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FINALLY relaxing about TTC

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I am finally feeling at ease with TTC. We were SUPER anxious to get pregnant asap, so I kind of set myself up for failure anyways. We are still waiting for my first AF post procedure, and in the past few days I have realized a few things. 

I have realized that staring at my FF chart for hours on in is NOT going to make me ovulate. I have realized that setting unrealistic expectations for my body is not good for my sanity. I have realized that I am a girl who had a miscarriage... not "miscarriage girl"-- and it does not make me who I am, but is just a part of me. I have realized that you can have sex just for fun.. and it is fun (I knew this before TTC... but quickly forgot). I have realized that I cannot choose when I want my child.. but God will send me my forever baby when He knows it's right. 

I have FINALLY not googled for hours and hours during the day, seeing what else there is I can do to help concieve. I am finally not obsessing over my temperature, and getting pissed when it isn't showing any signs of doing anything. I am finally not taking 2-3 OPKs a day, to see if maybe I just MIGHT be surging. I finally am enjoying my summer vacation, and don't want school to start asap anymore. And it is finally not ALL I want to talk about with DH.  :)

I am FINALLY relaxing. :)   

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Re: FINALLY relaxing about TTC

  • walker03walker03 member

    Right on!  Yes

    You said it so perfectly.  

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  • bellablue2bellablue2
    imageE3A7AGGIE:

    I am finally feeling at ease with TTC. We were SUPER anxious to get pregnant asap, so I kind of set myself up for failure anyways. We are still waiting for my first AF post procedure, and in the past few days I have realized a few things. 

    I have realized that staring at my FF chart for hours on in is NOT going to make me ovulate. I have realized that setting unrealistic expectations for my body is not good for my sanity. I have realized that I am a girl who had a miscarriage... not "miscarriage girl"-- and it does not make me who I am, but is just a part of me. I have realized that you can have sex just for fun.. and it is fun (I knew this before TTC... but quickly forgot). I have realized that I cannot choose when I want my child.. but God will send me my forever baby when He knows it's right. 

    I have FINALLY not googled for hours and hours during the day, seeing what else there is I can do to help concieve. I am finally not obsessing over my temperature, and getting pissed when it isn't showing any signs of doing anything. I am finally not taking 2-3 OPKs a day, to see if maybe I just MIGHT be surging. I finally am enjoying my summer vacation, and don't want school to start asap anymore. And it is finally not ALL I want to talk about with DH.  :)

    I am FINALLY relaxing. :)   

    YesI especially love the part I bolded. I have to remind myself of this everyday!

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  • sweepie412sweepie412
    Good for you! Even reading your post reminded me that I need to relax and just how far I have come since my m/c, so thank you!! 
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  • ET131ET131 member

    Good girl!!  It's hard to realize that sometimes!

    I especially like the part where you said you're not hoping for school to start ASAP...I'm assuming you're a teacher.  So am I...and I'm sooo not ready!!!  Cool

    But in all seriousness...I'm glad that you are able to feel a little peace about everything you've been through!

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  • E3A7AGGIEE3A7AGGIE member

    imagesweepie412:
    Good for you! Even reading your post reminded me that I need to relax and just how far I have come since my m/c, so thank you!! 

    :):) ((I would give you cute smiles, and a thumbs up, but for some reason, it doesn't work on google chrom? Hrm..)) 

     

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  • msgde2shusmsgde2shus member
    Yes  Very well said!
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  • coreysmommacoreysmomma
    I just figured this out too. That's awesome. I am so happy you're feeling better.
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  • E3A7AGGIEE3A7AGGIE member

    imagecoreysmomma:
    I just figured this out too. That's awesome. I am so happy you're feeling better.

    and me you!!!! :) I love little revelations like that. ;) 

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  • october_artistoctober_artist member
    Nicely put. :)
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  • delinodelino member

    That's great!  You must feel like a huge weight has been lifted  off your shoulders.

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  • cmumamacmumama member
    You are so right.  I need to follow in your footsteps!  Thanks for the inspirational post!
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  • MsVolley02MsVolley02 member

    This is great!  I was just like you until this week.  I was constantly trying to think about what I can do differently, questioning if I will get pregnant again and when AF will show up after my d&c.  FINALLY this week I relaxed and stopped taking my temp, stopped worrying about trying again and then Friday, AF showed up. 

    I hope the same thing will happen for you and that you can continue to find some peace.

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  • saramichelle32saramichelle32
    That's great. Sounds like you have the right attitude. I think I might try to borrow a bit of your zen for me! :)
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  • jaxie320jaxie320
    I am so happy to hear this!  I am going to try to take your advice as I currently drive myself INSANE during the 2ww!
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  • robbins110808robbins110808
    Good for you! I hope we can all take from what you've said & relax a little.
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  • nursemama2benursemama2be
    Beautiful!
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  • E3A7AGGIEE3A7AGGIE member

    imagejaxie320:
    I am so happy to hear this!  I am going to try to take your advice as I currently drive myself INSANE during the 2ww!

    Big Smile  GL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    BFP #1 4/23/11, EDD 1/4/12::No heartbeat @ 9 wks::D&C 6/1/11 
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  • corndog8corndog8

    imagecoreysmomma:
    I just figured this out too. That's awesome. I am so happy you're feeling better.

    Same here :)   Glad you are doing better and have a great outlook.  

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  • bmnjd51702bmnjd51702
    Thank you for posting this...I have really been trying to get to this point so hearing that others are getting to this point as well is very inspirational. Good luck with everything and enjoy the rest of your summer vacation :)
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  • sarah7145sarah7145
    Aw good for you! Sorry I haven't wrote you back yet, the internet I'm borrowing comes and goes haha. Glad you can relax and enjoy this hot as$ summer! Talk to you soon!
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  • yogiwannabmomyogiwannabmom

    Like PP's have said, thank you for posting. I'm happy you reached that place and it gives me some hope as well.

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