UO Thursday

lmknight7 · July 2011

Let's hear em girls!

BriannaHH · July 2011

I don't like professional maternity photos and have no plans on getting them done.

Everyone keeps telling me that I will love having pictures of me pregnant, but I am not swayed.

lmknight7 · July 2011

Ok here's mine

I used to feel a *little* guilty about bumping while on work time, but I don't anymore. I really dislike my job and am trying to transfer - but my manager is keeping me hostage...boooo! So I bump every chance I get, even when it's boring.

Ok I have to got a meeting, so hopefully when I get back there are some less lame UO's out there (I'm calling mine lame, not anyone elses, lol)

Slockhart · July 2011

My UO: My sons father never consults me when he does something important like applying for a new job. He has been watching our son for the last 7 months while I worked a part time job and tells me yesterday, that next week is his last week to watch Aiden because he is starting a new job, um hello? I planned to work until the end of september and now you are giving me a weeks notice to quit my job? All the while we are trying to qualify for an FHA loan and buy a home and now my income will be totally gone! I am soooooo super stressed, not sure if this is more of a vent or an UO but I had to get it out!

Mandy747 · July 2011

I think the CIO/Attachment Parenting war is overdone and a little ridiculous. There are situations where both are reasonable and I recognize that while I may have preconceived notions as to what might be 'better', I have no idea what will work best for me until LO arrives.

Fianschneid · July 2011

I'm sure this will get some people going but I'm wearing big girl underwear today. I'm really bothered by the term "real women" being used for people who are overweight. I believe that real women come in all shapes and sizes and that I shouldn't be made to feel like a less substaintial person by advertisers and the media because I am smaller.

My sister and I are both naturally thin - she is far thinner than I am at 5'11, 125 lbs after having two kids. She was bullied mercilessly in school for being skinny. People told her to get over it because being skinny is supposed to be a good thing. People called us anorexic and bulimic growing up. Just like people love to tell thin people to "eat a sandwich" or point out that "I might not be a size 2 but at least I get to eat". We're both big eaters.

I believe that there are naturally thin people and natually big people and that neither should be targets because of their size but society thinks while it is inappropriate to assume overweight people are lazy (I agree, inappropriate) it is okay to assume that underweight people all have eating disorders. While there are underweight people who do have them, there are overweight people who have them, too. Neither should be targets. Eating disorders are illnesses. People who are genetically small or big can't help who they are.

In other words, I think it is just as tacky to make fun of someone for being skinny as it is to make fun of someone for being overweight.

Mandy747 · July 2011

Fianschneid:

I'm sure this will get some people going but I'm wearing big girl underwear today. I'm really bothered by the term "real women" being used for people who are overweight. I believe that real women come in all shapes and sizes and that I shouldn't be made to feel like a less substaintial person by advertisers and the media because I am smaller.

My sister and I are both naturally thin - she is far thinner than I am at 5'11, 125 lbs after having two kids. She was bullied mercilessly in school for being skinny. People told her to get over it because being skinny is supposed to be a good thing. People called us anorexic and bulimic growing up. Just like people love to tell thin people to "eat a sandwich" or point out that "I might not be a size 2 but at least I get to eat". We're both big eaters.

I believe that there are naturally thin people and natually big people and that neither should be targets because of their size but society thinks while it is inappropriate to assume overweight people are lazy (I agree, inappropriate) it is okay to assume that underweight people all have eating disorders. While there are underweight people who do have them, there are overweight people who have them, too. Neither should be targets. Eating disorders are illnesses. People who are genetically small or big can't help who they are.

In other words, I think it is just as tacky to make fun of someone for being skinny as it is to make fun of someone for being overweight.

Yes ITA!

And to add on to this, just because someone enjoys working out a lot doesn't mean they have an unhealthy obsession with weight or an unhealthy food relationship. Just as most people wouldn't comment on a person's lack of physical activity, it's equally rude to take jabs at someone for being highly active.

cantalopes24 · July 2011

Mandy747:
Fianschneid:

I'm sure this will get some people going but I'm wearing big girl underwear today. I'm really bothered by the term "real women" being used for people who are overweight. I believe that real women come in all shapes and sizes and that I shouldn't be made to feel like a less substaintial person by advertisers and the media because I am smaller.

