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Let's get some opinions going: Corporal Punishment

Mommy2GraysonMommy2Grayson member
in January 2012 Moms

Someone brought up corporal punishment in the post about spanking, so I got to thinking (ugh...that kinda rhymed.)

I, personally, do not believe in letting a teacher or principal "spank" my child.  That being said, if my child did something at school to warrant that kind of punishment, they would definitely get punished at home.  My parents ALWAY said, "If you get in trouble at school, you are going to be in twice as much trouble at home!"

I find that allowing someone else to dicipline your child in that manner is embarassing to the child.  When I dicipline, my goal is not to embarass, it is to teach. 

The problem is that a lot of parents think it is the school's job to dicipline their child and keep them in line.  It isn't.  They should have values instilled in them that let them know that should they choose to make bad decisions while they are at school, there will be consequences at home.  That alone would make most children choose to obey.

So, to be blunt, nobody else will be laying their hands on my child.  I will certainly dicipline when it is needed.  I feel like my job as a parent is to protect my child, and by allowing someone else to dicipline them when I am perfectly capable and willing to do that seems wrong to me. 

I feel like we all know our children (or WILL know our children) better than anyone else, so to go off of someone else's opinion on what is "deserving of a spanking", isn't fair.

Okay, I'll step off my soap box and ask you: How do you feel about corporal punishment?

 

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  • SassyPants150SassyPants150 member

    I got the paddle in 2nd grade...and I only got it once!! I then of course got into more trouble at home.

     The problem with most of today's parents is that they don't allow their children to take any blame.  "It can't be their fault...They couldn't have done that..My child would never do that"  Then there is no consequences to actions and a lot of children who misbehave knowing nothing will happen as a result of their actions.  

    We are having an issue with our community pool as a young teenager invited 10 other teenagers from another neighboring neighborhood and when she was asked who lived here and who didn't she called the woman asking a "F'n B#($*" and the mother of that daughter refuses to believe that her daughter would say anything like that.  If anyone said that I did that to my mom...she would assume that I did and I can promise if I did I wouldn't do it again and if I didn't that I never would!

     


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  • luckylindyluckylindy member
    No one else will lay a hand on my kid, but my husband and I. If there's a problem at school that warrants that kind of punishment, I have no problem going to school and taking care of the issue myself. It's my child though and I think as the parent, it's my right to punish that child. It's not the school's responsibility to raise my kid.

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  • AfterAllAfterAll

    I do not believe in hitting my child, and neither does my husband.  My son is about 21 months old and I have slapped his hand a few times if he is doing something dangerous, repeatedly and I had no other choice, but that is as far as I plan to go.

    I am a high school teacher, so I am around teenagers daily.  I am not a huge discipliner, and for the most part I have a great relationship with my kids.  That being said.. there are SOME kids who ONLY respond to physical violence.  Of course I have never laid a hand on a student, nor have I ever wanted to, but with SOME kids, there are just not enough words or positive actions in the world to get through to them, they need to be frightened into submission.

    So in short, no, I don't believe in corporal punishment as a regular means of discipline, but I am also in the "never say never camp".

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  • amanda1ann1amanda1ann1
    To tell the truth I would probably be in jail if someone hit my kid. Yes we do spank our kids but we our the only ones that our going to do it. We really only spank if they have put their self in danger. 
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  • littlemonster417littlemonster417
    My husband and I DO plan to spank as punishment when needed. If my child is at school I am a little undecided about spanking. I do think punishment is needed of some sort,. I agree with PP no one forces children to take responsibility. However, if my child is staying with grandparents/ other close family for the day and they are displaying behavior that warrants a spanking, I am okay with that.
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  • MrsMeMoMrsMeMo member

    My answer for this is short and sweet:

    If any adult at my child's school (preschool through high school) ever lays a hand on them, there will be HELL to pay.

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  • anewmrsSanewmrsS member
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    Agree with you - nobody else will lay a hand on my child.  My son is 6 and thank god to this day hasn't done anything to warrant a spanking.  I was spanked as a child and I'm fine with it, my mom usually cried after and made me hug her. lol.  I think a LOT of the problems with youth today is the parents raising them.  That being said...... if they misbehave at school they should get detension or something but no physcial punishment.

    That sums it up for me!

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  • califorever81califorever81
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    My answer for this is short and sweet:

    If any adult at my child's school (preschool through high school) ever lays a hand on them, there will be HELL to pay.

    This!! Another of my million reasons I homeschool, corporal punishment is legal in Texas.
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  • Free2SingFree2Sing member

    It sucks that many parents feel that it's the school's responsibility to discipline their child.  It is their job to take care of the situation right then, but the child should also face consequences at home for certain behaviors.

    I would not want anyone else spanking my child other than my husband and I.  Too much room for error & issues.

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  • laurenhallmarklaurenhallmark member
    I definately agree that it should be the parents responsibilty to discipline their child the way they feel necessary. I was always taught to be respectful and honest and never thought any kind of outrageous behavior was even an option, besides the "talking during class" kinda stuff..... I never once stepped foot into a priciples office or had to be in trouble at school. I think the problem today is parents let their children get away with everything. I dont want someone else ever touching my child, but I will always teach them right from wrong in hopes that when they go into a public facility of any kind, that they know how to behave and how to present themselves.
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  • fightingravityfightingravity member
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    My parents didn't believe in spanking (and either do I), but I was disciplined.  All of the schools I attended had a policy of calling the parents to let them know what I had done.  I KNEW I would be in trouble when I got home.  

    So - I believe it is the responsibility of the school to communicate effectively with the parents, and carry out an appropriate consequence (detention, suspension, service...).  It is the responsibility of the parents to carry out an appropriate punishment at home (whatever that may be in that particular home).

    I, personally, do not think hitting a child is an effective form of punishment, especially if we are teaching children to resolve issues in other ways, and not to lay hands on other people...kind of a mixed message IMO. 

    This. The research shows that corporal punishment generally does not have the desired effect -- kids who are spanked have WORSE behavior than kids who aren't (and yes, they're controlling as best they can preexisting levels of naughtiness).

    The one exception is in low income, urban environments, which tend to be very dangerous, where some studies show a small positive effect of spanking (likely, consequences of misbehavior are so high that parents need to be overcontrolling to keep their kids safe).

    We see the best outcomes in kids when parents have an "authoritative" parenting style: in other words, warm but firm. These parents set clear boundaries and expectations about behavior, give lots of positive reinforcement for good behavior, and consistently stick to rational consequences for unwanted behavior (e.g. time outs, removal of privileges, etc.)

    Spanking tends to teach your kids that hitting is ok. Which is probably not your intent! In addition, most parents spank when they have lost their temper or are scared, not as a rational, calm consequence. Which again doesn't teach your kid good things about how to handle their strong feelings.

    I'm happy to talk about this more with anyone who has a "spare the rod, spoil the child" approach--there are plenty of alternative consequences for kids who like to push limits. You have lots of options that we know work for lots of kids.

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