Poll: IF Comments

mwlove · July 2011

So we all hear the dreaded IF comments from people who just don't get it. What comments have you been told lately?

pulga131 · July 2011

Just relax!

sarahtoledo · July 2011

"Relax, and it'll happen."

I think I don't get too many stupid comments because my people know I will let them HAVE it. Big Smile

coloradoalyssa · July 2011

Just stop trying so hard. Go on vacation. Adopt.

Rabitt313 · July 2011

"All of this frustration will be worth it in the end."

To put that in context, that was right after I told her this cycle was a bust. Good thing it wasn't in person my face would have given me away

No Sh*t!

mwlove · July 2011

- From MIL: "Can you handle that?" (in a not so friendly tone) Regarding injects if these 3 IUI cycles don't work.

- Comments from my best friend regarding IUI: "So you are automatically pregnant now right?" "If the success rates aren't high, why not use a turkey baster and save your money?" "My husband still says he's willing to give you his sperm. We make cute babies."

- From the dentist: While talking about infertility after I had to tell her the new meds I am on. "Well my diagnosis is that you are not ovulating because it takes awhile after coming off the pill." I didn't even go into all the charting, OPKs, testing, etc I've done that shows I AM ovulating.

Trish11278 · July 2011

It'll happen

Are you sure you want this? (as their children are acting up)

laabeth · July 2011

"No wonder you aren't pregnant yet, you are so stressed out!"

From my friend with 4 kids.

Shayliz · July 2011

"Babysit my kids and you'll stop trying so hard for one of your own."

brookelynpaisley · July 2011

When I told friend we had to take a break to work on issues, I got "see, you're going to get pregnant now because you're not trying." Um, no. For one, that's not at all our motive, and as low as DH's counts are, highly unlikely. Two, if I got pregnant, I'd be terrified of miscarriage in an unmedicted (for P4) cycle. I know they'd give me supps if I got a BFP, but if conception occured, I may not even know it if my LP is too short. That's all far too much to explain, though, so I just smile and nod.

Becca62307 · July 2011

"I totally understand, I had a cyst when I was 13 and thought I'd never have kids."

"That's great, but did I tell you I'm pregnant?"

brookelynpaisley · July 2011

Oh, and my sister, who I know is just trying to be helpful, told me to just take Clomid, because it worked for her husband's cousin. Sure, I'll "just take" Clomid. I really hate that people seriously think it's some simple wonder-drug.

pulga131 · July 2011

mwlove:
- From MIL: "Can you handle that?" (in a not so friendly tone) Regarding injects if these 3 IUI cycles don't work.
- Comments from my best friend regarding IUI: "So you are automatically pregnant now right?" "If the success rates aren't high, why not use a turkey baster and save your money?" "My husband still says he's willing to give you his sperm. We make cute babies."
- From the dentist: While talking about infertility after I had to tell her the new meds I am on. "Well my diagnosis is that you are not ovulating because it takes awhile after coming off the pill." I didn't even go into all the charting, OPKs, testing, etc I've done that shows I AM ovulating.

Are you kidding me on your best friend?!? Wow that would really piss me off

sarahtoledo · July 2011

mwlove:
- Comments from my best friend regarding IUI: "My husband still says he's willing to give you his sperm. We make cute babies."

This is the crappiest thing anyone has ever said. Wow.

ccam · July 2011

We just recently told our IL's about everything going on and our upcoming IUI. We asked my MIL (who has a huge mouth!) not to tell anyone. She ended up telling my SIL (I was pissed - but that's a whole other story). We planned on telling her anyway, but in person, since she went through treatments as well and had her two kids through IVF.

Anyway... I get a text from my SIL saying, "I heard the good news and I'm so happy for you guys"..... first of all, why would you talk to me about this through a text and second, why is infertility "good" and something to be happy about?! Maybe it's not that big of a deal and I know she really does mean well, but come on! Especially coming from someone who went through this all.

Sterling8888 · July 2011

From my OB (a split second before I decided to ditch her for an RE): "well, I can send you for some tests - that will guarantee you get pregnant!"