My sister and I are both naturally thin - she is far thinner than I am at 5'11, 125 lbs after having two kids. She was bullied mercilessly in school for being skinny. People told her to get over it because being skinny is supposed to be a good thing. People called us anorexic and bulimic growing up. Just like people love to tell thin people to "eat a sandwich" or point out that "I might not be a size 2 but at least I get to eat". We're both big eaters.

I believe that there are naturally thin people and natually big people and that neither should be targets because of their size but society thinks while it is inappropriate to assume overweight people are lazy (I agree, inappropriate) it is okay to assume that underweight people all have eating disorders. While there are underweight people who do have them, there are overweight people who have them, too. Neither should be targets. Eating disorders are illnesses. People who are genetically small or big can't help who they are.

In other words, I think it is just as tacky to make fun of someone for being skinny as it is to make fun of someone for being overweight.

ITA!

And to add on to this, just because someone enjoys working out a lot doesn't mean they have an unhealthy obsession with weight or an unhealthy food relationship. Just as most people wouldn't comment on a person's lack of physical activity, it's equally rude to take jabs at someone for being highly active.

I think a lot of it comes from people feeling insecure and justifying why they aren't that active/thin.

ETA: I also hate when people say "There are unhealthy skinny people too" as if someone else being unhealthy is a justification for laco of attention to your own personal health.

jessica0602 · July 2011

I am over being pregnant. I'm just not a fan. Don't get me wrong. I absolutely cannot wait to meet my son and know the end result will be totally worth it. And I know that I will probably do it again at least once. But I am so not one of those women who has *loved* being pregnant.

NickyCicc20 · July 2011

I'll play this week.

I hate thank you cards...meaning I HATE writing them. I'm not the kind of person who gets offended if someone doesn't send me one when I give a gift so therefore I hate that I have to do them. I get it, you're thankful I got you a gift. No sense in wasting your time writing out a card and then spending $.45 to mail it and probably $.50 on the card to remind me again. If I mailed you a gift, a quick email saying you received it is absolutely fine for me. And if I gave you a check, you cashed it so I know you received it.

That being said, I send a handwritten, personalized one out for every gift I receive. I understand it's proper etiquette and some people to get offended if they don't receive one...but I honestly HATE doing them and find it pointless.

ProcrastinatingBride · July 2011

I think most of the baby shower-related vents on this board are whiny and selfish-sounding. 99% of the time, when I read one, all I can think is, "Someone you care about is THROWING YOU A PARTY, the primary purpose of which is to GIVE YOU PRESENTS. You should just say 'thank you' and move along."

And yes, I know that some of you don't view showers as primarily gift-giving events, but that is, in my experience, their primary purpose. I'm not against them generally; I'm just against complaining about them.

bluishgreenishgreyish · July 2011

So yesterday, I mentioned to a nurse practioner I work with that LO is much more active at night then during the day. He moves around during the day but at night seems to have a dance party in my belly (not that anything is wrong with that). She said that when she was pregnant with her children, she gave them Benadryl so they would become adjusted to a sleep pattern. Even after her children were born and they wouldn't sleep she gave them Benadryl to get them to bed. She said ever since she did that they have no sleeping issues what so ever.

After she walked away, I thought to myself REALLY? I can't see myself medicating my baby because they cant fall asleep at night or because they can't adjust to a sleeping pattern. It's part of being a parent, dealing with sleepless nights and having LO adjust to sleeping patterns takes time. I'm sure there are exceptions like a baby being sick but according to her that wasn't the case for her children.

cantalopes24 · July 2011

ProcrastinatingBride:

I think most of the baby shower-related vents on this board are whiny and selfish-sounding. 99% of the time, when I read one, all I can think is, "Someone you care about is THROWING YOU A PARTY, the primary purpose of which is to GIVE YOU PRESENTS. You should just say 'thank you' and move along."

