I still don't think he gets it.

danienross · July 2011

Every time BFing comes up around my in-laws, my FIL asks me why I don't just pump every once in awhile. Like it's easier. I try to explain to him that for me, nursing DD is easier. DH is an only child and was FF. I thought he finally understood but it doesn't seem so.

Yesterday he asks if I'll be able to find a sitter for DD for all of us to go see the new Harry Potter movie. There are a few issues with this that he knows but seems to be ingoring. DD starting refusing bottles at 4mos. I'm SAH so we didn't push the issue. That means 5mos have gone by since she's even been offered a bottle. I quit pumping when she starting refusing bottles so I have absolutely no freezer stash. She won't take pacis and is still learning the sippy cup.

How would you handle this? Try to force the bottle issue for just one night out? Explain yet again that that's just too long to leave DD and that we can't go? Or just take DD to the movies with us?

Thanks in advance ladies!

BeetleLinz1125 · July 2011

Is there a drive-in anywhere close to you? I would be hesitant to take LO to the movies, but I think if you went to a drive in that would work for everyone...

danienross · July 2011

BeetleLinz1125:
Is there a drive-in anywhere close to you? I would be hesitant to take LO to the movies, but I think if you went to a drive in that would work for everyone...

When the conversation came up a few weeks ago we said we wanted to go to the drive-in so that DD could come. They said that sounded like a great idea. Then last night FIL sprung the sitter question on me. I'll absolutely bring up the drive-in again. I think it does sound like a wonderful compromise.

bunnymama625 · July 2011

We will be going with LO next week-- we're going to the earliest showing b/c that's about when LO nurses, then naps- I will nurse her through the first half, and she SHOULD sleep through the second half. If i have to though, I'll let her nurse the whole movie long-- I'm dying to see it!!

Maryland Baby · July 2011

I would have a hard time putting my life on hold because of LO providing it was something that "I" wanted to do. You deserve a break too...? now if it means worrying about LO then you won't enjoy yourself anyway but perhaps your family could compromise on the drive in for now and work on the bottle/sippy cup for a future dinner outing? ultimately thats up to you..

danienross · July 2011

elisamariaortiz:
We will be going with LO next week-- we're going to the earliest showing b/c that's about when LO nurses, then naps- I will nurse her through the first half, and she SHOULD sleep through the second half. If i have to though, I'll let her nurse the whole movie long-- I'm dying to see it!!

The only reason I'm worried about taking DD is because she is older and gets bored. Plus she doesn't sleep nearly as much as she did when she was a newborn. But at least I won't be the only one taking a baby if I do take her lol.

danienross · July 2011

Maryland Baby:
I would have a hard time putting my life on hold because of LO providing it was something that "I" wanted to do. You deserve a break too...? now if it means worrying about LO then you won't enjoy yourself anyway but perhaps your family could compromise on the drive in for now and work on the bottle/sippy cup for a future dinner outing? ultimately thats up to you..

It really doesn't bother me that I can't leave her for any extended period of time. I know that this is just a phase and I won't be nursing her forever. Just for right now, BFing is more important to me than going out. For the most part, I have no problems taking her anywhere I need to go. She goes out to restaurants with us with no problem. Just not sure how she'll handle sitting through a movie or the loud speaker/big screen. Honestly, I probably would worry about her the whole time since she's never been a bottle fan and it's a long movie. Even before the flat out bottle refusal, bottles were hit and miss with her. She loves her boob.

Thanks for the input though. I definitely understand the desire to be able to go out, I guess it's just not a priority for me right now.

larrysdarling · July 2011

danienross:
Maryland Baby:
I would have a hard time putting my life on hold because of LO providing it was something that "I" wanted to do. You deserve a break too...? now if it means worrying about LO then you won't enjoy yourself anyway but perhaps your family could compromise on the drive in for now and work on the bottle/sippy cup for a future dinner outing? ultimately thats up to you..
It really doesn't bother me that I can't leave her for any extended period of time. I know that this is just a phase and I won't be nursing her forever. Just for right now, BFing is more important to me than going out. For the most part, I have no problems taking her anywhere I need to go. She goes out to restaurants with us with no problem. Just not sure how she'll handle sitting through a movie or the loud speaker/big screen. Honestly, I probably would worry about her the whole time since she's never been a bottle fan and it's a long movie. Even before the flat out bottle refusal, bottles were hit and miss with her. She loves her boob.
Thanks for the input though. I definitely understand the desire to be able to go out, I guess it's just not a priority for me right now.

