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dianamcu · June 2011

Katywren:
dianamcu:
I love them those pizzas!

yay me too! I allow myself to have one of these maybe 2 or 3 times a year because they are yummy, but have you looked at the nutritional panel. terrifying.

Holy crap...bad grammar on my part.

But yes, I have looked at the "nutritional" panel...yikes!

Pina · June 2011

Katywren:
Pina:

I think nesting is a load of crap. We are adults and our homes should be neat, clean and organized.

Oh Pina, if only we could all be as perfect as you.... sorry for the sarcasm. Being neat and organized just doesn't come naturally to everyone. Some of us need a little motivation, like house guests, babies, etc...

I hate walking into someone's house that is so neat, clean and organized that it doesn't look like anyone lives there but the cleaning lady. I need a little chaos and imperfection to relax.

Not for nothing, sarcastic or not, I am not perfect nor do I pretend to be. That's slightly offensive..... I just think that people should have clean homes. I think organized chaos is fine and I do not live in a museum. However I am disgusted when I walk into someone's house and it is dirty. I don't mean messy, there is a difference. I just think all this talk of nesting is kind of absurd.

Modubb739 · June 2011

womancake:

Here's my interesting take on the whole gay marriage thing, as someone who grew up as a conservative Christian, smack dab in the middle of the country.

I think you can oppose it morally without challenging it legally, and still remain true to your personal faith convictions. I'm not necessarily saying people are right to oppose it morally. My point is just that there is no mandate in the Bible to make all sins (or even certain ones) illegal. I've looked--it's just not there. So assuming, for the sake of argument, that the Bible is true and homosexuality is a sin, that still doesn't give Christians a reason to fight against it. If they were being consistent, they would be fighting to make all kinds of thing illegal--namely divorce. (Again, not saying that should happen--just pointing out the inconsistency). It doesn't matter if you believe it's right or wrong--there's no Christian mandate to keep it illegal, and there is no good reason to deny rights to other people, especially when it doesn't affect you or your personal freedom to exercise your religion.

The New Testament does actually say that Christians have no business judging those outside the church, and it tells us to submit to the government authorities, because God is the one who allowed them to be in that position. Jesus also had quite a bit to say about our treatment of the poor, the orphaned, and the widowed, but those parts aren't as fun, so they tend to get glossed over.

My goodness you are my HERO and I couldn't have said it better. I have people that I love that are gay and I very much want to experience what I have with my husband. I do believe that marriage in the bible says that it between a man & a woman... that being said. I am not God or Jesus so why would I ever OPPOSE seeing my friends & family happy like I am ... Seems pointless in my view...

CMheart1011 · June 2011

womancake:

Here's my interesting take on the whole gay marriage thing, as someone who grew up as a conservative Christian, smack dab in the middle of the country.

I think you can oppose it morally without challenging it legally, and still remain true to your personal faith convictions. I'm not necessarily saying people are right to oppose it morally. My point is just that there is no mandate in the Bible to make all sins (or even certain ones) illegal. I've looked--it's just not there. So assuming, for the sake of argument, that the Bible is true and homosexuality is a sin, that still doesn't give Christians a reason to fight against it. If they were being consistent, they would be fighting to make all kinds of thing illegal--namely divorce. (Again, not saying that should happen--just pointing out the inconsistency). It doesn't matter if you believe it's right or wrong--there's no Christian mandate to keep it illegal, and there is no good reason to deny rights to other people, especially when it doesn't affect you or your personal freedom to exercise your religion.

The New Testament does actually say that Christians have no business judging those outside the church, and it tells us to submit to the government authorities, because God is the one who allowed them to be in that position. Jesus also had quite a bit to say about our treatment of the poor, the orphaned, and the widowed, but those parts aren't as fun, so they tend to get glossed over.

Jumping in a little late, but ITA with this! I'm a fairly conservative Christian in the midwest, but you will never find me out protesting gay marriage. I may not totally agree with it, but that's not the point. The Bible does say that homosexuality is a sin; however, it also says that sex outside of marriage is a sin. How many people can say they aren't guilty of that? I'm guilty of plenty of things the Bible calls sins, so who am I to judge someone who is gay?