And yes, I know that some of you don't view showers as primarily gift-giving events, but that is, in my experience, their primary purpose. I'm not against them generally; I'm just against complaining about them.

Yes

amyc216 · July 2011

Fianschneid:

I'm really bothered by the term "real women" being used for people who are overweight. I believe that real women come in all shapes and sizes and that I shouldn't be made to feel like a less substaintial person by advertisers and the media because I am smaller.

Amen to this!

amyc216 · July 2011

This probably makes me sound like a jerk, but I don't want everything used. All of a sudden my new mom friends are trying to give me all their old baby items. I appreciate the thought, but I want my baby to have his own new items.

sewpinkgal · July 2011

ProcrastinatingBride:

And yes, I know that some of you don't view showers as primarily gift-giving events, but that is, in my experience, their primary purpose. I'm not against them generally; I'm just against complaining about them.

Yup. Couldn't agree more.

gkmacdon · July 2011

My UO... It frustrates me that so many people chose not to buy items off of our BRU registry. I know it's the thought that counts and I do appreciate people's generosity. But when you ignore the clear-cut list of items we need and get us something we have no use for, it's going to get returned and I'm going to use the money to get something we do need. Couldn't you just save me that step and buy off my registry!!!?? Because I really hate lugging unwanted/duplicate baby gear back to BRU, Walmart, and Target when I'm 7 months pregnant and it's 100 degrees out.

To me, I'd rather get a mom/bride something she specifically said she wants and needs than have her return my gift. This way I know she'll use it Granted there are some exceptions to this (handmade gifts, etc.) but for the most part, please people just stick to the registry.

ETA: I realize this comes after pp's UO about annoying baby shower complaints. But hey this is my honest UO so... there it is!

Mrs. Mo · July 2011

NickyCicc20:

I'll play this week.

I hate thank you cards...meaning I HATE writing them. I'm not the kind of person who gets offended if someone doesn't send me one when I give a gift so therefore I hate that I have to do them. I get it, you're thankful I got you a gift. No sense in wasting your time writing out a card and then spending $.45 to mail it and probably $.50 on the card to remind me again. If I mailed you a gift, a quick email saying you received it is absolutely fine for me. And if I gave you a check, you cashed it so I know you received it.

That being said, I send a handwritten, personalized one out for every gift I receive. I understand it's proper etiquette and some people to get offended if they don't receive one...but I honestly HATE doing them and find it pointless.

Ditto. I'm seriously dragging my feet with my TY's for my shower. DH told be last week he'd help by writing out the one's for his side but now he's changing his mind. I understand etiquette but I thanked each person as I opened their gifts, then as a whole after we were done with a gifts and a last time as each person was leaving. So, I just don't see why I need to thank them yet again. I understand sending one if a person was not able to make it to the shower ( & thus wasn't included in the 3 seperate "thank you"s ).

morsey2011 · July 2011

amyc216:
This probably makes me sound like a jerk, but I don't want everything used. All of a sudden my new mom friends are trying to give me all their old baby items. I appreciate the thought, but I want my baby to have his own new items.

I agree. I have been given lots of used items and they're awesome. But excuse me for wanting a new carrier, stroller, and packnplay! When I first announced I was having a girl, I would get comments like "oh you won't have to buy anything!"because there are a lot of little girls in my family. It really annoyed me.... And still does.

Mrs. Mo · July 2011

I hate looking at bare pregnany bellies, including my own. I know some people think it's "beautiful" because their baby is growing in there but all I see is a big belly (& sometimes with hair, stretchmarks, linea nigra, stretched belly button etc). I have been starting to block some of my FB friends that have been constantly posting their bare bellies. I really don't need to be seeing all that!

lunatunatoo · July 2011

bluishgreenishgreyish:

So yesterday, I mentioned to a nurse practioner I work with that LO is much more active at night then during the day. He moves around during the day but at night seems to have a dance party in my belly (not that anything is wrong with that). She said that when she was pregnant with her children, she gave them Benadryl so they would become adjusted to a sleep pattern. Even after her children were born and they wouldn't sleep she gave them Benadryl to get them to bed. She said ever since she did that they have no sleeping issues what so ever.

