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S/o Poll: SAHM's/degrees
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Re: S/o Poll: SAHM's/degrees
Not getting my degree wasn't even an option I considered for a second, regardless of whether I would be a SAHM or not.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
LOL...I guess this is from my question. Yes, degreed, and sahm. It just kind of happened. I always thought I would be the breadwinner, but my lazy boyfriend in college, turned into a great employee, and wonderful provider for my family.
It makes me happy to see others in my same situation who sah. Yay!
Do people really just plan to be a SAHM? What if you are in a situation where you can't afford it? Or your husband doesn't want you to?
That just seems like a strange thing to plan on for me, at least until you are discussing having kids (which wasn't college age for me)
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
I always planned on getting my degree. My plan was to go to law school, graduate, work for 2-3 years (pay off my loans) and then once I had kids, decide whether I wanted to stay home or not, thus, giving me a choice since my loans would not have to be paid out of my husband's pay (which is enough for me to stay home and maintain our standard of living).
Then I would go back to work, at least on a part time basis or volunteer depending on our financial situation once our kids were either in preschool/K or if I found someone to watch the kids.
Now, since I got pregnant unexpectedly with Jackson, our plan is for me to work before we have #2 (once we move) and I will pay on my loans each month, and put an equal amount into a special savings account (probably an ING account) so that when we do have #2, I can stay home for at least a year or two, with loan payments saved up in that accoun if I so choose.
I always knew I wanted my law degree regardless of kids though.
well i new some day I would want to be a SAHM but just out of high school I didn't know that I positively would or could in the future. I think my degree (in Engineering) is quite valuable to me. I worked in the field for 4+ years, and as my uncle pointed out the basics of engineering never change. Plus I have my engineering license which I won't loose (unless I don't pay my dues) So I guess my point is it was not gotten and is now useless. It was used in the past and will be used again in the future.
Jessica-- I think SOME people only plan on staying home to raise kids, some still have it in their head that a womens place is in the home. So they find the right guy and do that...
*thats not MY situation, nor do I know anyone in that situation either.
I feel like that's just such a foreign idea to me. What if your husband leaves? What if he's disabled on his job? What if he dies? I, for one, want something to fall back on. JMO.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
Jess- it is a scary idea, but I think quite a few people do that... I'm too much of a "what-if"er and a planner.
Hahaha, jessica! I got into a huge debate a few years ago w/ a girl on my local about this.
She was like, "I'll never get divorced, blah blah balh. You are not family oriented." So hilarious.
I was like, even assuming you never get divorced, what if something happens to your husband? I mean, death, disability, whatever, I knew I could get back to work pretty easily if I ever did choose to stay home.
I always made my plans based on giving me (and my husband) a choice whenever I had kids, not saying I would SAH for sure or work for sure. I kept it in mind so that I wouldn't be forced into one or the other since I had no idea. Plus I knew I wanted a degree to fall back on just in case if I did choose to stay home.
I'm kind of a lurker here, but I got my degree and never planned to SAH, as I never planned on having kids.
My eggs had other plans, obviously
I always knew I'd be a SAHM, but college wasn't optional, either.
Good thing, since I was 38 when I had ds.... it would have been a long 20 years jobwise had I not gone to college.
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
You don't have my "plan". I always wanted to be a SAHM & got a degree (I have a Master's). My kids will grow up & I wanted a profession for before & after I have small children.