JaninneAlvarado · June 2011

womancake:
JaninneAlvarado:

I just hate hearing/reading overweight debates because it always comes back to being some b/s about skinny people. I'm a natural born TWIG. I eat healthy, I exercise, I indulge, I do just about the same crap as the rest and CAN'T gain weight. I've tried for years. I gain weight during pregnancy and within hours after delivery I am back to being me (only with wide hips and big boobs). Really, everyone is different. Deal with your OWN issues. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. If they are complaining about something that is clearly a HEALTH issue that they are neglecting, that's when I give the side eye. Until then, I don't look at your scale weight, what size you wear, what your BMI is because to me its all crap! It means nothing! We are people, of all shapes, sizes, and we all have feelings! And because there was mention of size 2, I was literally in a size 2 dress a month after having DS#2 for a wedding. Never did anything to lose weight. It's just how my body worked.

My UO has to do with posting in general. I feel bad for those people who want to post something that has been posted 50,000,000 times. The fact is that everyone wants to be able to show off what THEY have, what THEY want, what THEY got, how their showers went, etc. Everyone who participates should be able to do that. It shouldn't just be the first few who get all the glory! With that being said, I will be showing off my babyshower and stuff along those lines weeks LATER then most of you will be. My shower isn't until August 27th!

I hope I didn't say anything to offend you in the weight debate! I know that just like there are some people who are naturally bigger and have a hard time losing weight, there are also people who are naturally very thin and can't put weight on. Neither is an indicator of overall health--it's just how your body works, like you said. It just goes to show that people will always find a way to discriminate against others. I'm sorry you've been the brunt of skinny discrimination/judgment.

I also agree with your second paragraph. Personally, I don't want to read about every single person's GTT results or baby shower. But that's okay--I can just choose not to open those posts. Everyone has the right to post what they want.

You didn't write anything personally offensive. I've just dealt with this my whole life as I've been on the flip side of things. Oh your too skinny, you must be bolemic/anorexic. I mean seriously, in HS I used to get prank calls to my house saying things about my weight. I wasn't the hottest girl in school, I was just skinny. I worked out, played soccer, did track, ate decent, partied, the whole bit. I got tired of being so small and purposely tried gaining weight for years. It wasn't anything on this board, it was just my opinion on the other opinions. I had to add the skinny girl side of it.

lily87 · June 2011

LaComtesse:
lily87:
I'll add a new one...as a tangent from La Comtesse's post...
I find it ludicrous when people argue about the "sanctity of marriage" as a justification against gay marriage....when they themselves are divorced. And, some prominent conservative statespeople make this argument publicly, despite the fact that they have been divorced numerous times and were known for having extramarital affairs ( I don't care if they married them later- it still doesn't make it right).
What about the sanctity of their marriages? And, what do they think they are doing to the "sanctity of marriage"?
This is by no means an attack on divorced people or people who don't feel that marriage is sacred. But more those who use that as a reason to deny others civil rights, when they don't even respect the reason in their own personal lives. I just find this entirely hypocritical and am glad I don't live in a state that condones this.
It is positively annoying... but doesn't it make the sweet sweet schadenfreude of their public humiliation as their (sometimes homosexual) extra-marital affairs are revealed all the sweeter?

Yes very true. They keep my main men, Stewart and Colbert in business. And, I commend you on your use of schadenfreude I love that word. lol

laurynfaerie · June 2011

I actually have an unpopular opinion of my own today!

I am really bad with money. Like I couldn't afford to live on my own even if I had a job, because I am completely incapable of saving/budgeting. I try, but I always seem to screw it up.

So once I start working again, I fully intend to hand my paycheck over to FI, and let him decide how much we can afford for me to play with. The plan is I will give him the money, and then he will put the amount needed to pay the bills that we do online in my account.

I never thought I would do something like that, because it bugs the crap out of me that my grandmother does. But I feel like it's the best option to make sure we don't end up living in a cardboard box somewhere.

lily87 · June 2011

womancake:
Here's my interesting take on the whole gay marriage thing, as someone who grew up as a conservative Christian, smack dab in the middle of the country.
I think you can oppose it morally without challenging it legally, and still remain true to your personal faith convictions. I'm not necessarily saying people are right to oppose it morally. My point is just that there is no mandate in the Bible to make all sins (or even certain ones) illegal. I've looked--it's just not there. So assuming, for the sake of argument, that the Bible is true and homosexuality is a sin, that still doesn't give Christians a reason to fight against it. If they were being consistent, they would be fighting to make all kinds of thing illegal--namely divorce. (Again, not saying that should happen--just pointing out the inconsistency). It doesn't matter if you believe it's right or wrong--there's no Christian mandate to keep it illegal, and there is no good reason to deny rights to other people, especially when it doesn't affect you or your personal freedom to exercise your religion.
The New Testament does actually say that Christians have no business judging those outside the church, and it tells us to submit to the government authorities, because God is the one who allowed them to be in that position. Jesus also had quite a bit to say about our treatment of the poor, the orphaned, and the widowed, but those parts aren't as fun, so they tend to get glossed over.

