that it was a girl. Then he checked the babies body, fluid, organs, all that stuff. Then he moved to baby B and told us it was a girl. There was slight disappointment that there wasn't a boy but it kind of went away when he told us they were perfectly healthy. My husband was a little more bummed.

I felt a little more connected because we could pick names so it became a little more "real" i guess you could say.

trackchik6 · July 2011

With DS we were excited but I was not super surprised- I had a feeling that he was going to be a boy. The tech waited until the end of the u/s to tell us.

alexvause · July 2011

I *knew* I was having a girl from the very beginning, I never once thought it was a boy. I didnt have a preference either way but just a gut feeling. We got the girl "guess" at our NT scan and DH still wasnt convinced. We went for a gender determination ultrasound at 16w and the tech confirmed a girl. I was incredibly excited to get confirmation of what I thought was mothers intuition but also thrilled that my hubby was getting a baby girl (he has been talking about wanting a little girl since before we were married).

Snorkel30 · July 2011

We just found out last Tuesday. When we first found out we were pregnant, i was sure it was a boy, I just knew it, but then everyone around us said it's a girl, and they know it's a girl. My dad was so sure he even went and got us pink things, haha. So we went to the u/s and right away the tech said he knows what it is, and he asked if we wanted to know, and we said yes. He said we were having a boy. I was totally surprised. It took me a while to recover from that, but then when I woke up the next day, I was so happy, and excited, and it really doesn't matter whether it's a boy or a girl, but i am sooooo glad we found out. I'm glad he's healthy. And to answer your weustions, yes, I defintely feel more connected now, it just feels more real for me. Our ultrasound only took about 15 minutes. We're just super excited, and getting the room ready. I can't imagine not finding out.

zordon+wonderland · July 2011

DH and I had no preference for either gender, we just hoped for ten fingers, ten toes! This didn't stop us from, however, catching this... what we thought was instinct that it was a girl. We were so sure.

At our 17w5d ultrasound (kind of early anatomy scan) our tech revealed it was definitely a boy! We were so shocked! But since it never mattered what the baby was to start with, we were immediately elated as well. Cried a little, lol.

The anatomy scan took about 45 minutes. They measure everything, look at the heart, brain, check for cleft lip and any other markers. Since ours was a little early, she couldn't get the best look at the heart as she would have hoped, and he was hiding one of his feet, so we came back two weeks later to finish, no complaints there! Something to definitely enjoy, watching your little one on screen.

Pelusa214 · July 2011

I just felt weird. We didn't find out with DD#1, and it feels strange to know that there's a girl in my belly, not just a genderless baby. I'm happy, of course, but honestly it doesn't feel any more real to me than when I didn't know the gender. Just weird =p

OurJellybean · July 2011

Dh really wanted a boy, and I was more neutral although im my head I was convinced it was a girl. We have a baby poll going and 80% of the guesses were for boy so I just accepted it would be a boy lol, and its my first child so either way I would be happy as long as it was healthy (smug i know lol). In canada the u/s tech cant tell you any information, they do the u/s at a seperate facility and fax the results to your doctor where you talk to them about the results, they could only tell us the sex. I spent about 20 minutes lying on the bed while she did her work and took pictures, the whole time she didnt talk and i couldnt see the screen... long! At the end she called my husband in and she showed us the baby on the u/s monitor.. explaining where the spine was etc very briefly. She told us she got a glimpse of the sex and asked if we wanted to know. She told us it looks like a little girl!!! but you can never be 100%. I asked her to show us the junk once more just so i could see for myself.. and yep... no penis.. looked like nothing so i assumed that meant girl lol. I felt myself kinda tear up a bit and i looked at my husband who was smiling. The first thing i said to him is... sorry, no boy! he was very happy it was a girl tho so thats good lol. I couldnt wait to tell my family, my mom was estatic!!! So excited for pink and bows!!!

As for feeling connected... I feel like know I can put a name to the little baby inside me I feel a lot closer to her. Its not just "it" or "baby", its "Carys" or "my little girl". I feel she is more real now and I cant wait to meet her!!!

vspek · July 2011

First time with DD I was excited and even cried a bit (in my heart I knew DD was a girl) with this LO I am a bit disappointed, mostly because I wanted DD to have a sister and I knew it would be much easier to pick a girl name then a boy name.

The disappointment went away fast.

DH was excited about both, he was there when I found out about DD, but could not make it when I found out about this LO.

UAbride31007 · July 2011

I felt excited but also anxious. I was relieved to finally know what we were having. However, I don't really know what to expect with a boy. I felt at least a little more prepared for a girl. I am not disappointed, just unsure.

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