Um....wow.

UGADawg8 · July 2011

bluishgreenishgreyish:

So yesterday, I mentioned to a nurse practioner I work with that LO is much more active at night then during the day. He moves around during the day but at night seems to have a dance party in my belly (not that anything is wrong with that). She said that when she was pregnant with her children, she gave them Benadryl so they would become adjusted to a sleep pattern. Even after her children were born and they wouldn't sleep she gave them Benadryl to get them to bed. She said ever since she did that they have no sleeping issues what so ever.

After she walked away, I thought to myself REALLY? I can't see myself medicating my baby because they cant fall asleep at night or because they can't adjust to a sleeping pattern. It's part of being a parent, dealing with sleepless nights and having LO adjust to sleeping patterns takes time. I'm sure there are exceptions like a baby being sick but according to her that wasn't the case for her children.

I take Benadryl every night so I will sleep, not the baby!! I started doing that long before I was pregnant though and my OB gave me her blessing to continue taking it. I would never give it to my baby once she is born though and I won't take anymore once she is born b/c I'll need to be able to take care of her in the middle of the night. Benadryl makes me so sleepy that going to the bathroom in the middle of the night is quite the challenge. I've walked in to the wall many times!

EarthMommi1 · July 2011

Mrs. Mo:
I hate looking at bare pregnany bellies, including my own. I know some people think it's "beautiful" because their baby is growing in there but all I see is a big belly (& sometimes with hair, stretchmarks, linea nigra, stretched belly button etc). I have been starting to block some of my FB friends that have been constantly posting their bare bellies. I really don't need to be seeing all that!

Im

I'm going to agree with you on this one. I think bare belly photos are great if you and your SO want some to document the pregnancy for your own viewing. But, please do not share on FB.

In addition, I am comepletely sick of the over sharing era on FB. Lately it seems people are forgetting boundaries. It seems most people use FB as a tool to complain about things inappropriately. For example: family friend going through a divorce bad-talking his soon to be ex. Really people, have some limits.

ProcrastinatingBride · July 2011

gkmacdon:
My UO... It frustrates me that so many people chose not to buy items off of our BRU registry. I know it's the thought that counts and I do appreciate people's generosity. But when you ignore the clear-cut list of items we need and get us something we have no use for, it's going to get returned and I'm going to use the money to get something we do need. Couldn't you just save me that step and buy off my registry!!!?? Because I really hate lugging unwanted/duplicate baby gear back to BRU, Walmart, and Target when I'm 7 months pregnant and it's 100 degrees out.
To me, I'd rather get a mom/bride something she specifically said she wants and needs than have her return my gift. This way I know she'll use it Granted there are some exceptions to this (handmade gifts, etc.) but for the most part, please people just stick to the registry.
ETA: I realize this comes after pp's UO about annoying baby shower complaints. But hey this is my honest UO so... there it is!

I actually don't view this as in conflict with my UO because you didn't mention the word "shower" (I don't think) at all in your UO. It was just about wishing people would use the registry. I have no issue with that.

On the other hand, all of you complaining about writing thank you notes, well ... Wink

christen_z1 · July 2011

Fianschneid:

I'm sure this will get some people going but I'm wearing big girl underwear today. I'm really bothered by the term "real women" being used for people who are overweight. I believe that real women come in all shapes and sizes and that I shouldn't be made to feel like a less substaintial person by advertisers and the media because I am smaller.

My sister and I are both naturally thin - she is far thinner than I am at 5'11, 125 lbs after having two kids. She was bullied mercilessly in school for being skinny. People told her to get over it because being skinny is supposed to be a good thing. People called us anorexic and bulimic growing up. Just like people love to tell thin people to "eat a sandwich" or point out that "I might not be a size 2 but at least I get to eat". We're both big eaters.

