feeling lonely is normal...right?

jgoo · July 2011

New to the board, but wanted ya'lls opinions.

There are days when I just feel super lonely! I love the time I get with my babies, but some days you just want to talk to someone who understands & can talk back.

It's not that easy for us to leave the house & even though we live with a lot of family in town, our family sucks & just are not social- or sane- or enjoyable people.

Is it normal to feel lonely? I think sometimes when I start feeling this way, I worry that it means that I don't want to SAH. humph...

Alexandra*sMom · July 2011

YES!!! Totally normal!

That is why I am on the computer a lot and VERY active in Moms Club. Check out www.momsclub.org to find a chapter near you.

ktsnshn · July 2011

I get lonely all the time. I love being home, but some days I miss the social part of working. My DH works long hours and travels, so some weeks are very hard for me. I have had success with signing up for park and rec programs and I also have gym membership that includes free child care.

ToBeMrsT · July 2011

Yes very normal. I'm a much happier person when I get out and see people during the week.

littlemermaid · July 2011

Totally normal. Try to seek out some mom/playgroups to meet other sahm's. Meetup.com is a good site that lists playgroups. Also check out your public library they should have free storytime once a week for each age group starting with newborn, it's a great place to meet other moms with children the same age.

jgoo · July 2011

Thanks ladies. I appreciate your advice. Smile

Stacyc625 · July 2011

I dunno.

I wouldn't say it is normal.

There are plenty of avenues out there to socialize- if you want to.

MommyMich · July 2011

I say it IS normal! ESPECIALLY with a newborn. Yeah, it is possible to get out and socialize, but who wants to when really you spend the whole time chasing after your under two child or caring for your newborn. I was there and I totally hear ya. Also, everyone recs meetup.com but I have tried numerous groups in two different areas and all I have learned is that a lot of moms are uptight and very judgmental. The groups are not welcoming unless you already know someone that is "in." At least that has been my experience. I find it is better to take my kids to things with friends, family or on my own and then socialize with whoever is willing when we get there.

spring_time · July 2011

I see your youngest is only 3 months. Did your hospital offer any parenting groups? My hospital had a parenting support group that started when the LOs were three-six months old and continued for six months. That group has been a godsend for me. We all liked each other so much, we still continue to meet every other week even though we are no longer members of the hospital's program. Some of the moms have older kids and they have just brought them along, I think it depends on whether the group is accepting of that idea, though.

Also, storytime at the library is great for both kids.

varkeyr · July 2011

When I feel lonely I call my friends or family. I also make sure to be active outside my home.

cjsbdl · July 2011

Totally normal.

I agree it's very difficult to get out of the house for socialization and still keep the babies on their routine (which is important to me). I know it's only temporary, but I feel very isolated most of the time.

I know I talk too much when my husband is home, but I don't have anyone else to talk to! lol

I just keep telling myself it's a phase and we'll get through it and life will be much easier and more flexible when both kids are on one nap a day.

hayleydeee · July 2011

I get lonely too, and have found groups through meetup.com that are okay. But what I really like is MOPS meetings. Everyone is really welcoming, and there's child care, so you get good adult time. They are a Christian organization, which might not be for everyone, but I like it.

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