From everyone else: "My cousin's half-sister's mother-in-law's manicurist tried for years, and as soon as they adopted, BOOM! She got pregnant."

[sigh]

PlumCallaLily · July 2011

"It will happen when it's supposed to happen"

willamina28 · July 2011

It will happen.

Many couples choose not to have children and are fine.

I can be your surrogate if you want.

Stop obsessing.

Well, you are still young, you have plenty of time.

willamina28 · July 2011

rlcassell1:
"I totally understand, I had a cyst when I was 13 and thought I'd never have kids."
"That's great, but did I tell you I'm pregnant?"

Wow. Really? WTF is wrong with people?!

pulga131 · July 2011

ccam:
We just recently told our IL's about everything going on and our upcoming IUI. We asked my MIL (who has a huge mouth!) not to tell anyone. She ended up telling my SIL (I was pissed - but that's a whole other story). We planned on telling her anyway, but in person, since she went through treatments as well and had her two kids through IVF.
Anyway... I get a text from my SIL saying, "I heard the good news and I'm so happy for you guys"..... first of all, why would you talk to me about this through a text and second, why is infertility "good" and something to be happy about?! Maybe it's not that big of a deal and I know she really does mean well, but come on! Especially coming from someone who went through this all.

If your MIL is anywhere near as crazy as mine, she probably told your SIL that you are KU already instead of that you are going for an IUI.

Julie721 · July 2011

My least favorite is the "just adopt, then you'll get pregnant" comment. It is wrong on so many levels...

Becca62307 · July 2011

willamina28:
rlcassell1:
"I totally understand, I had a cyst when I was 13 and thought I'd never have kids."
"That's great, but did I tell you I'm pregnant?"
Wow. Really? WTF is wrong with people?!

Yup, it was my cousin too. She couldn't quite grasp why I burst into tears and ran from the room and why my mom wasn't all over her in excitement over the pregnancy.

willamina28 · July 2011

rlcassell1:
willamina28:
rlcassell1:
"I totally understand, I had a cyst when I was 13 and thought I'd never have kids."
"That's great, but did I tell you I'm pregnant?"
Wow. Really? WTF is wrong with people?!
Yup, it was my cousin too. She couldn't quite grasp why I burst into tears and ran from the room and why my mom wasn't all over her in excitement over the pregnancy.

OMG what an idiot! I'm sorry

mwlove · July 2011

pulga131:
mwlove:
- From MIL: "Can you handle that?" (in a not so friendly tone) Regarding injects if these 3 IUI cycles don't work.
- Comments from my best friend regarding IUI: "So you are automatically pregnant now right?" "If the success rates aren't high, why not use a turkey baster and save your money?" "My husband still says he's willing to give you his sperm. We make cute babies."
- From the dentist: While talking about infertility after I had to tell her the new meds I am on. "Well my diagnosis is that you are not ovulating because it takes awhile after coming off the pill." I didn't even go into all the charting, OPKs, testing, etc I've done that shows I AM ovulating.
Are you kidding me on your best friend?!? Wow that would really piss me off

Nope...let's just say our conversations have been limited here lately. I've pretty much had to either be firm with her or just ignore her calls/texts.

ukcats27 · July 2011

Trish11278:
It'll happen
Are you sure you want this? (as their children are acting up)

This is the worst! My sister asks me that all the time. One day I am going to snap!

mwlove · July 2011

rlcassell1:
"I totally understand, I had a cyst when I was 13 and thought I'd never have kids."
"That's great, but did I tell you I'm pregnant?"

OMG! That is horrible. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

tgreenf · July 2011

ginabina11:
"I would just DIE if I knew I could never have kids without medical intervention! How in the world do you cope with that?!"

Obviously by confiding in wonderful people like you, jack@ass!

That person = idiot. Your response = hilarious!

byrne15 · July 2011

when are you going to give your son a playmate

did you put your legs up after sex?

make sure you are doing it missionary...thats the best for getting pregnant

dollface777 · July 2011

From my dad when I tearfully told my parent's that we have been trying for a year and a half... "You guys are having sex, aren't you? Do you know how it works?"

