Is there a way I can approach this without sounding like the biggest a$$hole on the planet?

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · July 2011

A few weeks back, I had some friends ask me if I needed anything for the baby. I told them we were pretty much set, since this is our second.

Well DH and I paid a visit to BRU this weekend with the intention of registering so that we could get the completion coupon along with a bunch of free samples, but we then realized there are quite a few things we could use, after all (several of the things we had for DD were borrowed and we can't borrow them again this time around).

There's no way I can go back to them and say "Oh hey btw, here's my registry". But since they specifically asked me what I need, I would like to tell them about those items. Is there a tactful (or at least, a non-as$hole-ish-and-tacky way) way to tell them? Maybe just mention the items that would fall into their price range but not say anything about the actual registry?

chillyupnorth · July 2011

Hmmm... I don't think you can do it directly, but maybe you can casually drop it? I'm thinking in a "Hey, so, whatcha been up to? Oh yeah? And what have we been up to? Well, we are just getting ready for baby, etc, etc, got this done & that done, and ended up deciding that there actually are things we need that we hadn't thought about, so we just filled out a registry... So anywho..."

Atalanta0214 · July 2011

Depends on your friends but I would just be honest with them. Tell them you were thinking about their generous offer last time you saw them and it made you start thinking about what you might need prior to baby #2 and that you realized that it might be helpful to have a few completion times. I'd find a nice way to word it and put it into an e-mail or say it the next time you see them.

Ceridwen21 · July 2011

Atalanta0214:
Depends on your friends but I would just be honest with them. Tell them you were thinking about their generous offer last time you saw them and it made you start thinking about what you might need prior to baby #2 and that you realized that it might be helpful to have a few completion times. I'd find a nice way to word it and put it into an e-mail or say it the next time you see them.

This, but do not email it to them. That's way too direct. If you find a way to drop it into conversation, then go for it though.

katiewhompus · July 2011

I agree that just dropping in conversation is the way to go. Once the topic turns to baby maybe be like "Man, I didn't realize how much new and awesome baby stuff was out there! We went to BRU to get some diapers and ended up making a registry."

BetsyDavis · July 2011

This happened to me a few weeks back actually. I was just honest and my friend actually brought it back up when we went out for lunch so I didn't have to bring it up it thankfully. But when she asked are you sure there's nothing you need I replied actually after thinking it over and going through things we found there are some things we could really use or would like to have. Also on FB I made a post about baby inventory and how we are closing in on the last few things we need and so glad to be close to being completely ready and a few of my friends off that post asked if they could get any of it for me as a gift to baby. So maybe you could casually do something like that so it's not a direct oh hey I need this kind of thing.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · July 2011

Thanks for the input everyone! I probably won't see my friends for another week or two but I think I will try and wait so I can approach the subject in person rather than via email.

I think I might also do the subtle FB hint dropping, just in case my friends catch on.

Thanks again for the input!

Fweetie · July 2011

After my shower I thought I was set on everything...then it turned out there were a few more things that we needed. We didn't have any burp clothes and only 6 bottles...etc... I actually put a post of FB (not meaning to generate any gifts from it at all...) all I said was "Need to go to target this weekend....it's amazing how much stuff one little person needs to come into the world!" Next thing I knew I had about 2 target gift cards. I was shocked, and very very grateful! :-)

Hollygirl7 · July 2011

You FB idea is good, or maybe you could say to them (while already on the topic of baby,) "...and I'm just realizing NOW how much you actually need for a second baby! I'm 35 weeks already, and starting to panic, because I'm starting to set things up for baby, and I'm realizing that I just didn't have as much as I thought I did..." Then it can just be a general conversation about you stressing, without you directly telling them about the registry. Typically, the conversation would go down the path of, "Oh, what did you realize you need??" and then you can tell them specifics, rather than giving them the registry.

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