I believe that there are naturally thin people and natually big people and that neither should be targets because of their size but society thinks while it is inappropriate to assume overweight people are lazy (I agree, inappropriate) it is okay to assume that underweight people all have eating disorders. While there are underweight people who do have them, there are overweight people who have them, too. Neither should be targets. Eating disorders are illnesses. People who are genetically small or big can't help who they are.

In other words, I think it is just as tacky to make fun of someone for being skinny as it is to make fun of someone for being overweight.

I totally agree with this. This was my sister and I too growing up. We were constantly accused of having eating disorders. I have always had a hard time putting on weight and it drives me nuts when someone tells me to "go eat a cheeseburger." I hate that.

PitaBread · July 2011

I judge pg women that eat fast food for all their meals every single day. I have 2 friends who are due around the same time and all they eat is fast food (at least 3x/day), then b!tch about not feeling good. Yea, I doubt I'd feel good if I consumed that much fat and sodium on a daily basis. Once in a while? Fine. But when it's the bulk of your diet, you may have a problem. Your baby relies on you for nutrition, I doubt they are getting it from a Big Mac.

CalinsBride · July 2011

Fianschneid:

I'm sure this will get some people going but I'm wearing big girl underwear today. I'm really bothered by the term "real women" being used for people who are overweight. I believe that real women come in all shapes and sizes and that I shouldn't be made to feel like a less substaintial person by advertisers and the media because I am smaller.

My sister and I are both naturally thin - she is far thinner than I am at 5'11, 125 lbs after having two kids. She was bullied mercilessly in school for being skinny. People told her to get over it because being skinny is supposed to be a good thing. People called us anorexic and bulimic growing up. Just like people love to tell thin people to "eat a sandwich" or point out that "I might not be a size 2 but at least I get to eat". We're both big eaters.

I believe that there are naturally thin people and natually big people and that neither should be targets because of their size but society thinks while it is inappropriate to assume overweight people are lazy (I agree, inappropriate) it is okay to assume that underweight people all have eating disorders. While there are underweight people who do have them, there are overweight people who have them, too. Neither should be targets. Eating disorders are illnesses. People who are genetically small or big can't help who they are.

In other words, I think it is just as tacky to make fun of someone for being skinny as it is to make fun of someone for being overweight.

I completely agree with you. The whole "real women have real bodies with real curves" thing pisses me off. Real women also sometimes have real bodies with no curves. Whatever.

CalinsBride · July 2011

Mandy747:
Fianschneid:

I'm sure this will get some people going but I'm wearing big girl underwear today. I'm really bothered by the term "real women" being used for people who are overweight. I believe that real women come in all shapes and sizes and that I shouldn't be made to feel like a less substaintial person by advertisers and the media because I am smaller.

My sister and I are both naturally thin - she is far thinner than I am at 5'11, 125 lbs after having two kids. She was bullied mercilessly in school for being skinny. People told her to get over it because being skinny is supposed to be a good thing. People called us anorexic and bulimic growing up. Just like people love to tell thin people to "eat a sandwich" or point out that "I might not be a size 2 but at least I get to eat". We're both big eaters.

I believe that there are naturally thin people and natually big people and that neither should be targets because of their size but society thinks while it is inappropriate to assume overweight people are lazy (I agree, inappropriate) it is okay to assume that underweight people all have eating disorders. While there are underweight people who do have them, there are overweight people who have them, too. Neither should be targets. Eating disorders are illnesses. People who are genetically small or big can't help who they are.

In other words, I think it is just as tacky to make fun of someone for being skinny as it is to make fun of someone for being overweight.

ITA!

And to add on to this, just because someone enjoys working out a lot doesn't mean they have an unhealthy obsession with weight or an unhealthy food relationship. Just as most people wouldn't comment on a person's lack of physical activity, it's equally rude to take jabs at someone for being highly active.