Um, a little late for the birds and the bees talk, daddy-o.

But my dad has been really very supportive, it was just this first comment that made me look at him like he was a loon.

obeach8 · July 2011

PlumCallaLily:
"It will happen when it's supposed to happen"

This. Times one million!

jenn0620 · July 2011

My least favorite is "relax it will happen." or "you're still young you have plenty of time."

sbrowns08 · July 2011

From MIL after telling her that we are MFI:

"I think the problem is that you drink too much coffee S, and the acid in it are killing his sperm."

hootie123 · July 2011

mwlove:

- From MIL: "Can you handle that?" (in a not so friendly tone) Regarding injects if these 3 IUI cycles don't work.

- Comments from my best friend regarding IUI: "So you are automatically pregnant now right?" "If the success rates aren't high, why not use a turkey baster and save your money?" "My husband still says he's willing to give you his sperm. We make cute babies."

- From the dentist: While talking about infertility after I had to tell her the new meds I am on. "Well my diagnosis is that you are not ovulating because it takes awhile after coming off the pill." I didn't even go into all the charting, OPKs, testing, etc I've done that shows I AM ovulating.

My friend at work has asked me this every single month - she somehow still does not get. I don't understand how a 45yo woman with 2 kids does not know simple female reproductive biology - the sperm has to fertilize the egg and then it needs to implant. She still thinks IUI or IVF = immediate pregnancy. ugh.

mrsharris15 · July 2011

obeach8:
PlumCallaLily:
"It will happen when it's supposed to happen"

This. Times one million!

I agree this really gets me...

jessican08 · July 2011

After I told my sister that my DH has low sperm count, she started talking about a mutual friend of ours and her H (we'll call him Jake) who has also has a low sperm count who are also having trouble. My sister doesn't like Jake and said, "Giving Jake a low sperm count is God's way of telling him he shouldn't have kids."

Way to go sis...way to go...

I wasn't too surprised...my sister is an a$$hole sometimes.

pulga131 · July 2011

sbrowns08:
From MIL after telling her that we are MFI:
"I think the problem is that you drink too much coffee S, and the acid in it are killing his sperm."

OMG! Don't you just hate MIL's? Sounds like something mine would say!

lynn0926 · July 2011

" you are too stressed". "just get drunk". "stop thinking about and it will happen". "stop believing that temperature stuff". From my SIL "we just got drunk and he forgot to pull out, so just do thst". "your still young". "it is summer, so enjoy it"

misstrish521 · July 2011

"Stop stressing about it, and it'll happen." - I get some variation of this from almost everyone.

"Well, you need to understand that some people just can't have children.'

and

"Spend a day with my kids and you won't want children." - Both of those from my friend.

pulga131 · July 2011

misstrish521:
"Stop stressing about it, and it'll happen." - I get some variation of this from almost everyone.

"Well, you need to understand that some people just can't have children.'
and
"Spend a day with my kids and you won't want children." - Both of those from my friend.

No, no you don't need to understand that some people just can't have children! What an awful thing to say! Wow

misstrish521 · July 2011

pulga131:
misstrish521:
"Stop stressing about it, and it'll happen." - I get some variation of this from almost everyone.

"Well, you need to understand that some people just can't have children.'
and
"Spend a day with my kids and you won't want children." - Both of those from my friend.
No, no you don't need to understand that some people just can't have children! What an awful thing to say! Wow

Yeah, that one was definitely the worst.

cutebride73 · July 2011

I am somewhat active in some organizations - I teach CCD once a week during the year and I got to women's club meeting once a month. A co-worker once said (and we are friends): "maybe God thinks you are too busy to have a baby, maybe you should be less busy." Umm - okay. I guess I should just sit at home, twiddle my thumbs and do nothing in the meantime then. And for the past 2 years!!

Same co-worker also said that it was really hard while she was trying for her 2nd child (guess she was trying to by sympathetic) and she got to the point that if it didn't happen the next month she was going to assume it wasn't meant to be. She got pregnant after 4 months of trying. Seriously. 4 months!!! With her first child they got pregnant the first month. Grr.....

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