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September 2011 Moms
Can I just have a show of hands...
For anyone who has wanted to punch DH, SO, FI, etc in the face more than once in this pregnancy!! This morning my DH should spend his time thanking the dear lord in the sky for saving his beautiful face from one of my limbs! (I'm half kidding, we are not violent lol)
He was sooo annoying and made me so angry! OK maybe the fact that I had about 2 hours sleep didnt help but.......he slept all night peacefully in the spare room and still complained that the cat woke him up once...ONCE....and then told me that I was "crabby" this morning!
Arghhhhhhhhhh!!
Maybe this is really a MOnday Moan...but anyone else not feeling so 'lovey dovey' today? lol
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Re: Can I just have a show of hands...
:: raises hand ::
My DH keeps complaining that we have the air condidtioning on too much. Seriously? I am 8 months pregnant, it is JULY and you want to take the air conditioning away from me. I don't think so, buddy! GRRRRRRR (Not to mention the fact that we have only had it on for a few days this summer because I know how he feels about it.....but enough is enough!)
I'm feeling good towards DH today, but there have been many times in this pregnancy that he is lucky I didn't throw him out of the car in the middle of traffic. My favorite is when he has had a couple beers and starts bragging to everyone what a wonderful husband he is for dealing with how hard this pregnancy is. Like he should get an award. Then he will turn to me and say "don't you think I've done a really good job?". And I shoot him laser eyes like uhh did you really just say that?
TTC since 10/07
11 medicated cycles
including...
4 IUIs*5 IVFs*1 FET
2 chemical pregnancies*missed m/c @8w 9/09*missed (twin) m/c @8w 5/10
Laparoscopic myomectomy 8/10
Chromosomal translocation of #2 now requires ICSI and PGD
IVF #4= success!!! G-man born 8/18/11
IVF #5 2/2013 = N born 10/10/13 at 35w3d
I don't know if any of your DH's are like this but please tell me mine isn't the only nincompoop.
It's like he forgets that I'm pregnant. I will get irritated by something and he will get SO upset that I am upset and say "Why are you being so snippy?!!!" or "You have been so irritable, especially over things that normally wouldn't bother you!". I literally have to spell out for him "I AM PREGNANT WHICH MEANS I CAN BE IRRITABLE SO JUST LEAVE ME ALONE AND STOP ANALYZING ME!".
I just don't understand how he can forget. We will have a discussion one day where I will have to break it down for him that this isn't forever and sometimes I am just going to be grouchy or down for no reason. He will be all understanding and sweet and then the next day it is like the conversation never happened and he will be perplexed all over again. Which then makes me more annoyed. Or he will ask me over and over again "what's wrong?" if I am not grinning from ear to ear. So even if I am in a good mood but just keeping to myself, that puts me in a bad mood. I tell him he is putting way too much pressure on me to be super smiley and happy all the time. And he will be understanding for a couple days but then forgets AGAIN. Sometimes I feel like I am in a hamster wheel.
ok. Sorry for the tangent.
:::Both hands waving in the air:::
DH is okay right now, but pretty much the whole 1st tri and starting again I just am not sure if he can do anything right. I know it's hormones...but it doesn't make me like him any more. Basically, I feel like he is super lazy and I have 1,000,001 projects I want done before this LO gets here and I just wish he would get on them already!
::sigh::
My DH has been home less than 24 hours and I have already thown my computer mouse at him. He has been working overseas and has only been around me 2 weeks out of this pregnancy. This morning I was not feeling good at all, feeling dizzy and lightheaded..I feel this way every morning until i drink a good bit of water I just never tell him about it because I don't like complaining. So anyways, he asked me what was wrong earlier and I told him and said I don't really know what it is. He said 'well whats wrong with you is you're pregnant'...This just hit me the wrong way and made me a little mad, so I told him and asked him not to say stuff like that..Then he procedes to laugh and say 'well that Is whats wrong with you, you're pregnant'..So this is where a mouse flew across the room before I knew that I even threw it lol. Poor DH didn't know what he was coming home to. I appologized for throwing it, because it's not like me to ever throw things at anyone...Thanks for letting me get that out!!
