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Meet the Baby BBQ

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I had a wonderful shower and as a thank you (besides the cards I already sent) I wanted to have a BBQ now that DS is here. I don't want any one to bring anything (besides their appetites) and I thought it would be a nice way for everyone to meet DS, see the nursery (afterall, they helped me put it together with their gifts), and to just say thank you for all the support while I was pregnant. But three of my uncles think it's weird and are questioning why I'm having it and if they really need to come. Has anyone had one of these after the baby was born? I know some people have them instead of showers but I had a shower. Is this weird of us to do this?
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    Since you are getting flack (not sure why) I would just call it a BBQ and leave it at that. Since I"m sure they know your LO has arrived and your hosting they will obviously "meet" your LO there.  If they want to bring a gift fine...if not fine.  It is not a gift giving event.  I guess if I were invited and new there was a new baby in the home I would take a small gift (outfit or toy) even if I went to a shower before baby...but that is just me.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    The whole "meet the baby" thing is a pretty new concept.  I've known of people (and we kind of did this) who invite people over on a set day at a set time to meet the baby to basically control visitors - and this was super super low key. not a party in anyway, but I think this idea has now morphed into the bigger 'party' thing. 

    So for some people, they aren't used to this.

    As for your uncle, just tell him that no, of course he doesn't have to come. You'd love to see him, but fully understand that he's busy! 

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  • HollySC13HollySC13
    Thanks ladies! I'm throwing it and they can come or not. It's free food so I would assume my uncles would be falling over themselves for a hamburger and beer per usual. Maybe they're thinking it's a "woman thing" like the shower. And as PP mentioned, it's a great way to control the when and volume of visitors!
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  • varkeyrvarkeyr

    You can send an e-mail or a paper invite. On it you can just word it something to the effect of

    Come see the new baby and enjoy family, friends, food and fun. We will be serving BBQ and drinks. What to bring? An appetite and a smile  No presents because your presence is all we need.

     

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  • mrskelly731mrskelly731 member
    Since DD was 5 weeks early we did a meet and greet afterwards and had so much fun.  People are there to see the baby, not you (no offense) and it gets it all out of the way so people are not randomly dropping by for the first couple months your LO is here.  I wouldn't worry about what your uncles think, did you say 'shower' because that would probably through them off.
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