Well said. And, that is precisely why I am for the government no longer sanctioning marriage. Why are they in the business of doing this anyway? Let the churches sanction marriage the way they want, and let anyone getting married outside the church (gay or straight) be a civil union. Problem solved.

womancake · June 2011

laurynfaerie:
I actually have an unpopular opinion of my own today!

I am really bad with money. Like I couldn't afford to live on my own even if I had a job, because I am completely incapable of saving/budgeting. I try, but I always seem to screw it up.

So once I start working again, I fully intend to hand my paycheck over to FI, and let him decide how much we can afford for me to play with. The plan is I will give him the money, and then he will put the amount needed to pay the bills that we do online in my account.

I never thought I would do something like that, because it bugs the crap out of me that my grandmother does. But I feel like it's the best option to make sure we don't end up living in a cardboard box somewhere.

I don't see anything wrong with that! You're not degrading yourself as a woman--you're just recognizing your own weaknesses and doing what's best for you and FI. It takes a lot of pride-swallowing to be able to admit that you can't do it on your own, and I think you're being very wise.

And there is hope--I was at one point on the verge of bankruptcy because of all the mistakes I had made with money, but over time I got much better with it. Bad habits can take a really long time to unlearn--don't be too hard on yourself!

armybride86 · June 2011

Leahanna21:
My UO: I think grown men who play COD and other games like that are annoying ! I say this because my own SO does and it irritates me to no end. It's like really how old are you?

Sad thing is - we actually have fights about me getting mad when he wants to play his game. I mean I understand he need some 'him' time but to play a video game? come on.

I don't mind this at all. Infact, me and DH play COD and other video games together sometimes! It's a change of pace other than watching a movie, t.v., or playing board games together. I also enjoy playing The Sims on the computer as well. And if he wants to spend his "him" time playing a video game (something HE wants to do on HIS time), then so what?

lyse2143 · June 2011

Wow. Gotta love people that post bs and then don't come back to engage in the conversation. Ladies if you are going to post such a strong/controversial opinion, stick around and debate it.

To the weight issue. I do not agree with what Ella said but I think if we all say that obese or overweight people who are unhealthy are not at fault for their situations in some way, shape, or form, we're kidding ourselves. There may be many, many factors, but at least one of those is lack of exercise and poor food choices. Let's be real here. You don't get to be 100-200 lbs over your ideal weight by eating relatively healthy and exercising. So yes, I do believe laziness goes into SOME of the equation but not all.

Just going by the BMI scale is stupid IMO. It does not take into account so many types of things such as body frame, build, etc.

valzee · June 2011

armybride86:
Leahanna21:
My UO: I think grown men who play COD and other games like that are annoying ! I say this because my own SO does and it irritates me to no end. It's like really how old are you?
Sad thing is - we actually have fights about me getting mad when he wants to play his game. I mean I understand he need some 'him' time but to play a video game? come on.

I don't mind this at all. Infact, me and DH play COD and other video games together sometimes! It's a change of pace other than watching a movie, t.v., or playing board games together. I also enjoy playing The Sims on the computer as well. And if he wants to spend his "him" time playing a video game (something HE wants to do on HIS time), then so what?

I agree! DH and I spend many nights wasting away the hours playing Rock Band - especially in the summer when all the shows are on hiatus. As it turns out, LO does not like Pantera. lol Then when I inevitably fall asleep on the couch he plays something else by himself for a few hours until it's time for bed. Doesn't bother me a bit -- there are far, far worse hobbies he could have!

laurynfaerie · June 2011

womancake:
laurynfaerie:

I actually have an unpopular opinion of my own today!

I am really bad with money. Like I couldn't afford to live on my own even if I had a job, because I am completely incapable of saving/budgeting. I try, but I always seem to screw it up.

