Community› The Bump Message Boards› Single Parents
Single Parents
New Discussion

Would you invite STBXH?

UnderAtreeUnderAtree member
in Single Parents

Recently I've decided to get DS baptized. STBXH knows nothing about this but now I am starting to wonder if I should even invite him.

I'm a cradle Catholic and he is, well I have no clue what he is but I know his mom is some sort of religion that hates on Catholics.

Never once have I heard STBXH talk down on my family's religion and when DS was first born we considered baptizing him. But now that it's come down to actually doing it I'm not sure on what I should do. So what would you do? Would you let your XH at least know and let him decide if he wants to go or would you keep it hush hush and go along with how you already had it planned?

Its gonna be a private event with about 10 people including me and DS.

Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
Report Reply to Post

Re: Would you invite STBXH?

  • PrettyInPearls23PrettyInPearls23 member

    As his father, I think he has a right to know his son is being baptized...especially since it's a religion that his family's religion is against. They may not have vocalized it to you, but you did say that religion "hates on" Catholics.

    You don't have to invite him if you want, but I would at least tell him what your intentions are.

    imageimageimage

    image

    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • BostonGayGalBostonGayGal member
    If you have joint legal custody there would be a good argument that he at least has a right to sufficient notice and may be able to object.


    http://oi62.tinypic.com/2w73hq9.jpg



    Report Reply
  • caligirl0715caligirl0715

    I don't know your backstory but if he's not going to be a negative presence there than I think he has the right to be. So begins the long string of events you will both have to be present for. It's one of the harder elements of this. I went through it with my son's birthday, STBXH's family was apauled that I was considering only having a party for my side of the family. (I think I gave him too much credit that he would do something with his family on his own side).

    So in short if he's not going to behave rudely I think for this one he deserves the option to be there.

    Lilypie Third Birthday tickers Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
  • Jennis22Jennis22 member

    I invited my X to DS's baptism because it seemed like an important event. Even though he doesn't believe in the same things I do, he came and everything was very civil. 

    So IMO, you should let him know about it and give him the option of being there. (Contingent on your confidence that he can be mature and civil for the event.) 

    Photobucket Lilypie First Birthday tickers
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"