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Potty Training Question - 21 month old

CanadianJulyBriCanadianJulyBri
in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
So we've been trying to have LO without a diaper on when we're home and frequent talks/reminders about the potty (we've removed carpets and have the potty in the family room, so it's always visible and near). We had quite a bit of progress at first, but now it seems LO is completely manipulating us with it. She always says she has to go when we get busy doing something, because she expects us to sit next to her and read her books (this is the routine we've built in), but then she does nothing! 
When she gets up to get another toy, or book and we walk away, she gets upset and claims she has to go again (this is after 10 minutes of us sitting there with no result). What gives? 
Is this a sign she's not emotionally ready? HELP!
TIA! 
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Re: Potty Training Question - 21 month old

  • rebeccaontherocksrebeccaontherocks

    I think you are instilling bad habits of using the potty for entertainment purposes.  I would try to phase out the book reading and toys while she goes.  She will get the hang of it, it just takes time.  Hang in there.

     My DS uses it as a ploy to get out of timeout or from doing something he doesn't want to do because he knows I will take him to the potty.  So I think a lot of it is just an age thing.  For a while he even made me take him when he had to fart lol.

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  • bride2be79bride2be79
    We had to elimate the books.  She just wanted to hang out and read.  Now though, she uses it as an excuse to avoid bedtime.  She now gets one "get out of bed free" so to speak each night.  If she doesn't go then, she doesn't get to go. 
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  • CanadianJulyBriCanadianJulyBri

    I agree...

    We initially started with the book routine, because the articles state that the child should be relaxed on the potty and even somewhat "distracted" so that they'll go and not be nervous, think it's a big deal, etc. So we worked on that...to our disadvantage!!! 

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  • rebeccaontherocksrebeccaontherocks
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    I agree...

    We initially started with the book routine, because the articles state that the child should be relaxed on the potty and even somewhat "distracted" so that they'll go and not be nervous, think it's a big deal, etc. So we worked on that...to our disadvantage!!! 

    Try a rewards system instead.  We used stickers during potty training.  I printed off a free chart from the web and bought a bunch of $1 stickers from Walmart.  DS loved the fact that if he successfully went potty he would get a sticker.  However, it was difficult to communicate "no sticker" if he didn't actually go... we would just distract him though by getting him excited to go do something else instead of getting the sticker.

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  • Ruby_SohoRuby_Soho
    I haven't been through this myself but it sounds like she loves the extra attention. What about rewarding her with a book and cuddle AFTER she has successfully gone?
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