So once I start working again, I fully intend to hand my paycheck over to FI, and let him decide how much we can afford for me to play with. The plan is I will give him the money, and then he will put the amount needed to pay the bills that we do online in my account.

I never thought I would do something like that, because it bugs the crap out of me that my grandmother does. But I feel like it's the best option to make sure we don't end up living in a cardboard box somewhere.

I don't see anything wrong with that! You're not degrading yourself as a woman--you're just recognizing your own weaknesses and doing what's best for you and FI. It takes a lot of pride-swallowing to be able to admit that you can't do it on your own, and I think you're being very wise.

And there is hope--I was at one point on the verge of bankruptcy because of all the mistakes I had made with money, but over time I got much better with it. Bad habits can take a really long time to unlearn--don't be too hard on yourself!

You always make me feel good about things

womancake · June 2011

laurynfaerie:
womancake:
laurynfaerie:

I actually have an unpopular opinion of my own today!

I am really bad with money. Like I couldn't afford to live on my own even if I had a job, because I am completely incapable of saving/budgeting. I try, but I always seem to screw it up.

So once I start working again, I fully intend to hand my paycheck over to FI, and let him decide how much we can afford for me to play with. The plan is I will give him the money, and then he will put the amount needed to pay the bills that we do online in my account.

I never thought I would do something like that, because it bugs the crap out of me that my grandmother does. But I feel like it's the best option to make sure we don't end up living in a cardboard box somewhere.

I don't see anything wrong with that! You're not degrading yourself as a woman--you're just recognizing your own weaknesses and doing what's best for you and FI. It takes a lot of pride-swallowing to be able to admit that you can't do it on your own, and I think you're being very wise.

And there is hope--I was at one point on the verge of bankruptcy because of all the mistakes I had made with money, but over time I got much better with it. Bad habits can take a really long time to unlearn--don't be too hard on yourself!

You always make me feel good about things

Aww...that comment made my day! Glad to be of service. Smile

SpaceGirlSpiff · June 2011

BlueEyedBoyMeetsABrownEyedGirl:
Katywren:
LaComtesse:
Mrs.K23:
LaComtesse:

Dear god I hope you're right. Have you ever visited the midwest? It's almost like ignorance and intolerance are celebrated.

On this note, a little unpopular fuel to the fire. Love this article: https://www.good.is/post/liberal-brains-bigger-in-areas-of-complexity-conservative-brains-bigger-in-areas-of-fear/

Speaking of gross generalizations As someone who could be classified as a fiscal conservative and social moderate (fine with same sex marriages), I think I have a pretty good ability to weigh complex ideas/situations.

This, times a million...

kcon1225 · June 2011

I'm tired of parents who think its the "teachers" responsibility to teach their kids everything. I had a parent tell me it's my job to teach their kid how to read and they shouldn't have to do anything at home. Hello! I can only do so much everyday. Plus I'm trying to teach your kids manners because saying "I have to use it" is not the correct way to ask to go to the restroom.

Azrayla · June 2011

laurynfaerie:
I actually have an unpopular opinion of my own today!

I am really bad with money. Like I couldn't afford to live on my own even if I had a job, because I am completely incapable of saving/budgeting. I try, but I always seem to screw it up.

So once I start working again, I fully intend to hand my paycheck over to FI, and let him decide how much we can afford for me to play with. The plan is I will give him the money, and then he will put the amount needed to pay the bills that we do online in my account.

I never thought I would do something like that, because it bugs the crap out of me that my grandmother does. But I feel like it's the best option to make sure we don't end up living in a cardboard box somewhere.

DH does this. Im a SAHM now but both his paychecks I have control over. When we got together we kept things seperate but when bills that should have been paid weren't and there was no reason for it aside from him blowing money it was enough. When I was pregnant with DD I broke down and told him when we got a letter saying our power was going to be turned off he had to make a choice. The money or us.

He agreed to give me full power and I gave him a weekly allowance.. it worked for us. Of course we could always splurge now and again and were in a really good financial place because of it.. some things have come up and because im obsessed with saving we could afford them etc..

There is nothing wrong with it. If it works for you and your FI it works and you're okay with it. DH has gotten made fun of by friends who find out they tell him he's not a man etc crap like that but that's not it at all. He's being responsible. He knows he cant be trusted. We recently spoke of just having one bank account instead of the two.and he said that wasnt a good idea. Go you!

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