I wouldn't take my baby to the movies bc it's too loud and it would scare the crap outta her. My daughter would need to be entertained and it would pull me away from the movie, plus it wouldn't be fair to her to expect her to be good for that length of time at that she. If you don't feel the need to go out w/o her, wait til it comes out on Netflix, DVD, etc.

law8296 · July 2011

If there's a drive-in that is a GREAT solution; however, here in FL there aren't many of those left.

Sounds like a larger, long-term issue here. How many hours go between feedings at this point for your LO? What about at night, "bedtime"- could you go to a movie during the time LO is typically sleeping?

If there are other times that you feel "tied down"- would getting back to pumping be something to consider as she is also learning the sippy cup? (No need to do the bottle if she'll take to the sippy cup.)

lindsay.lou · July 2011

Maryland Baby:
I would have a hard time putting my life on hold because of LO providing it was something that "I" wanted to do. You deserve a break too...?

This is how I feel, too. I am not willing to go through all the hassle involved with leaving my EBF baby just to make someone else happy. Not worth it. Not even close.

danienross · July 2011

law8296:
If there's a drive-in that is a GREAT solution; however, here in FL there aren't many of those left.

Sounds like a larger, long-term issue here. How many hours go between feedings at this point for your LO? What about at night, "bedtime"- could you go to a movie during the time LO is typically sleeping?

If there are other times that you feel "tied down"- would getting back to pumping be something to consider as she is also learning the sippy cup? (No need to do the bottle if she'll take to the sippy cup.)

There is a drive-in that's a reasonable distance from us. I've been with my in-laws before to see the 6th Harry Potter movie (DH was deployed, no baby).

DD nurses every 2-3hrs during the day and every 3hrs at night with maybe a 4hr stretch every once in awhile. She STTN (8hrs consistently) from 1mos old to 5mos old but then stopped randomly. She is getting three solid meals a day usually (BLW) but still nurses often which I don't mind.

I don't often feel tied down, I more feel like the ILs are putting me in a weird position. I am comfortable with how things are, although I am nervous about taking her to a movie theater so I'll definitely be reiterating the drive-in suggestion. My post was more about how to handle my ILs. I'm not looking for a solution about how to fix DD's nursing habits as I feel comfortable with how things are.

danienross · July 2011

larrysdarling:
danienross:
Maryland Baby:
I would have a hard time putting my life on hold because of LO providing it was something that "I" wanted to do. You deserve a break too...? now if it means worrying about LO then you won't enjoy yourself anyway but perhaps your family could compromise on the drive in for now and work on the bottle/sippy cup for a future dinner outing? ultimately thats up to you..
It really doesn't bother me that I can't leave her for any extended period of time. I know that this is just a phase and I won't be nursing her forever. Just for right now, BFing is more important to me than going out. For the most part, I have no problems taking her anywhere I need to go. She goes out to restaurants with us with no problem. Just not sure how she'll handle sitting through a movie or the loud speaker/big screen. Honestly, I probably would worry about her the whole time since she's never been a bottle fan and it's a long movie. Even before the flat out bottle refusal, bottles were hit and miss with her. She loves her boob.
Thanks for the input though. I definitely understand the desire to be able to go out, I guess it's just not a priority for me right now.
I wouldn't take my baby to the movies bc it's too loud and it would scare the crap outta her. My daughter would need to be entertained and it would pull me away from the movie, plus it wouldn't be fair to her to expect her to be good for that length of time at that she. If you don't feel the need to go out w/o her, wait til it comes out on Netflix, DVD, etc.

Fair enough. I was nervous at the thought myself. Thanks!

njh514 · July 2011

danienross:
It really doesn't bother me that I can't leave her for any extended period of time. I know that this is just a phase and I won't be nursing her forever. Just for right now, BFing is more important to me than going out. For the most part, I have no problems taking her anywhere I need to go. She goes out to restaurants with us with no problem. Just not sure how she'll handle sitting through a movie or the loud speaker/big screen. Honestly, I probably would worry about her the whole time since she's never been a bottle fan and it's a long movie. Even before the flat out bottle refusal, bottles were hit and miss with her. She loves her boob.
Thanks for the input though. I definitely understand the desire to be able to go out, I guess it's just not a priority for me right now.

This is EXACTLY how I feel. I have a couple of friends who think I'm a bit crazy but respect my decision. BFing is just a priority. There is nothing more important I need to be doing right now.

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