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I dread bedtime w/Nicholas

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I wish he could tell me what the problem is.  Every night after I put him in his crib and leave he is quiet for a few minutes (or sometimes talks to himself), but then he gets really upset.  So we started leaving his door open, thinking that was the problem (maybe he doesn't like being closed in anymore).  But no.  For the past few nights he hasn't gone to bed until after 9 (we put him in the crib around 8ish, but by the time he falls asleep after getting upset it's 9 or 9:30). He's been waking up in the wee hours too and takes an hour to get him to go back to sleep.   I've tried bringing into our bed when he wakes at 4am (just in time for Ava's feeding), but he just lays there and looks around.  So this morning, I put him back in his crib and layed on the floor next to him til he fell asleep (I know this isn't ideal, but he needed to go back to sleep since he was clearly tired and I wanted to sleep before Ava woke up again. So it was either listen to him scream/cry for however long or just lay on his floor and sleep for an hour or 2 before my 3 month old woke up to eat).  He finally fell asleep around 6ish and I went back to my bed for another hour. 

I wish I knew why bedtime is such a problem for him.  His naps are hit or miss.  I always put him down around 1:30 and he talks to himself and falls asleep by 2 or 2:30.  I'm not ready to give up on naps yet, nor do I think his naps need to be shortened.  Could it be seperation anxiety?  Not sure if it's teething, I've given him Motrin before bed, but he still gets upset at bedtime.  Maybe he's having a bad dream, when he wakes up at 4am?  I just wish he could tell me, then I'd know how to help.   And as much as I'm against him sleeping in our bed, I wish he'd go to sleep on the mornings I bring him in (not every morning, but just on the mornings we get desperate). 

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Re: I dread bedtime w/Nicholas

  • dundasgirldundasgirl

    I just wanted to say I feel your pain! 

    Reed is going through something similar...he just won't settle!  He goes to bed sometime between 7:30 and 8 and last night was awake until nine.  He isn't crying necessarily, but keeps getting out of his bed.  We put him back to bed.  Tuck him in.  Tell him it is bedtime.  Close his door.  Repeat.

    Usually he just says he wants to come back downstairs.

    He is in a big boy bed.

    In the past when we had sleep disruptions with Reed, we started offering him all kinds of options before bed during the bedtime routine.  What jammies to wear, what books to read, which toys to bring into bed, where to put the books when we are done reading them, and so on.  That helped to curb the tantrums...but now it is just like he can't shut down and actually sleep.

    I hope this is a phase.  He was up at 4:30 this morning too.  I asked him why he was out of bed and he said "I don't know".  Hopefully he isn't sleepwalking because that freaks me out big time.

     

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