I know! I will include healthy eating in this. People used to say things to me about how I don't need to work out, or how it's fine for me to eat a cheeseburger. I know that, and I'm honestly not concerned about my weight, I LIKE salad. I ENJOY exercise.

danielle7898 · July 2011

crystalbaby:
gkmacdon:

My UO... It frustrates me that so many people chose not to buy items off of our BRU registry. I know it's the thought that counts and I do appreciate people's generosity. But when you ignore the clear-cut list of items we need and get us something we have no use for, it's going to get returned and I'm going to use the money to get something we do need. Couldn't you just save me that step and buy off my registry!!!?? Because I really hate lugging unwanted/duplicate baby gear back to BRU, Walmart, and Target when I'm 7 months pregnant and it's 100 degrees out.

To me, I'd rather get a mom/bride something she specifically said she wants and needs than have her return my gift. This way I know she'll use it Granted there are some exceptions to this (handmade gifts, etc.) but for the most part, please people just stick to the registry.

ETA: I realize this comes after pp's UO about annoying baby shower complaints. But hey this is my honest UO so... there it is!

I agree. I would rather someone come to the shower just to celebrate and welcome LO and not bring a gift than to bring something that I will not use/do not need. It wastes their money and my time returning (if they were kind enough to include a gift receipt).

Yes

pennysuedog · July 2011

UGADawg8:
bluishgreenishgreyish:

So yesterday, I mentioned to a nurse practioner I work with that LO is much more active at night then during the day. He moves around during the day but at night seems to have a dance party in my belly (not that anything is wrong with that). She said that when she was pregnant with her children, she gave them Benadryl so they would become adjusted to a sleep pattern. Even after her children were born and they wouldn't sleep she gave them Benadryl to get them to bed. She said ever since she did that they have no sleeping issues what so ever.

After she walked away, I thought to myself REALLY? I can't see myself medicating my baby because they cant fall asleep at night or because they can't adjust to a sleeping pattern. It's part of being a parent, dealing with sleepless nights and having LO adjust to sleeping patterns takes time. I'm sure there are exceptions like a baby being sick but according to her that wasn't the case for her children.

I take Benadryl every night so I will sleep, not the baby!! I started doing that long before I was pregnant though and my OB gave me her blessing to continue taking it. I would never give it to my baby once she is born though and I won't take anymore once she is born b/c I'll need to be able to take care of her in the middle of the night. Benadryl makes me so sleepy that going to the bathroom in the middle of the night is quite the challenge. I've walked in to the wall many times!

I take 1/2 a unisom every night to fall asleep, it is on my list of safe drugs from Dr. plus if I don't take one the next day is a barf-fest.

My list of things I love in order, which maybe unpopular...

1-family

2-dog

3-friends

4-pepsi

5-unisom

6-money

sunshine610 · July 2011

jessica0602:
I am over being pregnant. I'm just not a fan. Don't get me wrong. I absolutely cannot wait to meet my son and know the end result will be totally worth it. And I know that I will probably do it again at least once. But I am so not one of those women who has *loved* being pregnant.

THIS. Except, I am never doing this again. Getting pregnant = super stressful. Staying pregnant = even more stressful, which I would not have thought possible. As far as I'm concerned, this is just a means to an end, and once I reach the end, I am DONE!

Sunburn19 · July 2011

I really wish that no one else will start the whole circumcision posts again. It's been discussed on here off and on for the nearly 30 weeks I've posted on this board. It's a tired subject (on here) and I would actually click and read the first few threads in the past that were started in hopes that someone would have something new and spectacular to say, but no luck. I think they should give the subject it's own posting board so everyone from the curious to the militant can post and debate 24/day, 7 days/week.

