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July 2011 Moms
Jay_Cee
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My first one is probably not flameful on this board:
1. I hate when women who are not even term yet are trying old wive's tales to get labor started. I get it, pregnancy is hard, especially when you combine it with lots of contractions, pain/discomfort, PUPPS, or other issues many women experience. But it's best for baby to stay in as long as possible. This is just the start of many sacrifices I'm sure we'll make over the years. A few weeks won't kill you. (And this is coming from someone who would have been happy for this baby to come out right at 37 weeks.)
This one might be a bit flameful...
2. My friend who was having issues a few weeks ago did end up having her baby girl, Laila, at 36w2d due to IUGR. She was born at 3lb12oz and was in the NICU for 5 days. Laila is thriving now and has been home for 4 days -- she is beautiful! She's a tiny thing, but above her birth weight now. I'm super glad that everything turned out okay for them both. That said, I'm super jealous that my friend had her baby before me, especially since I was due 2 weeks before her. I'm fully aware she may be jealous of the fact that I'm still pregnant and haven't had any complications to speak of, but I can't help but feel the way I do.
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Re: FFFC
1. My mom is driving me batty - she calls and texts incessantly "how are you feeling today" and "any news yet?" She even tried to invite herself to my OB appointment today?!?
2. People keep making comments like "STILL no baby?" and "Why are you still coming in to work?" it makes me irrationally angry and it makes me feel like I've already failed at going into labor naturally and I'll be inducing 41 weeks (again completely irrational but I'm just pissy lately!)
3. I'll be getting my 3rd membrane sweep since 38 weeks today - I've been walking 2.5+ miles almost every day....and nothing is really happening...and I'm completely insanely jealous of everyone who has already had their baby or has gone into labor in the last 2 weeks
Basically I'm just oversensitive, jealous and whiny!
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Not sure if this is really flame worthy but.....
1. I want to make it until next weekend and go into labor before being induced but I don't want to go any earlier than next Saturday so that I don't have to come back to work until after Labor day in September.
2. I am trying my hardest to have DH agree with me on not having MIL watch either of the girls when I go back to work. I have an in home daycare but MIL wanted to each each girl on a different day. She doesn't want to watch them at the same time. Problem is she doesn't follow my schedule at all and DD#1 when she is there now doesn't take naps and MIL just says well I have never been good at putting kids to sleep. Are you serious so I have to deal with DD#1 being all whiny in the evenings because you can't figure out how to get her to nap after I already told you how she likes to sleep several times and you don't do it.
3. I love my mom to death but my step-dad gets on my last very nerve. I am about to blow up on him. He is just so annoying and I hate it that DD#1 calls him "pop-pop" and doesn't call my mom anything yet. It just breaks my heart that she said his name first when I wanted her to wait because I was going to teach her to call him by his name and not a grandpa type name. He is not like a father to me so I don't care.
If one more person tells me to just push the baby out Im gonna smack them in the face hard. If one more person tells me I better have the baby soon or its going to be big im going to kick them in the groin and if one more person touches my stomach or gawks at me I am going to throat punch them..
Today is my last day of work and I am so happy I decided not to work until the baby comes. I hate my 1hr and 15-20min commute, I might kill most of my co-workers..
I was thinking about you the other day and wondering if people had started saying this to you. I think I might say, "I know the day I ovulated. Would you like to see my ovulation chart?" <insert awkward silence here> People are idiots and piss me off.
My MIL told me that I only look 6 months pregnant and therefore, I must not be eating properly. I wanted to punch her in the face. I'm already worried about the size of the baby... the last thing I need is someone insinuating that my eating habits are causing him to have growth restriction or be SGA.
My super lame confession: I'm hoping I go into labor today so I can miss a family party tomorrow afternoon. It's with DH's family & there's a lot of family drama right now and I just don't want to deal with it. Plus, sitting in 90 degree heat outdoors all day, hearing people ask me, "So are you ready to have this baby yet?" is not my idea of fun.
Aren't you worried that she would extend her trip? She is not just coming spur of the moment for nothing! I'm sorry to worry you, but that is what crossed my mind...