And Jillian - mine always forgets Im pregnant it seems. Or he doesnt yet realize the extent to which it can affect me emotionally, physically, etc. On occasion he will treat me like I'm complaining about my lack of sleep, physical pains etc...or compare what I'm feeling to himself. Like if I've been up all night he'll say he was too, or if I'm hurting, he'll find a place to be hurting on his body lol Somehow it invalidates my feelings in my opinion! Ohhh my fav was on Saturday when he told me that I should feel LUCKY because one girl we talked to had swollen feet and was being induced 2 weeks early due to high blood pressure. He was like "whao...you should feel lucky...you dont have that going on"...which in the meantime, I puked my guts out multiple times a day for 4 months, have aches all night in my legs that cause me to sleep approx 2-3 hours a night - work a full time job 7:30-4 every day, oh yeah...I've been bleeding from me a**hole for approx the past 2 weeks...my feet, though not swollen are killing me...I havent been able to make it through a movie in the theatre in weeks due to back pain....need I go on...lol but I'm LUCKY cause my feet havent swollen yet and I dont have high blood pressure at this point! D-bag! haha
I suppose I should also give him some props for other things. He does massage my sciatic nerve and legs every night before bed and any time I wake up at night and want them done, doesnt say anything when I'm being lazy and resting, does help with cooking and cleaning, etc...but still!!!! All I see right now is red...not all those good things haha!
oooooh this gets me like nothing else. He compares his ailments or lack of sleep/being tired to mine constantly as well. It totally invalidates what is going on with us. And it's not like I expect it to be all about me (which I know you aren't doing either), I give him plenty of sympathy and will even go sleep in the other room if I know I am tossing and turning a lot so I won't keep him up. They just have NO idea and never will.
And I have to say he has been amazing in so many ways, and has come a LONG way since the frustrations and problems we encountered at the beginning of this pregnancy. So I can't totally bash on him.
If he complains about having a long day one more time I may just throw something at him.
My other favorite is when he asks me what I really did all day...my answer usually is that I made his child all day long in addition to the other things. I know I'm a snot, but really he has NO sympathy for me which can be good and bad.
Okay, girlfriend you are preaching to the choir. I'm with you 100% on ALL of this. I'm so glad I don't have the only nincompoop
Case in point: We were at my parents' house this weekend, and my mom always fawns over my DH. She gets him the newspaper, makes him snacks, etc. So she brought him lunch and a drink and I told her to knock it off because she's making me look bad. DH, with a sappy face, half-jokingly says "she hasn't cooked for me in a long time." I thought my eyes were going to pop out of my head. I said, "I'm cooking you a baby as we speak, now STHU before that food ends up in your lap"
And amen to all of the aches and pains...I don't care about his aches and pains, and how he's "tired"...I don't know why he keeps trying to tell me about it.
glad we're all in good company.
asked DH to give me a foot massage the other night (he's seen how swollen my feet can be at the end of the day) and he said "i'll give you one if you give me one." awesome.
The other night I told him, "I don't know why, but I just want to punch you in the face". I rolled over, got a good back rub and the feeling went away fairly soon.
But that was just the first time "I didn't know why". There were plenty of times that I knew why.
Wedding Anniversary: August 7th 2010 BFP: December 22nd 2010 Beautiful Little Birthday: August 30th 2011
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:: Raises Hand::
Sounds like my H "oh my back hurt" Oh im tired" "oh im hot" and when i say something to him like "try being me" he shrugs it off. He seems to think pregnancy is easy!
When I was pregnant with my boys, I could kill him everyday and have no sympathy what so ever. Since I've been pregnant this time around he's been A LOT better, up until this weekend. I have had some severe pelvic pain not to mention I'm on bedrest and I am not supposed to do half the crap I did this weekend (while sitting on a damn stool and taking a million breaks). We through my 5 yr old his bday bbq and had to clean house where husband said he'd do this, this and this and when it came down to it, I had to throw a *** fit to get anything done. I baked the cake and cupcakes, made chili beans and rice, cleaned the whole house and did ALL of our laundry, I had to remind all day to vacuum and clean out the driveway and refill the boys pool, etc. When I was caught mopping by my SIL (who is also pregnant and due 1 1/2 months after me) ratted me out he said to take a picture!!!
I have the same issue with my DH. But I also have to remember that some of his nincompoopness is from his TBI. But it is VERY irritating! I can't wait till all these hormones are done and over with and I can go back to being a normal unstable female.