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October 2011 Moms
maryNamory
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Who is a good mother
maryNamory
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This is due to the UO earlier and something I have to get out.
To me the following women are good mothers
-The woman who struggles every month and checks her temps and counts her days and blessings and tries to stay positive through every month of pain. They know what it feels to long for their child and ache. They will love their children because they knew how hard they worked to give this baby life. THAT IS A GOOD MOTHER. Even before the baby is conceived she is a good mother.
-The woman who after attempt after attempt must give up hope because there is nothing left. WHose only option is to love another woman's child. whether it be as an auntie or an adoptive mother.. She gives her love to the mother and the baby who is not if her body.. but loves them anyway! THAT IS A GOOD MOTHER
-The woman who has carried and lost and said goodbye to a baby who was too pure and perfect for this world, her tears will fall forever for her little one and as she watches other mothers with theirs she will wonder what if. She will remind others to be grateful for the children in their arms and she will long for the day when she too has her outside baby. THIS IS A GOOD MOTHER
-The woman who thankfully will never know the pain of miscarriage or IF but see the blessings in her baby's eyes and holds them close and loves them deeply. THIS IS A GOOD MOTHER.
In other words, any woman who loves children deeply whether they are their own or another's, sees them through and helps them to grow into who they are meant to be. To my sister bumpies you are all good mothers. We may not agree on parenting techniques or nuances but we can agree we all love our babies.
Successful after 2 years tttc. Diagnosed with PCOS and Endometriosis.
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Re: Who is a good mother
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Burned by the Bear
I'm
over here....beautifully put. While I may have conceived my son with DH on our wedding night (first try), and got pregnant with these twins, I know the pain and love you mention here.
Because all I ever wanted in life was to be a mom. My ex and I tried for a year with no luck, then he did a 180 and said he never wanted children in the first place, was only doing it to please his mom. I stayed with him for 11 years, trying to adjust to never being a mother, until I couldn't bear it any more. I was worried that I waited too long, it was too late, that I wouldn't be able to have children.
With July 8th right around the corner, I also know the pain of what losing a pregnancy is like, because I should be about ready to give birth. But that wasn't God's plan for that precious LO, and he/she is in heaven now. Yes, again I say we were lucky enough to get pregnant with these twins and I wouldn't trade them for the world, but I do still grieve for that baby that we lost in December.
Expecting a bootiful baby Girl this Halloween
I witnessed my mom's miscarriages and attempts to have another baby. I watched her go through the loss of my still born brother that she still grieves. For her Emily's birth month is closure due to that being the month my brother was born an angel.
My husband walked in your shoes with his ex wife. For several years she would say next year, next year. After 15 years of marriage she told him "no." It hurt so badly when I went through IF that here was a man whose first wife WOULDN'T give him children, given a wife who COULDN'T give him children. What was so special though was he told me the difference was that while I couldn't I wanted to, and that was enough for him. I Love him so much for his love, and acceptance. When we found out I was pregnant I cried so hard and was so grateful because I was able to give this man what he had longed for and was built for. He will the best Daddy in the world because he too knows the pain of not having the children he longs for.
Well said,
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