I have a really lame confession. I'm 39 1/2 weeks pregnant, and I feel fine. I'm not miserable, the heat isn't killing me, I'm not swollen, I hardly waddle, I only get up once a night to pee (which happened alot when I wasn't pregnant too). I do have some minor discomforts (carpel tunnel, and pain under my ribs, occasional lightning crotch, itchiness all over for no reason) but they are all things I have been dealing with for months now, and really don't bother me. I'm kind of tired of everyone saying how miserable I must be and how I must just want this baby out. I think THEY want the baby out, because they keep calling me every day and asking how I feel. Unless there is a drastic change, the answer is always going to be "I feel great". I guess I can see how some ladies are uncomfortable towards the end, but I just don't get it.
Because of this, I am now screening my phone calls. I only want to talk to my DH and my sister. I had my 39 week appt yesterday and 50 people called (how did they know I had an appt???) to ask what the Dr. said. What are they expecting to hear, delivery date, time, gender, name, etc? The doctor only ever says that everything looks good, and to come back next week. If there were a medical emergency, I would not be having a casual phone conversation. If the doctor scheduled an induction or c-section, we would let everyone know.
I am so unbelievably jealous of you. I wake up EVERY HOUR to pee. I can't breathe, I can barely walk because of the pelvic pain, I still have horrible heartburn (even though he's dropped very low)... I'm so uncomfortable, miserable, & exhausted that I can't even pretend to be in a good mood anymore.
I'm so tired of talking about this pregnancy to people IRL - both strangers and friends. Actually, it isn't so much that I don't want to talk about the pregnancy, but that I want to talk about anything else.
A month after I announced my pregnancy, I got to see an old friend of mine that I don't usually get to spend time with. One of the first things I said was I'll buy lunch if we don't have to talk about the fetus. She totally took me up on the deal and we had an great time.
I'm really excited to meet the baby and shape the person that they are going to grow to be, but right now they aren't that interesting and I would like a good debate about politics or pesticides or the use of genetically modified seeds or the best new indie band instead of a regurgitation of my due date, LO's gender, birth plans, nursery plans, and what hospital I'm giving birth at.
She would extend her trip for sure if the LO decided to make an early appearance. Otherwise, she is most definitely going back home. She has to work and she is saving her vacation time for when the baby does actually come so she can come spend a week with us.
First of all, I want to say that I'm sorry that your baby is still in the NICU, and I'm very sorry that I offended you. I really hope that she is doing well and can go home with you very soon.
I didn't say that I am jealous of the fact that my friend had her baby early or that Laila was in the NICU. In fact, it was one of the scariest things ever and I wish she could have kept Laila inside much longer. However, I am jealous that I'm still waiting for my baby to arrive. I wouldn't wish anyone to have an early baby. I'm so very glad that Laila is doing well, and it wasn't until she was home and healthy that I started to feel jealous. Either way, it's how I feel and you have every right to not like that.
Everyday I get the "No baby yet?" "When are you due?" "Are you sure it's not twins?"
I'm over it.
No, the nursery is not done...or even started.
No, I'm not putting 'baby bump pics' on FB for all my friends to comment on and try to guess what gender the baby is, or if I'm eating enough, OMG you're so Small! OMG! You're huge!
When random strangers as me "Do you know what you're having?" I say "A puppy" just to see the look on their face.
And YES, I DID ride one of my horses yesterday at 8mo. pregnant. It felt wonderful, thank you. I haven't ridden her since I was 17 weeks along.
1) My MIL is making me CRAZY! Before being pregnant she made me nuts with her comments about me, my mom, my sister, etc. She comes up with these ideas in her head what we are like the sad things is they aren't bad things or offensive in any way, but for some reason it really drives me crazy. For example she came up with this idea that since I am already 1cm and 60% effaced which means absolutely nothing that my mom won't let me do anything or move and will make me sit around all weekend. Actually she will probably make me get off my fat a$$ and do chores. I know it sounds rediculous and silly, but it is always stuff like this. Also she asks me the same things over and over again especially if I say I do or don't like something. I could say I really like the color pink and for 20 minutes she will ask really, you really like pink, are you sure you do, you really like pink, I thought you liked x,y,z. And if I am talking to her on the phone and my husband (an only child) says something to me she always wants to know what he said and will ask over and over and over again what he said even if I tell her it was nothing, he was talking to me, asking me a question (this happened the othern night and it was something kind of embarrasing) and she wouldn't let it go then sounded hurt I wouldn't tell her. I have to prepare myself everytime I see her name on caller id. Like today when she kept harping about DH never showing his emotions about the pregnancy and how it must hurt my feelings. No because he tells me exactly how he feels, but he doesn't want to say anything to you because you will drive him nuts talking about it if he says he is nervous, excited, etc. No matter what you say she will have to harp on it and keep asking you about it.