My other UO is I can't stand the whole movement over the last decade+ that all little girls are princesses. Everything from calling the little girl a princess to tiaras and princess themed clothing to entire rooms made up to make the little girl feel like a princess all the time. I won't be doing that when I have a daughter. I'd rather her 'play' princess every once in a while than spend her childhood believing she is a princess and then growing up to act like she deserves to be treated like a princess...aka, spoiled. So far the little girls I've known where they are their parents "little princesses" are clearly going to have a hard time in the real world where they are SO not royalty.

xhollishx · July 2011

PitaBread:
I judge pg women that eat fast food for all their meals every single day. I have 2 friends who are due around the same time and all they eat is fast food (at least 3x/day), then b!tch about not feeling good. Yea, I doubt I'd feel good if I consumed that much fat and sodium on a daily basis. Once in a while? Fine. But when it's the bulk of your diet, you may have a problem. Your baby relies on you for nutrition, I doubt they are getting it from a Big Mac.

Yes I changed my diet as soon as I was pregnant. I feel good when I cook and eat healthy! And I'm not gaining too much weight, which I was afraid I would.

wendyll64 · July 2011

Sunburn19:

I really wish that no one else will start the whole circumcision posts again. It's been discussed on here off and on for the nearly 30 weeks I've posted on this board. It's a tired subject (on here) and I would actually click and read the first few threads in the past that were started in hopes that someone would have something new and spectacular to say, but no luck. I think they should give the subject it's own posting board so everyone from the curious to the militant can post and debate 24/day, 7 days/week.

My other UO is I can't stand the whole movement over the last decade+ that all little girls are princesses. Everything from calling the little girl a princess to tiaras and princess themed clothing to entire rooms made up to make the little girl feel like a princess all the time. I won't be doing that when I have a daughter. I'd rather her 'play' princess every once in a while than spend her childhood believing she is a princess and then growing up to act like she deserves to be treated like a princess...aka, spoiled. So far the little girls I've known where they are their parents "little princesses" are clearly going to have a hard time in the real world where they are SO not royalty.

I take issue with this, too...All of my friends have little girls and they treat these babies like barbies. They paint their nails and dab on lip gloss (infants!) and dress them up in huge frilly tutus daily. DH's cousins have girls under 10 and they're told every minute of every day that they're the most beautiful little princess ever... it makes me want to puke, and quite frankly, these girls aren't pretty at all. The boys have to be super careful around them... they will have a rude awakening when they're older. ugh.

Janimal · July 2011

Sunburn19:

I really wish that no one else will start the whole circumcision posts again. It's been discussed on here off and on for the nearly 30 weeks I've posted on this board. It's a tired subject (on here) and I would actually click and read the first few threads in the past that were started in hopes that someone would have something new and spectacular to say, but no luck. I think they should give the subject it's own posting board so everyone from the curious to the militant can post and debate 24/day, 7 days/week.

My other UO is I can't stand the whole movement over the last decade+ that all little girls are princesses. Everything from calling the little girl a princess to tiaras and princess themed clothing to entire rooms made up to make the little girl feel like a princess all the time. I won't be doing that when I have a daughter. I'd rather her 'play' princess every once in a while than spend her childhood believing she is a princess and then growing up to act like she deserves to be treated like a princess...aka, spoiled. So far the little girls I've known where they are their parents "little princesses" are clearly going to have a hard time in the real world where they are SO not royalty.

This isn't a movement over the last decade. The Snow White movie came out in 1937. Cinderella in 1950. The stories were told many years before them. I was insane over Princess Di in the 80s.

I agree the princess stuff can be way overdone - but I think overindulging children whether it be over princess stuff or other trends is the problem.

My kid LOVES the Disney princesses. She has gravitated toward it on her own, because believe me she has been exposed to other things! But it isn't harmful unless I spoil the hell out of her over it.

ProcrastinatingBride · July 2011

Sunburn19:
I really wish that no one else will start the whole circumcision posts again. It's been discussed on here off and on for the nearly 30 weeks I've posted on this board. It's a tired subject (on here) and I would actually click and read the first few threads in the past that were started in hopes that someone would have something new and spectacular to say, but no luck. I think they should give the subject it's own posting board so everyone from the curious to the militant can post and debate 24/day, 7 days/week.
My other UO is I can't stand the whole movement over the last decade+ that all little girls are princesses. Everything from calling the little girl a princess to tiaras and princess themed clothing to entire rooms made up to make the little girl feel like a princess all the time. I won't be doing that when I have a daughter. I'd rather her 'play' princess every once in a while than spend her childhood believing she is a princess and then growing up to act like she deserves to be treated like a princess...aka, spoiled. So far the little girls I've known where they are their parents "little princesses" are clearly going to have a hard time in the real world where they are SO not royalty.