So that might not be flameful at all, but dang it feels good to write out. Oh and and FIL will make my blood pressure go up because she will be harping on shi& and then she will be yelling at FIL because he will be nervous and when he gets nervous he acts silly and cracks jokes which I love becasue he always makes me feel better by laughing but she freaks out on him!!
2) I am so sick of pregnant sex! I want to have regular sedx with my husband again. I am so sick of having to be gentle, doing it in the same position, or trying to move around with the belly. It sounds so selfish, but I am so ready for LO to get here so we can get past he 6 weeks and get back to some good ole fun times!
1. I feel like I shouldn't have rolled my eyes as much when people told me that I would be uncomfortable in the heat once I got close to my July due date. I'm not completely miserable, but I have two other young kids to care for and I'm pretty tired most of the time. I guess I should be thankful that I haven't had any serious pregnancy-related complications or issues.
2. I'm just about 37 weeks and starting to swell a bit. My legs are normally my favorite part of my body (they are thin and very toned from years of running) and now they just look fat and ugly by the end of the day. Gross.
3. I was barely dilated (1cm) and not effaced at all at 36w, 2d. I was already at least 2-3cm with #1 and #2 by that point. Oh well. Not really hoping for an early arrival, but some progress would be nice!!!
4. I saw a post about blackout curtains a few days ago and it made me wonder why people make their lives difficult on purpose. Creating an artificial sleep environment void of light and noise is just silly. Kids adapt to their natural environment and don't need silence and complete darkness to sleep.
My FFFC, directed to my DH: CAN WE FINISH THE NURSERY ALREADY?!?! GDit, the kid could be here any G-D day and you're dragging your stupid feet every step of the stupid way, and then you wonder why I'm so STUPID CRANKY!!!!! I just need the stupid nursery to be done!!! Finish it this weekend or you're sleeping in there are on the cold, bare floor until its done. Dammit.
Sorry.
So much this!! I even posted on Facebook and my blog about how sick I was of hearing how miserable I must be and maybe people just thought I looked horrible so that's why they were saying it. Compared to how awful I felt at this point with DD I feel amazing. Yes, I'm starting to swell. Yes, I get up to pee at night. However, just because YOU are ready for me to have the baby doesn't mean I am.
I hate the 'are you excited' or 'is your husband excited' comments. Its like what to expect people? Do they expect me to say no or something? I understand they are probably just trying to be nice and have a conversation, but seriously stupidest question ever.
Also, its been discussed many times, but I'm not looking forward to visitors at all! They are going to be more of an annoyance to me than anything I think. My plan if someone is extending their welcome is take the baby, go into the bedroom, close the door and stay there till they leave. Makes me sound like a b*tch, but I'd love that time alone with just LO, me, and DH.
I think I may have to steal your plan. That sounds like a fantastic idea. I know my ILs are going to come and take over my house for several days. I'm going to go in my room and hide, and make DH tell them to be quiet b/c we're napping.
I'm tired of going to work(I'm a barista at starbucks) and having everyone ask me in a concerned voice "how are you doing?" or the regulars I'm more familiar with who say "Omg you're still here!?"
I'm so hoping this baby comes this weekend so I don't have to finish off my last 3 days of work next week but I know he won't and I'll have to face the public once more on Monday.
There should be a shirt that says, "Yes, I'm ok/still pregnant/still working/excited/miserable/ready for this to be over. Don't ask or you'll be stared at with a blank face as I try to decide which way I would like to kill you today."
Everyday that I walked into the NICU, I watched someone coming out who had just given birth and was carrying out their nice healthy term infant in their arms as their husband got the carseat situated. It brought tears to my eyes every.single.day. I started walking in with sunglasses on so that the people in the lobby couldn't see my tears.
Honestly, I figured the only people who would be jealous of my situation were the people who were exiting the hospital leaving their dead baby behind. At least my baby was alive. I never figured someone would be jealous of my situation who still had a nice healthy baby still in their belly. Odd.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12