ITA. The only stuff my LO will get that has princesses on it (at least at this point) is stuff she gets as gifts or passed down. I'm buying nothing with crowns, tiaras, thrones, etc. I think it's all ridiculous.

ProcrastinatingBride · July 2011

Janimal:
Sunburn19:

I really wish that no one else will start the whole circumcision posts again. It's been discussed on here off and on for the nearly 30 weeks I've posted on this board. It's a tired subject (on here) and I would actually click and read the first few threads in the past that were started in hopes that someone would have something new and spectacular to say, but no luck. I think they should give the subject it's own posting board so everyone from the curious to the militant can post and debate 24/day, 7 days/week.

My other UO is I can't stand the whole movement over the last decade+ that all little girls are princesses. Everything from calling the little girl a princess to tiaras and princess themed clothing to entire rooms made up to make the little girl feel like a princess all the time. I won't be doing that when I have a daughter. I'd rather her 'play' princess every once in a while than spend her childhood believing she is a princess and then growing up to act like she deserves to be treated like a princess...aka, spoiled. So far the little girls I've known where they are their parents "little princesses" are clearly going to have a hard time in the real world where they are SO not royalty.

This isn't a movement over the last decade. The Snow White movie came out in 1937. Cinderella in 1950. The stories were told many years before them. I was insane over Princess Di in the 80s.

I agree the princess stuff can be way overdone - but I think overindulging children whether it be over princess stuff or other trends is the problem.

My kid LOVES the Disney princesses. She has gravitated toward it on her own, because believe me she has been exposed to other things! But it isn't harmful unless I spoil the hell out of her over it.

While the bolded is true, Disney actually started marketing the heroines from all those movies (plus the more recent ones, obviously) in a "princess" package only in the last 10 or so years. Princesses aren't new, but the marketing of them to little girls has changed a lot.

I can't find the article right now, but I'll see if MH can find it for me - there was an article in either the NYT or the WSJ within the past 5 years about Disney's move toward "princessification."

kalajaye17 · July 2011

gkmacdon:

My UO... It frustrates me that so many people chose not to buy items off of our BRU registry. I know it's the thought that counts and I do appreciate people's generosity. But when you ignore the clear-cut list of items we need and get us something we have no use for, it's going to get returned and I'm going to use the money to get something we do need. Couldn't you just save me that step and buy off my registry!!!?? Because I really hate lugging unwanted/duplicate baby gear back to BRU, Walmart, and Target when I'm 7 months pregnant and it's 100 degrees out.

To me, I'd rather get a mom/bride something she specifically said she wants and needs than have her return my gift. This way I know she'll use it Granted there are some exceptions to this (handmade gifts, etc.) but for the most part, please people just stick to the registry.

ETA: I realize this comes after pp's UO about annoying baby shower complaints. But hey this is my honest UO so... there it is!

I agree, someone came up to me and told me last week that they did print and look at my registry but couldn't find anything they liked on it so they picked something out that they thought was cute. Surprise I appreciate the gift but not that.

cantalopes24 · July 2011

Maybe my problem is that my parents didn't buy me enough princess stuff as a child because now I am one as an adult lol.

nabum · July 2011

In general, I think the people on the pets board are nuts.

aliciaroset · July 2011

The problem with the princess stuff isn't just that it's overdone. It's that it tells girls that they should be praised for their looks, not for their minds. Not to mention that all the princesses look exactly the same: white, thin, and with long pretty hair. (Did they add a black princess recently? I can't remember.)

Anyway, I don't want my daughter to idolize Ariel or Cinderella. I want her to idolize people who DO things.

Maybe that's my UO?

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